In interpersonal communication, you will find such a strange phenomenon: fewer and fewer people don't like us, and we will hate these people more and more; On the contrary, people who like us more and more will like them more and more. In fact, this is the principle of synchronous change in interpersonal communication, also known as the principle of increasing or decreasing the level of interpersonal attraction. Psychologically speaking, our liking for others depends not only on how much others like us, but also on the degree and nature of their liking for us.
2. The principle of self-worth protection
A large number of psychological studies have proved that in real interpersonal communication, there is a tendency of self-support in all aspects of people's psychological activities to prevent self-worth from being denied? This tendency is reflected in interpersonal communication and forms the principle of self-value protection. Therefore, in real communication life, we should fully understand this point in order to get along better.
3. The principle of good faith
Since ancient times, people have been asked to pay attention to honesty in communication. From the perspective of interpersonal communication, "honesty" is the basis of interpersonal communication, and honesty has always been respected by people. From the perspective of reciprocity in communication, being sincere to others will win the sincere treatment of others. And sophisticated and cunning people will never make good bosom friends. Therefore, when you get along with others, you must not make promises easily. Once you make some promises to others, you must earnestly carry them out. If you don't keep your word, you will easily fall apart from others.
4. The principle of equality
Normal communication between people is an equal heart-to-heart communication process. Therefore, in communication, in order to achieve equality of personality and mutual benefit, both sides need to treat each other equally and cannot be overbearing. Otherwise, normal communication is impossible.
5. The principle of distance beauty
A certain distance must be kept between people. Even very close people, if they get too close, will easily lose themselves and sad things will happen. Keeping a distance will protect the fragile heart under the hard shell from harm. Everyone needs to have their own living space, including both material and spiritual aspects.
6. Be lenient with others.
Tolerance has always been a virtue advocated by people in communication. He asked people to be strict with themselves and be lenient with others in their communication. Only by being strict with yourself and being lenient with others can we win the respect of others and make communication smoother.
Psychologically speaking, interpersonal relationship is essentially interpersonal psychological relationship, and everyone needs to keep a certain psychological distance. Therefore, if people are too close in communication, it will cause the other person's insecurity, thus affecting the relationship between the two sides. Therefore, people must abide by the principle that distance produces beauty in communication.
7. Beware of arrogance and keep a low profile.
Pride can be said to be an obstacle to normal communication between people. Pride will cause friends to leave you. Therefore, we should be good at avoiding arrogance in interpersonal communication. Even if one day you have a successful career and a higher status than your friends, you can't put on a great and cocky posture, otherwise you will easily stumble in your communication.
8. Modesty principle
Modesty has been the basic requirement of people's study since ancient times. In fact, in interpersonal communication, we also need to listen to the advice of people around us with an open mind and not be afraid of medical treatment. At the same time, in communication, we can also give reasonable suggestions to people around us on the premise of fully respecting each other.
9. The principle of interaction
The ancients said: "Those who love others will always love others;" People who respect others will always respect others. "In interpersonal communication. Intimacy and alienation, like and hate are mutual. A large number of studies have found that. In the process of interpersonal communication, we must first follow the principle of interaction. In real life, there is almost no love, recognition and support for others. Generally speaking, people will like them only if they like themselves; On the contrary, people who alienate and hate themselves will alienate and hate themselves.
10. Maintenance principle
In daily life, it is not easy to keep in touch with everyone in your network, but if you don't pay attention to maintaining the relationship at ordinary times and just attack your friend suddenly when you encounter problems, your friend will think that you are using him and feel very uncomfortable. Therefore, no one likes to "don't burn incense at ordinary times, but hurry to give lessons to Buddha's feet." This requires us to learn to maintain our feelings with friends in our daily life and keep in touch with them more. An effective way is to use your schedule creatively and write down those days that are particularly important to your relationship, such as birthdays or anniversary celebrations. Call them, or at least send them a card to let them know that you are thinking of them.
1 1. Utilitarianism principle
In addition to the principle of interaction, people also need to grasp the principle of utility in interpersonal communication in daily life. The utility here includes money, property and services, but it also includes emotion and respect. It can also be so smooth. Everyone hopes that communication is worthwhile, for example, they hope to get care, support, help and emotional support in interpersonal communication. We tend to establish and maintain interpersonal relationships that are valuable to us or gain more than lose.