Life can't be repeated, and years can't be returned.
Golden sentence:
1? Life is like a chess game. If you make a mistake, you lose everything. Freud.
2? You can never come back when you are in your prime, but it's hard to wake up in the morning. Tao Qian.
3? Life between heaven and earth is just a blink of an eye. -Zhuang Zhou
4? Life does not sell round-trip tickets. Once you start, you can never come back. Romain rolland.
First, life discipline
Fate cannot be copied. Life can't be repeated.
When we were young, we were "teenagers don't know the taste of sorrow, so we should add new words to it." I hope to grow up quickly, and I can control my life without my parents and teachers to discipline me. However, when I grow up, I am forced to shoulder the heavy responsibility of life. Some people miss my schooldays that I didn't have to worry about before, and some people complain that I don't have a senior background to work hard. Why can't you live in the present and cherish everything? Everyone, every stage of life, has its difficulties and hardships, but it is also accompanied by unique joy and flash. If you just complain blindly, you will only let yourself ignore the beauty in life, only look back and sigh.
In life, we often hear such words, "If I had seized the opportunity at that time, I would have ..." "If I went back to the past, I would have ..." Instead of regretting, it is better to think carefully, be responsible for myself, my destiny and my life that I can't start again.
If the handwriting is wrong, you can erase it and rewrite it; If the painting is wrong, you can tear it up and redraw it. It's just that the road of life is wrong, but there is no turning back. Because of the unpredictable future, it is full of temptations and challenges Because it is impossible to start over, it is even more tragic. There is no perfect life in the world, and there is no smooth life. Everyone will inevitably stumble, fall, get up, get tired, have a rest, and move forward with a goal.
Life cannot be repeated, and life can also predict its length, but what we can control is the content, quality, quality and width of life. A mediocre life without pursuit, even if it is long, tastes like chewing wax. And the hard-working life, even if it is short, is worth remembering.
Have you ever thought about what life you really want-courageously stepping out of a new road, a life path of your own, rather than the so-called success path in others' eyes? When you are old, you feel that your life is for others, and you become a successful person in the eyes of others, not the person you want to be.
Life can't be repeated. Cherish the present, cherish the relatives around you, cherish what you have now, and don't wait until you lose it to regret it!
Think carefully, what is the most important thing for us in this world, and what is the reason for us to work overtime every day? We often fast forward to the most important part of our lives.
Do we have to wait until we have money to cherish our family and loved ones? No, because at that time, you will think of achieving bigger goals, and even some relatives have passed away long ago. The tree wants to keep quiet, but the wind will not stop; My son wants to serve his parents when they are old, but they are gone. Relatives don't need you to be rich, what they need is that you can spend more time with them.
And when one day, when they leave you, don't wait until you lose it to find out that you are so happy, and then you find out how ordinary, simple and precious their love is. Don't wait until you feel successful in your career and rich to think of unconditionally loving your parents. The most regrettable thing in the world is that your son wants to be filial and not kiss.
Second, the energy age.
Watching the movie "Remote Control Life" this week really moved me to tears-cherish every day with my loved ones, don't wait until it is lost.
Introduction to the film:
This film tells the story that the hero is a workaholic in a company, and he has to complete all the work, drawing, design and so on given by the boss in the company. Busy as a bee every day, I have to devote myself to my work when I get home. I don't care what happens at home, alienating my parents, lovers and children. The hero hopes that he can fast-forward all family affairs and spend his time at work.
By chance, he met an old man, who gave him a remote control and told him that he could fast forward the unhappy things in his life. If the man gets a treasure, he will fast-forward all the family-related things in his life, and he will succeed in his career because of his own efforts and efforts. He has fast-forwarded his life to middle age, his son has grown up, his wife has remarried, and his parents are old and weak.
One day, while the man was working, his elderly father pushed the door and came in. His father has been playing tricks to make coins disappear since he was a child, but this man is always indifferent. This time, his father missed him very much. He came to see him and took out coins to perform magic tricks for him. But this time, the man was completely angry and directly told his father how to play this magic. Don't perform such low-level magic again and again in front of him. The poor father looked at the man, said "I love your son", and then turned away, but the man didn't take a good look at his father. But this is the last time my father did magic for him.
A few years later, this man became the global CEO of the company, and he was still working like crazy. At this time, he learned from his son that his father had died of illness, so he came to his father's grave. I feel very sad in my heart. At this time, the man who gave him the remote control appeared and told him that he could take him back to the last time his father saw him, so this man came to the last time his father performed magic tricks for him in his office. Seeing his disdain for his father at that time and the background of his father's disappointment, the man stepped back from the remote control again and again, and his eyes were full of self-blame and self-blame.
He can't go back. No matter what method he uses, the remote control can't make his life go backwards. So the man quickly entered old age, when he was lying in a hospital bed. At this time, men have understood what is the most important thing in life. When he learned that his son had canceled his honeymoon because of work, he got up from the hospital bed, staggered onto the road and fell in the rain. His ex-wife and children came running. During this period, the man said a word to the child: family is the priority. Then he died.
At this time, the camera came to the mattress in the supermarket. The man woke up and found himself a young man, but fell asleep on the sofa.
He looked at the beautiful world happily. He ran to wake his sleeping parents, told them that he loved them and appreciated them, and asked his father to perform magic tricks for him again. Then he ran home quickly, beating gongs and drums to wake up the whole family, telling his wife how much he cared about her, telling the children that they would go camping normally, help them build a tree house, life is too short, enjoy love, and even the pet dog at home prepared a companion without considering any shit projects. This is the end of the film, which really makes people feel a lot.
