1, setting an example is more important than strict teaching. A child's psychological endurance is manifested in his adaptation and acceptance of the image of family members (mainly parents) in a family atmosphere. The role played by parents in family life directly affects the child's mental health. Therefore, parents should always be aware that a pair of innocent eyes are watching them and set an example everywhere in life and work. When children are asked to do something, they should do it first, demonstrate more and preach less.
2. Have a democratic behavior. As parents, we should respect children's independent personality and be democratic and amiable, which will have a very beneficial and far-reaching impact on children's healthy physical and mental growth. In family life, parents regard their children as elders, teachers and friends, and should not bring "social roles" into their homes. We should learn to understand and respect children, and only from the perspective of children can we discover their inner world. Never follow parents' own subjective wishes and encourage them to do whatever they want. When there are contradictions and differences in the family, don't be impatient and rude, treat each other as coldly as possible, and simplify complex problems.
3. Harmonious family atmosphere Mutual respect, understanding, trust and care among family members are the basic conditions for managing families and educating children. The key to family harmony is the husband and wife at the core. Therefore, for the sake of family happiness and children's success, it is necessary for responsible parents to seriously study the special art and domestic science of being a spouse.
4. Optimistic spirit and noble aesthetic taste Parents' optimistic, calm and happy emotions can have great attraction to children. Parents should consciously restrain troubles, sadness and melancholy from all sides, control their bad personality, and let their children feel the warmth of the family with optimistic spiritual charm. In addition, the material environment and psychological atmosphere in the family should also fully consider the influence of their education. Now some parents attach great importance to home furnishings, clothing, eating, drinking and entertainment, but are indifferent to their children's intellectual input, study and rest, and physical and mental health. This is absolutely unacceptable, and no parent should underestimate this "subtle" power.
Second, what is the standard of children's mental health?
1, be careful not to care too much about children. It is easy for children to be too self-centered and think that everyone should respect him, and as a result, they become arrogant people.
2. Don't bribe children. Let children know the relationship between rights and obligations from an early age, and they cannot enjoy rights without fulfilling their obligations.
3. Don't get too close to children. Children should be encouraged to live, study and play with their peers, so as to learn how to get along with others.
4. Don't force children to do something incompetent. Most of children's self-confidence comes from the success of doing things. Forcing them to do things they can't do will only hurt their self-confidence.
5, don't be too strict with children, ask too much or even snore. This will make children feel inferior, timid, escape and other unhealthy psychology, or lead to abnormal behaviors such as resistance, cruelty and running away from home.
6. Don't cheat and frighten children unnecessarily. Scaring children will lose the authority of parents in their children's minds, and children will not listen to all warnings in the future.
7. Don't criticize or laugh at children in front of your friends. This will cause children to hold grudges and be shy, which will greatly damage their self-esteem.
8. Don't praise children too much. Children get achievements in doing things, but only a little praise. Excessive praise will make children feel complacent and vain.
9. Don't be moody with children. This will make children sensitive, suspicious, emotionally unstable and timid.
10, help the child analyze his environment. Help children solve difficulties, not replace them. Children should be taught to analyze and solve problems. Of course, in order to cultivate children's mental health, we should not only give them a good education, but every parent should set a good example for them.
3. What are the mental health problems of children?
1. General questions. Such as stuttering, wetting the bed, playing truant, not eating, lying, being active, etc.
2. The problem of particularity. Such as autism, maladjustment, epilepsy and childhood schizophrenia.
3. Children's diseases. Children with autism, for example, have no contact with people in their eyes, words and deeds, and often live in their own world with extremely bad temper. At the same time, they will stubbornly love to listen to a melody or a toy, and even have clever actions and ideas.
In daily life, he is more interested in things than people, and sometimes even plays with people's limbs as objects; When playing, there are often some repetitive and rhythmic movements; I am quite persistent about what I like. Children who are hyperactive tend to fidget, run around all day, climb up and down, talk a lot and gesture a lot. Parents or teachers often hate such children very much. They sometimes think that these children are deliberately making trouble. Generally speaking, these children are characterized by difficulty in concentration, poor muscle coordination, lack of inhibition, low tolerance for setbacks, emotional instability, easy to get angry and over-sensitivity. There may be three reasons for children's hyperactivity: first, family pressure is too great, second, slight brain injury, and third, children are naturally active.
4. phobia. Children's fear of ghosts and unknown objects seems to be commonplace, but if this fear continues, it will affect their normal life. There are three reasons for phobia. One is the terrible experience of the past-such as sudden loud noise, threats from friends or brothers, etc. Second, fear may be a substitute for anxiety; The third is social learning.
5. Childhood depression. The typical manifestation of depression is that when happy things happen, patients still don't respond positively. In addition to emotional reactions, atypical depression also needs to include other manifestations, such as increased appetite, weight gain, increased sleep, and slowness. For example, typical depression shows general insomnia, while atypical depression shows the opposite. These children sleep longer than ordinary children.
4. What are the influences of family factors on children's personality?
1, parenting style:
(1) If parents are more democratic, children will be independent, bold, smart, good at interacting with people and have the ability to analyze and think;
(2) Parents are too strict and often beat and scold, while children are stubborn, heartless, stubborn or lack self-confidence and self-esteem;
(3) Parents spoil their children too much, and children will be willful, lack independence, unstable and proud;
(4) Parents protect their children too much, and children will be passive, dependent, silent and lack social skills;
(5) If parents have different opinions on parenting, children will be alert, please both sides, lie easily and be opportunistic;
(6) Parents raise children, and children are obedient, dependent and lack independence.
2. Family atmosphere: A family atmosphere that is generally harmonious, mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual support in career and life has a positive impact on children's personality. On the contrary, the quarrel, alienation, suspicion and even relationship breakdown between parents (parents divorced or parents died) have a high crime rate among teenagers.
3. Family structure: Studies have shown that children of two generations of families are better than children of three generations of families in terms of curiosity, persistence, partner prestige, interpersonal relationship and work attitude. This is mainly related to factors such as grandparents' doting on their children in three generations of families.
4. Children's status in the family: In the society where only children are common in China at present, if we don't pay attention to the conscious cultivation and education of only children, it is easy for them to form bad characters such as willfulness, indifference and selfishness.