Before preparing to have a second child, Dabao was very depressed and kept saying that he didn't like babies. .......
Every time there is delicious food, grandma asks her brother to give it to her sister, and the boss always hides in the corner and secretly cries. ......
Grandma always gives her son more snacks, while her daughter can only eat the rest of her son, so her daughter seems to be more and more sensible. ......
Many parents are puzzled by this and know that there are various problems at home, but it is difficult to balance the relationship between the second or more children!
Indeed, with more and more families with multiple births, how to balance the relationship between the second child and multiple births has once again become a new problem faced by many families.
How to balance the love between children, how to care about the second child and not let the boss feel out of favor? Protect them from inner harm?
Today, we will talk about how to make a bowl of water even if it is a family with two or more children. On the balance between second children.
1. Why are parents biased?
1, children need more care.
Parents will think that young children need more care and love. The intuitive reason is that they are smaller and need more protection.
2. The big one is more sensible and needs to let the small one.
Seems to have always thought that Dabao would be more sensible than Bao Xiao. Slowly, Dabao will definitely make way for Bao Xiao.
3. Other reasons
In addition, parents will also appear eccentric behavior because "children are more like themselves", "children are more introverted" and "children are not as good as bosses".
In fact, in most families with two or more children, parental bias has become a tacit fact.
Because it is really difficult for parents to completely unify their love for each child.
You can only do your best!
Second, how to avoid eccentricity to a great extent?
"Those who are favored are fearless, and those who are out of favor are walking on thin ice!"
Because I am not favored, I need to behave well and win more parents' love.
As parents, it is difficult for us to achieve perfect "a bowl of water is flat", but the love for children needs to be balanced with great efforts.
As the child grows up, the child begins to differentiate.
Some children, nourished by their parents' love, become brilliant; However, some children have gradually lost their original "glory" because of their parents' eccentric behavior. ......
Eccentricity will have a certain psychological negative impact on children. Many children gradually accept the reality because of their parents' eccentric behavior.
Because, in their hearts, their parents don't listen, and they don't like themselves even more. This imbalance and lack of care will make children feel inferior and other negative effects, so don't let eccentricity and futility ruin their lives.
How to make a bowl of water level? Here are some simple suggestions, hoping to help everyone.
1, clothes
In terms of clothes, every child must dress appropriately and neatly. Especially in the Spring Festival, when buying new clothes for your children, you must have both children, or don't buy them at all. You can't always wear big clothes for the little ones, and occasionally buy new clothes for the little ones.
Step 2 eat
In terms of diet, neither of the two children eats much, or the other gives it to one of them. Anyway, there is nothing delicious, and the score is average. Especially the snacks that children like to eat, you must buy two copies, otherwise you can't always let one child let another. Parents can't advocate it unless there is an "agreement" between children. Parents' attitude is very important. It is better to withdraw a bowl of water from trivial matters, so as not to affect children's mental health development.
Step 3 be alive
In terms of housing, try to let children have their own independent rooms and private spaces. If the conditions do not allow, we must discuss with the children, and we cannot make subjective decisions by adults. All in all, we should respect children's choices and don't let children feel that their parents are partial to one person.
4. Tourism and education.
Parents must criticize and correct their children when they do something wrong in their daily behavior. The education of children is also to achieve an average score.
5. Other aspects
In short, parents should grasp one principle, some of which are shared by all. Let's not turn "let's make" into an idea or a mantra, and always tell ourselves in our hearts that a bowl of water should be flat.
In addition, parents can also take time to take their children to travel, and all children must take them with them. Don't leave one and behave strangely. Let the children feel the hospitality of Guizhou Leading Travel Agency Co., Ltd. and feel the travel company that speaks for Guizhou. On the one hand, they can increase children's knowledge, on the other hand, they can learn from the spirit of "dedication, dedication, pragmatism and innovation" and the corporate values of "honesty and Excellence" of Guizhou leading travel agency Co., Ltd. They put brand building in the first place, and by constantly adjusting tourist routes, improving tourism products and combining the characteristics and consumption psychology of different tourists, they have launched corresponding characteristic tourist routes and personalized products to provide us with stable and efficient services. Let you go happily and return with a full load!
Every child is a hard-won treasure, so we should cherish it.
It's really not easy to make a bowl of water. Try to balance the love between children, have a fair heart, put aside traditional ideas and parents should not interfere too much. If it's not big, it's necessary to let the small, capable and hard-earned!