First, from primary school to middle school, what changes will there be in psychology?
1 Self-awareness: I have my own ideas and don't want to be at the mercy of adults.
A junior high school student carried a T-shirt on his shoulder, turned it over and folded it at the sleeve. Mother told him a simple folding method-starting from the hem. The student used to obey his parents, but now he insists that his method is good. Mom explained that her folding method produced fewer wrinkles. He immediately leaned over and said, it's just that children love to wear discounted shirts. After a while, they quarreled. The student crumpled his shirt, threw it on the floor and walked out the door angrily.
In adolescence, with the increase of knowledge and experience, the acceleration of growth and development, and the awakening of sexual consciousness, their self-awareness, sense of adulthood, independent intention and self-esteem are constantly enhanced. They are eager to know themselves, know themselves, care about their inner world, care about their personality and psychological quality, and psychologically demand to change all dependence on adults in childhood, hoping that others will treat him as an adult, get respect from adults, participate in adult activities and enjoy the same rights as adults. When these needs conflict with social psychological supply and requirements, they often pursue the requirements of self-expression and self-esteem in the conflict, and once they encounter overreaction or interference, they will appear rebellious psychology.
2. The contradiction between competitiveness and emotional fragility and insufficient willpower.
A student is a "gifted student", and his grades have always been among the best in his class, becoming the darling of teachers and family. Stepping into the school gate and entering the house, I heard praise and praise, and got prizes and bonuses. Later, his grades were lost to others several times, and his teachers and parents criticized him. As a result, he collapsed and gave up on himself.
Middle school students are quick-thinking, energetic, competitive and brave, but their self-control ability is not strong and they lack strong willpower. Once encountering setbacks, criticisms or blows in family, school and society, it is easy to produce depression such as pessimism and disappointment.
Full of ideals, pursuing the future is one-sided and subjective, lacking the contradiction of distinguishing right from wrong.
A teenager's family is rich, and his parents want his children to succeed, so they send him to a key school in the city, but the teenager doesn't study hard and his academic performance is always poor. His father taught him, "If you don't study hard, you will be worthless in the future." He retorted, "Who says you are worthless without knowledge? You are not only a pupil, but also a manager, making a lot of money. If you have a diploma, you will be hired! "
In the process of cognitive development, the independence and criticism of young students' thinking have been developed to a certain extent. They are active in thinking and pursue an ideal future. However, due to the lack of social experience and the ability to distinguish truth, goodness and beauty, the cognitive deviation is often large, which inevitably makes people subjective and one-sided, and they like to get into a dead end and stick to their own opinions, resulting in different words and deeds.
Therefore, the most important psychological training for middle school students is to know themselves, improve themselves and adapt to the environment on this basis.
Second, why do you want to know yourself
There is a story in Aesop's Fables: an eagle flew down from a cliff and took a lamb. When the cave bird saw it, it was very envious and wanted to imitate the eagle. He pounced on the ram's back, but his feet were entangled in wool and he could not fly. Later, the shepherd saw it and ran to catch it, cut off the feathers on its wings and gave them to the children. What does the experience of cave birds tell us?
People often use "self-righteousness" to describe people who have no self-knowledge. If you overreach yourself and use your own disadvantages to compete with others' advantages, it will not only be useless, but also lead to misfortune and become a laughing stock. However, not all people have self-knowledge. Junior high school students aged 13 or 14 are the period when the concept of "self" is formed. However, due to the limitation of self-knowledge, they often can't evaluate themselves objectively, and are prone to deviation in self-knowledge and evaluation, and don't know their own advantages and disadvantages. People, like other things in the world, are constantly changing and developing. We should not only constantly update and improve our understanding of ourselves, but also correctly understand ourselves. Only by knowing ourselves correctly can we fully explore our potential and design a more magnificent blueprint for our future.
Third, how to know and improve yourself
1. Look at yourself comprehensively
What do you mean by "comprehensive" here? Let's first look at a story that happened on a bus. Ask the students to read the story and think: Is that beautiful girl beautiful?
Scene 1: One summer noon, I go to work by bus. I'm unlucky. I don't have a seat. There is a beautiful girl sitting in the seat next to me. The elegant sitting posture makes me feel pleasing to the eye and adds a touch of pleasure to the boring trip.
Question 1: Is she beautiful? Why? (Student answers)
Scene 2: Soon, a rural woman with a baby in her arms came and stood beside us. The car jolted badly, and the woman grabbed the handrail in one hand and held the crying baby in the other, shaking her body with the bump of the car. From time to time, I met the girl sitting there, and she said shyly, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry."
