If children don't fall in love with school, parents will instinctively wake up and look for problems in the external environment: is the teaching method of the school too rigid? Teacher's misconduct? Children are bullied at school? ..... Of course, these may be the reasons. However, if the child's performance is too different from that of other students, then parents should be alert to whether there is a problem with the child's mental health.
Signal 2: addicted to the internet and games
Nowadays, we can't live without the Internet almost all the time. However, if children are too addicted to the virtual world, or even give up their future studies and interpersonal relationships, they may not only be unable to control themselves, but will have psychological problems.
Signal 3: Procrastination
If children only procrastinate occasionally, it may just be because they are lazy. However, if everything is procrastination-control and guidance are ineffective, then what parents should do is not how to "educate", but how to solve their children's psychological problems in a scientific way.
Signal 4: Don't go out.
Teenagers are lively by nature, love outdoor activities and enjoy all kinds of fun. If they don't like going out for a long time, they are likely to have psychological problems.
Signal 5: Don't associate with people.
There is a difference between introversion and not interacting with people. Although introverted children don't like to express themselves actively, they will express their interest in people through their eyes and body language. They don't want to be the center of the crowd, but they like to stay among friends. Parents should be very vigilant if their children don't associate with others and even their good friends become increasingly alienated.
Signal 6: Don't like the teacher.
Similar to the first signal, parents should look for children as well as teachers. If the child has always had no opinion of the teacher before, and suddenly begins to hate the school and the teacher, it may be a signal that he hates the world.
Signal 7: puppy love
It is human nature that boys and girls have a good impression on each other. Children with mental health can handle the relationship between liking the opposite sex and study and life. Parents at school can handle this relationship more easily by taking a relaxed attitude. However, if children think that "love" is everything, without love, the whole world is gone, which is probably caused by a lack of security.
Signal 8: Smash something.
Violence is a manifestation of psychological problems. If children are asked to draw a picture, make a video or create a piece of music at this moment, it is likely to present a shocking work. Many children will shut themselves in the house, throwing and smashing things desperately, and muttering to themselves at the same time. At this time, children often have a lot of emotions to vent psychologically.
Signal 9: Attacking others (violence)
Smashing things is to vent their anger on things, and attacking others is to vent their anger on people, all of which are violent acts. Especially for adolescent children who are already sensible, violence is not only caused by personality, but also a psychological problem.
Signal 10: exam syndrome
Examination syndrome refers to the mental illness that patients have poor psychological quality and fear when facing the examination situation, accompanied by various uncomfortable physical and mental symptoms, which leads to failure in the examination and can also form a vicious circle.
Signal eleven: irregular sleep
Many children are not interested in anything, just like sleeping in bed, day and night. Other children don't sleep, or the quality of sleep is not good, which will lead to their listlessness during the day. Sleeping has also become an excuse for psychological problems, or a way of sustenance.
Signal 12: There is something wrong with the diet.
Many parents often regard their children's anorexia as a picky eater and gluttony as a hobby. In fact, they can't help but dislike eating and can't stop eating, which is a reflection of children's psychological problems.
What should I do if the above problems occur?
1. Understand the child's psychological state with friends and classmates recently, and whether something happened that caused the child to have abnormal emotional reactions.
2. Actively communicate with children, understand their inner state, encourage children to express their inner feelings, and ask whether children need the help of parents and teachers.
3. If children show resistance, they should also respect their wishes. You can also communicate with professional psychological teachers and seek help from psychological teachers and schools.
4. If the child has psychological problems, parents should accept it rationally: "The child is really sick!" Like a physical illness, it needs active treatment and actively helps children seek the help of professional doctors.
For underage children, it is best to be accompanied by parents to understand the progress of the child's illness, the effect of medication and psychotherapy, and adjust the treatment plan in time according to the illness.