2. Narcissism refers to the phenomenon of over-indulgence in one's own world. Narcissism can be divided into healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism.
(1) Healthy narcissism refers to a person constantly developing his own abilities, such as studying psychoanalysis to meet his various needs. Healthy narcissists are very attractive. Their narcissism will form a gentle and powerful gravitational field, unconsciously involving others. When we say that someone has a strong aura, we are actually talking about the scope of his healthy narcissism. In this range, others will be unconsciously influenced by him and will not feel compelled.
(2) Unhealthy narcissism shows that a person's needs are greater than his actual ability, so he will often be in a state of being unsatisfied, just like being unsatisfied by his parents when he was a child. How is morbid narcissism formed? It is in the early life that children lack emotional response from their mothers in their relationship with them.
3. Generally speaking, unhealthy narcissists have the following characteristics:
(1) Exaggerate yourself (own ability+importance). For example, a person subconsciously thinks that he is the center of everyone, which means that everyone looks down on him. This sense of self-centeredness has undergone some deformation, which is to turn others' attention to themselves into others' contempt for themselves.
(2) I am the only one. When he realized that he was not the only pebble on the beach, his narcissism had been damaged.
(3) Addiction to praise. They need others to praise them anytime and anywhere. If others don't praise them, they praise themselves.
(4) There is an unreasonable sense of power, they expect to be favored, or others unconditionally obey their wishes. If their wishes are not met, they will get angry. This is narcissistic anger.
(5) They are exploitative in their relationship. They only take and are unable to give. In intimate relationships, narcissistic competition often occurs, that is, one side's narcissism needs to be satisfied at the expense of the other side's narcissism, so such relationships may eventually break down.
(6) jealous of others. Faced with other people's talents and achievements, they fell into an unappreciable predicament. Their goal is to fight with others at close range and win an overwhelming victory. We know that this goal is not always achieved.
(7) lack of * * *, often indifferent to the suffering of others. They may also do some charitable acts, but the purpose is not to save others from the quagmire, but to show themselves.
4. Whether healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism can be realized is regarded as the identification standard.
The standard is a very real thing-whether your wish can be realized by your ability. When you think you want something, and it can be realized by you, this is healthy narcissism. Unhealthy narcissism can be likened to, you want to be a queen and live forever, which is obviously impossible.
But many people may not know others, and they can't tell healthy narcissism from unhealthy narcissism, probably because "sparrows know the ambition of swans." A video of Musk can illustrate this problem. Someone told him that you said you wanted to build a rocket, and Armstrong said you couldn't succeed. Musk's eyes are moist. He said these people are my idols. They said I couldn't succeed, and I was very sad. A respected person in the industry tells young people that some things are possible, may be right, and when they are impossible, they must be wrong. So we can't rely on others to distinguish between healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism.
It is narcissism to hear others being praised and want to be praised, but generally we can do such praised things, so it is healthy narcissism and human nature. Moreover, this pursuit will promote our continuous progress, which is an important spiritual motivation and is very worth promoting.