0 1, Xiaomei, 36 years old, whose elder sister had dystocia was the origin of Dink.
Xiaomei is 36 years old and has been a dink for 9 years. Husband and wife agreed not to have children before marriage. In order to prevent accidents, Xiaomei had a ligation operation shortly after her marriage.
Asked why, Xiaomei said that every time a woman lives, it is like walking into the gate of hell. The risk of a woman giving birth to a child is uncertain, and so is the health of the child. In case the child unfortunately gets a disease that cannot be detected during pregnancy, it is simply a heavy burden for the whole family.
In fact, Xiaomei chose Dink because of her sister. My sister is five years older than Xiaomei and got married very early. Unfortunately, her first child after marriage was born, and just after 100 days, she died of illness.
In order to ease the family's mood, half a year later, my newly nursed sister became pregnant again. As a result, when she was 8 months pregnant, the baby was unfortunately stillborn.
My sister is on the verge of collapse because she was beaten twice. A year later, my sister became pregnant for the third time. Upon examination, it was a boy. The whole family finally smiled a little, but during childbirth, the fetus was too big, which led to dystocia, and finally she bled to death.
That year, Xiaomei just turned 18 years old. She watched her sister die painfully, but there was nothing she could do. Finally, my sister had to take her unborn child with her and regretted it.
Since then, the scene of my sister's dystocia has left an indelible shadow on Xiaomei's young mind. After falling in love, she rejected having children from her heart.
So, before marriage, she discussed with her boyfriend and decided not to have children after marriage, insisting on Dink to the end. Her husband has many brothers and sisters himself, and the children are too noisy. They hit it off immediately.
In this way, they have been living a sweet two-person world since their marriage. They usually go to work together and go anywhere in go on road trip on weekends. In recent years, they have almost traveled all over the country. Next, they plan to save money and start a romantic trip around the world.
I asked them, don't you regret not having children? They said, there is nothing to regret, and the choices you make should be borne by yourself. They enjoy their present life and really feel very happy.
02. Sister Hua is 40 years old. Her mother's unhappiness is her heart disease.
Sister Hua is the most beautiful 40-year-old woman I have ever seen. She feels particularly comfortable, which is probably the external expression of life. As soon as she opened her mouth, she watched a good movie, read a good book and ate a good dish yesterday. ...
After knowing her, I asked her, what is the most important thing for a good woman and a good wife? She smiled and said, "first satisfy yourself, make yourself happy and live clearly."
Later, I accidentally learned that Sister Hua was Dink. From the age of 25, she decided never to have children again in her life. This truth is not understood by others. She thinks it's a pity that she has such good genes and no children.