1, sexual health problems
Survey: unmarried women's "sexual health"
This is sheer nonsense. All men and women who live a life know that the so-called "sexual health" actually has only one standard: can I guarantee that my sex is beautiful and happy? This standard is definitely different from person to person, definitely adapted to local conditions, and definitely changed from time to time. If we have to work out a "universal, timely and accurate" framework, then we don't need these so-called sexologists now. We can read the Bible or the Analects of Confucius.
Besides, am I "sexually healthy"? What's the use of just staring at me? I need to see what my sexual partner is like. Extreme: If my wife is absolutely "frigid", then my impotence is health. On the other hand, if my husband abstains from sex, then I think it is sick to have sex. If we talk about "sexual health" instead of "relationship" and define it as "own" or "own", it is completely a word game or something else.
Also, sex is only a part of life, not the whole thing. For the more valuable aspects of life, each of us often has to pay some price and have to choose what to sacrifice. Sex can't escape this "bad luck". Extremely speaking, in order to pursue the "sexual health" imposed on us by others, can we damage or even lose what we cherish most? Therefore, if you don't put sexual health in the overall situation of life, it can only be nonsense.
So, why do these so-called international sexologists go against common sense? In a word, it is because they don't understand how sexology developed to this day, and they don't know anything except biology. In essence, that's because they actually want to impose their values on the world with abundant financial resources.
Fortunately, we China people are used to suffering hardships, so we can live more clearly. Because our survey results can prove all the analysis I have done before.
Sexual health varies from person to person.
In terms of age, the older men are, the lower their scores are. Men aged 20-24 scored 57.9 points, while men aged 55-59 scored only 4 1.7 points, with a difference of 1.7 points. But among women, the situation is different: women aged 40-44 scored the highest. Regardless of age, the score will be lower, and the difference can be as much as 17 points.
This situation reminds us of at least three things:
First of all, from the perspective of publicity and education, men's "sexual health" must be divided by age, and the old people must never be covered by the standards of young people, and the "decline" of old men must never be regarded as unhealthy. Otherwise, it is tantamount to encouraging old men to show off their talents. What are the benefits?
Secondly, academically speaking, the older men are, the less healthy they are. If we insist on artificially defining a framework of "sexual health" according to the appearance of young people, it is equivalent to discovering a "nonsense truth." -If people get healthier with age, will they still die?
Thirdly, we still can't classify "sexual health" according to age, because women and men are completely different. If the middle-aged women's "yin sheng" phenomenon is taken as the standard, it shows that the younger the women, the less healthy they are. If the performance of young people is regarded as "sexual health", then middle-aged women can only be "deviant" or even "abnormal".
The above is only about age and gender. In fact, there are many similar situations. For example, among men, according to the classification of large, medium and small cities and rural areas, residents of county towns scored the highest. However, among women, according to their education level, the highest scores are those who have never attended school. Therefore, no matter what kind of person's situation is defined as "sexual health", we will face embarrassment: the "unhealthy" of others is indeed absurd and contrary to common sense.
Sexual health in "relationship"
Our survey shows that the score of a husband or wife depends on the performance of the other partner.
In China, we have a "couple system", and we are still strengthening it. Therefore, both men and women who have had sex outside marriage have lower scores than those who have not. Among men, the former is 8.5 points lower than the latter; For women, the score is as low as 18. If a woman has ever had sex with another man in order to get money or benefits, her score will be 25 points lower than that of a woman without such a thing, almost half lower.
Even if the charm of both sides is well matched, it will affect the level of their respective scores. Among men, whether they are more attractive or their wives are more attractive, the greater the gap, the higher the score for men. Both sides are similar, but the score is the lowest. For women, the situation is just the opposite: the more similar the two sides are, the higher the score of the wife; The bigger the gap between the two sides, the lower the wife's score. Faced with this fact, if we still only "consult" and "coach" one person (male or female), especially if we still only "see a doctor", can we still talk about science?
Sexual health is a part of life.
If the wife's social activities (including playing cards with neighbors) exceed her husband's, the more she does, the lower her husband's score will be, with a difference of nearly 22 points at most. But the wife is different. Only when she and her husband are socially similar, she gets the highest score.
Only when both husband and wife spend almost the same time doing housework, the husband gets the highest score; No matter how much or how little you do, your score will drop. No matter who does more, wives get the same score.
In daily life, the more considerate a wife or husband is, the higher his score will be. The difference between husbands can be as high as 19; On the wife, the difference can be 1 1 minute.
Men and women, if they love each other more than themselves, then their scores are low. Only when the love of both sides is similar can we get the highest score. Similarly, no matter who is more jealous, the score will be reduced, and only when both sides are not jealous can they get the highest score.
If the husband and wife have ever fought, especially the two sides have fought, then the husband's score will be reduced by 14, and the wife will be reduced by 1 1. If you have fought in the last year, especially with each other, your husband will lose 24 points and your wife will lose 1 1 points.
In other words, "sexual health" is not a so-called "physiological phenomenon" for men and women, but is greatly influenced by other aspects of life. On the contrary, "Kung Fu is beyond sex" is the true meaning of "sexual health care".
After reading this article, will you eat anything "tonic"?
2. Skills of harmonious coexistence
( 1)
Pay attention to communication
Communication allows you to better understand each other's expectation of sharing a room, which is conducive to being more targeted in the next sexual life and to harmonious sharing a room. Most men behave like ascetics in bed. Although they try their best to please their wives sincerely, it doesn't mean they are really that cool.
So, say your wishes appropriately, for example, you want your wife to take care of a certain part of you, as long as it is reasonable, I believe you can communicate. So do women.
(2) Sensitive parts
Foreplay is more important to women than any sexual skill, because foreplay is likely to affect the quality of sexual life. The quality of foreplay is related to women's sexual experience in sexual life. Men can stimulate the skin around sensitive parts of women in the first five minutes of foreplay, such as the root of thighs.
(3) Sharing time
Maybe when you get home, you will complain that the busy work makes you work overtime and have no time to be in the same room with your partner. You might as well arrange some roommates. After getting married and having children, more time is occupied by work, children and public places of entertainment.
Obviously, just because couples spend less time together doesn't mean that sharing a room should be reduced. No, even so, couples should make full use of their time and never let go of any roommate who is not in bed.
(4) blindfolded sexual intercourse
Blindfold sex definitely makes your body's sex hormone secretion reach the highest point instantly, and many netizens have reflected it after trying it. Many couples say that blindfolding is more exciting than closing your eyes. When sleeping in the same room with your eyes closed, the initiative lies with the other party, and you need to identify the direction by touching or hearing.
When the eyes are blindfolded, the mysterious experience is exciting and exciting! Because we turn a blind eye, other sensory perceptions become acute, and ordinary affairs will create unprecedented surprises and form the best room stimulation. You can exchange goggles with each other and experience the pleasure of completely controlling each other's bodies and being controlled.