Adolescence is the only way for everyone to grow up, and in this process, psychological changes also develop with the passage of time. The following are the methods of self-regulation of teenagers' ambivalence. Welcome to read.
Self-adjustment methods of teenagers' ambivalence. Cultivate a positive and optimistic attitude towards life.
Maintaining a positive and optimistic attitude towards life is helpful to overcome difficulties, face reality bravely, learn from setbacks, work hard, be full of hope for the future, and gradually form positive emotions.
In addition, learn to comfort yourself. When there is a negative mentality, we should find out all kinds of reasons in time and make excuses for our actions. Only in this way can we achieve psychological balance, make our spirit more stable and relieve bad emotions.
In adolescence, when you encounter troubles or disappointments, you must comfort yourself and get rid of negative emotions in time.
2. Choose the right way to vent bad emotions.
In adolescence, many teenagers need to face all kinds of pressures, such as study pressure, criticism from parents and teachers, interpersonal relationship with classmates, and ambiguity about the second sex, which make many teenagers dislike telling others.
Try to talk to your relatives, friends or family about your sadness and distress, which can eliminate psychological depression, irritability and anxiety, keep your mind in a balanced state and be beneficial to your mental health.
3. Strive to improve your self-cultivation and cognition.
People who lack self-cultivation and low cultural quality have poor willpower and are not easy to control themselves.
People with high cognitive level will control their emotions and have strong self-regulation ability.
Teenagers should strive to improve their self-cultivation and cognitive level and face everything with a positive and optimistic attitude.
4. Control some things rationally.
Some wishes and demands of teenagers must conform to social norms and morality, dispel bad thoughts in time with reason, and get what they want through their own efforts and struggles, so as to gain respect from others, maintain psychological balance and make their emotions healthier.
To maintain appropriate enthusiasm and nervousness, nervousness is actually an emotion, which can improve learning efficiency.
But we should also grasp the degree, relax and master the rhythm of study and life.
Parents should communicate with their children more, teach by example is more important than words, learn more about the laws of children's physical and mental development, and achieve correct education.
You can't just make decisions for your child, otherwise it will affect your child's independent development and cause rebellion.
Provide children with a harmonious family scope and realize mutual respect and help.
Self-regulation methods of adolescent ambivalence II. Methods of adolescent mental health education;
First, face up to psychological problems and shape students' sound personality.
Sound personality is an essential quality for students to go to society, and the shaping of sound personality must follow the law of students' physical and mental development. Senior high school students are in the awakening and development period of "self-consciousness" and "independent consciousness". When they grow up, there are still many immature places, and they must rely on the guidance and help of teachers. It is necessary to change "external plastic" into "internal plastic", master students' hobbies, enrich students' lives, and make students full of confidence in their study and future. Teach students to learn self-evaluation, self-regulation and self-control from the aspects of modern consciousness, self-cognition, basic moral norms and codes of conduct, so as to form their own relatively stable personality characteristics and achieve the goal of constantly improving personality shaping.
Second, give psychological guidance to adolescent students and teach them the methods of psychological adjustment.
High school students entering adolescence, with the maturity of physical development, will inevitably have curiosity about the opposite sex and look for love. They are inexperienced in life, impulsive, lack of self-control, and easily fall into the quagmire of puppy love. In order to guide students to correctly understand the harm of puppy love and successfully spend adolescence, psychological counseling is needed for students. Chatting is one of the effective ways to deal with students' psychological emotions. If teachers can skillfully grasp the opportunity, take the knowledge of adolescence and sexual psychology as the guide, and analyze it layer by layer, it will go deep into students' hearts and enlighten them. In addition, there are sensitive and important issues such as "idolization phenomenon" such as "super girl" and "pursuing high consumption" such as wearing brand-name clothes. If teachers can use relevant psychological knowledge for educational guidance, their persuasiveness is far better than empty preaching.
Our school has brought adolescent education into the scope of students' ideological and moral education, and regularly provides adolescent education to students, including modern youth outlook, adolescent physiological and psychological knowledge, watching adolescent knowledge videos, questionnaire design, distribution and analysis. With what kind of outlook on life as the theme, organize students to discuss and discuss in various forms, guide students to draw a clear line between pure friendship, sincere love and puppy love, recognize the scientific outlook on life, set up lofty ideals and aspirations, educate students to cherish the good times of adolescence, concentrate on their studies, let students know themselves, and achieve self-love, self-respect, self-respect and self-improvement, with certain self-control ability.
Third, build an overpass to pour out one's feelings and carry out psychological consultation.