Feeling:
What is the most important thing for us to live in this world? What makes us work hard and work overtime every day? We often fast forward to the most important part of our lives. Just like the man in the film, he only focused on his work at first and completely ignored his family. Work makes him have no time to experience affection and love every day, and busy work makes his temper worse and worse.
Do we have to wait until we have money to cherish our family and loved ones? No, because at that time, you will think of achieving bigger goals, and even some relatives have passed away long ago. The tree wants to keep quiet, but the wind will not stop; My son wants to serve his parents when they are old, but they are gone. Relatives don't need you to be rich, what they need is that you can spend more time with them.
In the movie, the man saw his father for the last time. The man wrote an email, turned a blind eye to his elderly father and rudely refused his father's proposal. The old father stroked Mike's head and said, "I love you, son." What a deep fatherly love. Even if his son did something that made him sad and said something that made him sad, he still understood and tolerated.
And when one day, when they leave you, don't wait until you lose it to find out that you are so happy, and then you find out how ordinary, simple and precious their love is. Don't wait until you feel successful in your career and rich to think of unconditionally loving your parents. The most regrettable thing in the world is that your son wants to be filial and not kiss.
When the man finally fell in the heavy rain, he tried his best to say a word to the child: "Family comes first". Several simple people express the soul of this film. No matter what you do, no matter where you are engaged in what kind of work, please always remember that family comes first. Don't delay the time to go home to see your parents because of work. Don't miss the time with your loved ones because you have important clients or projects, because if you miss this time, you may miss it forever. Our life can go backwards without the remote control in the movie. Even if we can go back in time, it's just a memory.
In the process of growing up, you must lose it before you know how to cherish it, before you know that what you have been pursuing is useless, but you can't see the real happiness at your fingertips at this moment. Only when you get it back can you wake up.
The film runs through a remote control, so that we can imagine ourselves as a man and whether we are working as hard as him now, ignoring our family. If so, please call your parents and take time to spend with your family and children. Don't wait until a few years later, when you are old, you will only be left with regretful memories.
Third, the golden house.
I entered the 108 camp and have finished reading six books.
Reading this week
After reading Thinking to Change Life
The onion reading method has been read 40%
This book focuses on induction.
1, our mood depends largely on our cognition, and we can improve our mood by changing our cognition and behavior.
2.ABC model
A (antecedents): antecedents, events that trigger your emotions.
B (belief): concept, your cognition, the creed in your heart.
C (Consequence): As a result, what is the result? Mood and? Because.
We often think that A leads to C, but in fact B leads to C. ..
Quote? D (dispose): refute, give reasons, and object to your existing cognition. Correct cognition is cognition? For the most important treatment? One step.
3. Common concentrated wrong thinking in life: reactive thinking, disastrous thinking, black-and-white thinking, biased thinking, wrong thinking and so on.
4. Some effective methods to refute negative thinking: Socratic questioning, making emotional monitoring table, refuting cognition with behavior, guiding thinking with purpose, etc.
5. To overcome negative emotions such as frustration, anger and anxiety, we need to start from two levels: cognition and behavior. Many new emotional regulation techniques.
Action plan after reading
1. When you are troubled by negative emotions, reflect on whether your thoughts and ideas are wrong, such as asking too much, or always caring about the impossible.
2. If you are in a bad mood for a long time, you can make a thinking monitoring table, record it at any time, and then improve the status quo in a targeted manner.
When you are angry or anxious about something, think more about what your purpose is and whether it is necessary to worry about something unimportant.
From now on, we should get rid of some wrong thinking in ourselves, read more books, study more and improve our cognition.
draw
As long as negative thoughts prevail, the development of emotions is no longer under your control.
think
People are easily controlled by negative emotions. With this knowledge, we must find ways to exercise self-control.
draw
We may not be able to change others or the environment, but we can change our way of thinking. If we learn to think in a healthier way, we won't bother ourselves when we encounter problems. This simple concept is a key principle of cognitive behavioral therapy.
think
Start with people and things you don't like, look at them from a different angle and in a different way of thinking, and see if you can gain new knowledge.
draw
It is perfectly reasonable to hope that people will not make mistakes, but the idea that what others do must always be right will bring us trouble.
think
Correct understanding, no one is perfect, and forgiving others and yourself with a tolerant heart will reduce the impulse.
Where can we do better?
By reading more books and reflecting more, we can establish a healthy way of thinking and behavior, which is helpful to control our emotions.
Reading movement, both physical and mental cultivation!
Fourth, get up early+exercise.
I got up early this week, and I persisted in my exercise very well.
Yoga 7 times
Keep it for 6 times
Fourth, review this week
1. My daughter has a holiday this week, which increases the parent-child time. She attended her daughter's New Year concert, studied vocal music for half a year, and finally gained something from her efforts! Reciting a poem every day, Chinese studies is the accumulation every day!
Parents are here, let's celebrate the New Year together!
I did beauty, fitness, hairdressing and bought flowers myself and had a wonderful New Year.
I watched ten episodes of Tang Zhiyun.
5. The anchor incubation camp recited the punch card twice.
True freedom is not physical freedom, not financial freedom, but spiritual freedom.
And there is only one way to get freedom-that is self-discipline.