Practical love
Teacher Yin, a counselor of Zhejiang Forestry University, once found a reprinted article "You should marry such a girl" in students' QQ space. Later, she found this xiaowen with a high reprint rate on the campus network where college students gathered.
"In fact, students now have scales in their hearts. They will think about what kind of boys and girls are suitable to be their partners, and they will also think of some problems in their feelings from the gossip of stars and the stories of friends. Although the impulse exists objectively, it does think a lot. " Teacher Yin said that a large number of short articles and article replies, such as "30 things to pay attention to in love" and "20 pieces of advice from a mother to her daughter" reprinted in the student space and diary, gave her considerable shock.
An important reason why "love" has been banned by many universities for a long time is that students are irrational and prone to accidents.
On the BBS forums of more than ten universities in Beijing, we can see that "Love" pages are almost all popular pages and often occupy a place in the "Top Ten Hot Posts" every day. Among these posts, apart from life is sweet's "showing off posts" about two people and "resentment posts" caused by emotional problems, the most are various consultation posts.
"What should I do?" "Whose fault is it?" "Is there a gift that can make MM feel broken on Valentine's Day?" "I'm going to BF's house. What is more suitable for his parents? " Similar posts abound in forums where college students gather.
"They are confused, but there may be some questions they are ashamed to talk about in real life, and the anonymity of the network gives them a sense of security, or they can get more answers from the network, so they choose to post, but we can't deny that this is a way of learning for them, and they are eager to guide and solve it." As a counselor, Teacher Yin is very concerned about such posts.
Love lesson: learn how to run a love.
He Laoshi of Peking University Mental Health Education and Counseling Center attributed the popularity of online love counseling posts to the characteristics of students' adolescence and love itself.
"It's not that the school lacks love education and guidance courses, but that love itself is a relatively private matter for students, and individual counseling is more helpful to them." He Laoshi introduced that since 2007, Peking University Mental Health and Counseling Center has been planning a "Love Workshop".
"Love Workshop" is divided into "Love Acquaintance Workshop" and "Love Growth Workshop", and single students and couples are invited to participate respectively. Under the guidance of the mental health center teacher, the workshop is organized by the students themselves. Through some scene design and role-playing, let students know their love views and gender differences, learn how to communicate with others and establish a trust relationship.
"The love class we are talking about is not to organize a traditional class, but to let students learn how to manage a love in various ways and guide them to correctly handle various relationships related to love." He Laoshi believes that for many college students, "love" is a sensitive and private word, and many people don't want to let too many people know when they are in trouble or confused. Therefore, individual consultation and anonymous consultation on the Internet are a good way to dispel doubts.
"Heaven and earth for two, there will be a full moon in Lang Lang tomorrow, China grass in spring and snow in winter in Qiu Chan, and there will be storms. There are 100 people, there are 100 kinds of love, and love needs to grow. " The word "growth" of love is particularly highlighted in the propaganda language of "Love Workshop". No matter how many times you can draw love eggs, no matter whether love can become homework or not, there is no objection to the word "growth" in campus love.