People's psychological activities have their hidden side, and students hope to solve some hidden psychological problems through counseling, especially individual counseling. In order to eliminate students' prejudice and misunderstanding about mental illness, such as mystery, fear and shame, we always adhere to the principle of confidentiality in consulting work, starting with prevention. Teachers use the opportunity of individual talk and individual education to guide some students with psychological problems and obstacles according to the actual situation of students, and strengthen individual education for students. For example, students who are introverted and unsociable can combine relevant social psychology knowledge to carry out social communication and social adaptation education; For those so-called "hopeless" students, guide them to exercise their will quality; For students with poor academic performance, we should not only educate them for the purpose of learning, but also teach them scientific methods of observation, memory and thinking, so that they can improve their learning methods and make greater progress; Students' emotional, personality and interpersonal defects caused by mental health problems should be eliminated in various ways to avoid unnecessary harm and consequences. When conducting individual education and psychological counseling, the tone should be mild, the attitude should be sincere, and the appropriate place should be chosen for conversation. This will help students better adapt to society and know themselves, improve themselves, and promote students' self-awareness of self-psychological health care and self-psychological support system.
Fourth, establish new health files and psychological files.
After freshmen enter the school, the school conducts physical examination for students every year, and establishes a health card for each student to understand and master the physical development of students. Physical education class regularly tests students' health. The school has formulated the standard grading standard of the exercises between classes, designed the list of the exercises between classes, and assessed the quality of the exercises between classes from three aspects: fast, quiet and tidy. In this way, the quality of recess exercise is improved, and students who are growing and developing in adolescence get exercise, which is more conducive to their health.
Teachers can use observation, experiment, scale measurement and other methods to understand and master the characteristics and level of each student's psychological development and establish each student's psychological file. For example, students' psychological characteristics such as intelligence development level, personality characteristics and temperament types can be measured by psychological scale; We can also understand the psychological development of students' psychological process, emotional will, self-awareness and social communication ability through observation and experiment. You can also understand the typical psychology of students through their manners, notes, articles and behavior. Then teachers can establish psychological files in the form of cards for future management, education and teaching activities.
Through the above work, we can better understand the psychological and physiological state of students. It can not only take care of students' age characteristics, but also take into account each student's personality characteristics, and make a systematic and dynamic observation of their psychological changes and development process, so as to truly teach students in accordance with their aptitude, aim at the right medicine.
Methods of self-regulation of adolescent ambivalence 3 What causes adolescent rebellious psychology?
1, influenced by school education
Some teachers treat students unfairly in the process of education and teaching, which will lead to retrograde psychology.
Students' status in class groups will also affect children's psychology. In order to make friends or get a position in the class, some children try to attract everyone's attention by various means, even at the expense of doing something contrary to normal.
2. Affected by the psychological characteristics of adolescence.
After girls enter adolescence, a strong sense of adulthood and independence becomes their important psychological tendency.
They hope to be respected as adults, long for independence, and tend to be rebellious towards the education of their parents and teachers.
3. Influenced by family rearing patterns.
Incorrect or inappropriate educational methods used by parents when children are young.
When these children grow up, they will have antipathy and resistance to their parents' educational methods. In addition, the discord between parents is also an important reason for children's rebellious psychology.
Rebellious psychology is unhealthy psychology, which is not conducive to the growth of middle school students.
Family, school and society all have the responsibility to educate and guide students with rebellious psychology, so that they can transform scientifically.
Parents need to know the psychological characteristics of their children during adolescence. Adolescence is a period of rapid physiological changes.
Because of the rapid physiological development at this stage, they think they have grown up, and their sense of adulthood makes them have a strong sense of independence. They want to get rid of the fetters of others and hope to get the respect and understanding of adults.
Give them independent decision-making power. In fact, because of their psychological immaturity, they still hope to get spiritual understanding, support and protection from adults when facing many complicated contradictions and puzzles.
If the parent-child relationship is not good at this time, when they encounter a lot of troubles and confusion, they can't talk to their parents, so they feel lonely and can only communicate with friends of the same age.
Therefore, in the face of adolescent children, adult educators should adjust their educational methods in time, truly understand, respect, appreciate and trust their children, and give them an appropriate space for free growth, so as to solve their rebellious psychological problems.
There are also certain incentives for the rebellious psychology of girls, which are caused by certain factors. Therefore, we must first have a clear understanding of this problem, and we must know what its causes are before we know what methods should be used to improve this phenomenon. So, now you have a clear understanding!