Question 2: What would you do if you were her? (Moral infiltration in due course)
Scene 3: I saw her frowning, slapping her clothes in a hurry, dodging her body like a plague and saying, "What bad luck." Stick your head out of the window.
Question 3: Is she beautiful? Why? (Students answer and state reasons)
Question 4: What does this story tell us? (Students discuss 1 ~ 2 minutes and answer)
From this story, we know that judging a person's "beauty" and "ugliness" depends not only on his external image, but also on his internal quality. A person's beauty should be the harmonious unity of external beauty and internal beauty.
However, "no one is perfect without gold", and everyone's external image and internal quality have advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, to fully understand yourself, we should not only see our own advantages, but also see our own shortcomings.
We don't have to be complacent and arrogant because of our advantages; We don't have to worry about shortcomings and be pessimistic and desperate. Because everyone is changing and developing, and their own advantages and disadvantages are not static, we should know ourselves from a developmental perspective and improve ourselves by constantly correcting our own shortcomings.
2. Look at yourself from a developmental perspective.
Students, let's take a look at Xiaogang's diary. If he is your good friend, what do you want to say to him after reading his diary? (Or what is the cause of Xiao Gang's distress? )
When I was in primary school, I often didn't listen carefully, didn't finish my homework seriously, and quarreled with my classmates, so I was a bad boy in the eyes of my classmates. In grade one, I want to start over, because I also want to be a child that everyone loves. So, I corrected some problems, began to listen carefully in class, finished my homework on time, got along well with my classmates and improved my academic performance. I'm so happy!
However, Xiao Yi, my primary school classmate, often tells my current classmates that I didn't behave well in the past, so now my classmates are starting to alienate me again. Can't a person make mistakes before and never get better? Am I really still a bad boy that everyone hates?
We have to tell Xiaogang that every day is new and I am new. Everyone is changing and developing, and their own advantages and disadvantages are not static. We should know ourselves from the perspective of development, see our progress, continue to work hard and improve ourselves by constantly correcting our shortcomings. Therefore, we should have a correct understanding of ourselves and look at ourselves from a developmental perspective.
Accept yourself with a calm mood.
A little boy is an orphan. He feels that he is worthless in this world and no one loves him. He went to the priest to cry out his misfortune. The priest said nothing and gave him a stone to sell in the market, but he couldn't sell it anyway. Some people in the market are curious, just make him an offer, but he won't sell it. Others think this stone is a gem, so the price is getting higher and higher. I can't believe that a stone is worth so much money! The next day, the priest sent him to the gold market to sell it. As a result, by the time of closing, the price was already ten times that of yesterday. On the third day, he went to the gem market to sell stones, and the price has risen a hundredfold. Because he refused to sell it, others thought the stone was priceless.
Q: What is the purpose of the priest asking the little boy to sell stones? What can the students learn from this story? (Students think and answer. )
The stone is still the same stone, but the time and place are different, and others have different views on it. The little boy thinks that living is meaningless, but in fact he doesn't accept his performance. In fact, each of us is like that stone. If you think you are a stone that nobody wants by the roadside, others will think you are worthless. If you think you are a gem, others will think you are priceless. Everyone is unique in the world. If you want to live out the value of life and gain the respect of others, you must first accept yourself happily and constantly improve yourself through various means.
Control yourself with a positive attitude.
There is a girl who always feels unlovable, so she feels a little inferior. One day, she happened to see a beautiful hairpin in the shop. When she put it on, all the customers in the shop said it was beautiful, so she was very happy to buy it and wear it to school. Then something wonderful happened. Many students who don't usually say hello to her are very close to her, and some even ask her to play together. She seems to suddenly become cheerful and lively. However, when she came home from school, she found that there were no elegant hairpins on her head at all. It turns out that she left her hairpin in the shop after paying.
Q: What made others change their attitude towards her? Is that hairpin really that magical?
People's appearance has not changed because of wearing hairpins, but only their mentality, because she is lovely and makes people feel beautiful. The sentence "People are cute not because they are beautiful, but because they are cute" has been verified in her. At no time should we hate ourselves. For those objective realities that have become unchangeable, it is better to accept yourself frankly, that is, to accept yourself with a positive and appreciative attitude, instead of complaining all day long.
Fourth, understand and improve the problems that should be paid attention to.
1 Build a house for the future based on the present.
An old carpenter told his boss that he would leave the construction industry and go home to enjoy his family. The boss asked him if he could help build another house, and the old carpenter said yes. But as you can see, he has been absent-minded, careless about materials and not serious about his work. After the house was built, the boss gave him the key to the gate. "This is your house," said the boss. "This is a gift for you." He was dumbfounded and ashamed. He will have to live in a poor house in the future!
So do we. We often casually "build" our own life, not actively, but passively, refusing to strive for perfection in everything and failing to do our best at critical moments. By the time we were shocked, we were already trapped in the "house" we built.
Perseverance is the key.
The speed of express train and local train is actually the same, but the number and length of stopovers are different.
Learning is not like this. Some students stop to "relax" every Monday; One big stop every semester, "have fun"; Junior high school to high school, high school to college, is the "big stop" of life, don't play with him. The result is a "slow train". You are who you are now, not because your car runs faster than others, but because you are an "express train", running straight ahead without stopping. In the future life, should we continue to take the express train or take the local train instead? It's up to you Although the express train has abandoned some landscapes, it can also reach the finish line quickly.
3 details determine fate
The martyrdom of astronaut Komarov: 1 On August 23, 967, the spacecraft of the former Soviet Union1suddenly had a vicious accident when it returned to the atmosphere-the parachute could not be opened. After studying it, the leaders of the former Soviet Union decided to broadcast the accident live to the whole country. When the announcer of the TV station announced in a sad tone that the spaceship would crash in two hours and the audience would witness the news of the martyrdom of astronaut komarov, the whole country was immediately shocked and people were immersed in great grief. On TV, the audience saw the calm image of astronaut komarov. He smiled and said to his mother, "Mom, I can clearly see your image here, including every gray hair on your head. Can you see me clearly? " "Yes, you see very clearly. Son, everything is fine, don't worry! " At this time, komarov's daughter also appeared on the TV screen. She is only 12 years old. Komarov said, "Daughter, don't cry!" "I don't cry ..." My daughter broke down in tears, but she fought back her grief and said, "Dad, you are a Soviet hero. I want to tell you that the hero's daughter will live like a hero! " Komarov told her daughter, "When you study, you should take every decimal point seriously. What happened today on Alliance 1 is because a decimal point was ignored during ground inspection ... "
This story tells us a truth: you can't be careless about life, otherwise, even a small matter will cost you a heavy or even irreparable price. We should start a new journey from now on, starting from the first year, the first semester, the first week, the first day and the first class of these three years.
You are your own mirror.
/kloc-at the age of 0/6, Einstein failed several subjects because he was particularly playful. One weekend morning, Einstein was preparing to go fishing with a fishing rod and his companions. At this time, his father stopped him and said to him, "You've been naughty all day, and you've failed several courses. Your mother and I are very worried about you. " Who knows, Einstein said, "What's the hurry? They (referring to their companions) failed, why not go fishing? "
"Why not compare with students with good grades?" Who knows, Einstein said, "Why should I compare with them?" Looking at this playful but ignorant child, Einstein's father said to him calmly and lovingly, "There is such a fable circulating in our hometown. Listen carefully and then you can go fishing. "
The story goes like this: "Two cats were playing on the roof, but they accidentally fell into the chimney at the same time." When two cats climbed out of the chimney, one cat's face was covered with black ash, while the other cat's face was clean. When the cat with clean face saw the cat with black face, she felt that her face was dirty and ugly and ran to the river to wash her face. Seeing a clean cat, the black-faced cat thought his face was clean, so he swaggered off to play with other cats. As a result, all the other cats fled in fear and regarded it as a monster.
In fact, others can't compare with you, you can't compare with others, and no one can be your mirror. You can only compare with yourself. Only you are your mirror. Take genius as a mirror, even fools can take genius as a mirror. "
Hearing this, Einstein bowed his head in shame and then went back to his hut to review his lessons.
Since then, Einstein often regarded himself as a mirror, constantly examining and correcting himself. Not only the academic performance has risen steadily, but also the rational light has been given to seeing things, analyzing things and handling things. In the end, he created a successful life and won an extraordinary life.
Few people in the world really compare themselves with themselves. In fact, no one is our reference and no one can be our mirror. Each of us has our own advantages and disadvantages. Only you are your own mirror. Only when we look at ourselves as a mirror and reflect on ourselves can we tap our potential and realize our value.
Students, a brand-new study career is presented to you. I hope you can know and improve yourself with a brand-new look from today, and make continuous progress and breakthrough in your study and life. I wish you all a bright future! To end today's speech with the famous words of the famous British poet Pope-
Only when you are rich can you feel the richness of the world; Only by studying hard can we perceive the novelty of the world; Only kindness can perceive the beauty of the world; Only by being generous can you live happily between heaven and earth.