Emotional impulse is only worth it in two situations. "One is this person, which is very important. One is that this matter is very important. "
One day, my friend's father was very anxious because the health code of the mobile phone could not be opened, and because he could not read, he was very vague about some operations of the mobile phone software. My friend is very gentle and patient on the phone to guide the operation step by step. I can't skip to the next step because one line of reading instructions has not been checked. My friend's father was so anxious that he said no and went to the police station for help. However, my friend didn't blame my father. After hanging up the phone, he still carefully recorded every step of the software operation, and his voice was normal, neither loud nor impatient.
In the face of my father's predicament, I didn't abandon him, didn't avoid troublesome problems, and didn't have any emotional fluctuations. The communication between friends and fathers is very efficient. Even if the problem is not solved immediately, let the other party know the current situation and the subsequent treatment methods.
What needs to be emphasized here is that emotional stability is not resignation or submission to humiliation.
Does this friend have no mood swings? Yes, every time we go to choose a restaurant or choose the type of food together, our friends will get impatient and stop the car immediately when it is about to get out of control. After observation, I found that my friends always take three deep breaths before the arrival of emotions, then analyze my tangled points, and then give their own opinions, and finally I decide.
Afterwards, I chose the right opportunity to explain to me how to deal with the situation at that time, and also told me what was uncomfortable. After several times, I became emotionally stable. I would not feel sad alone, nor would I guess privately whether my behavior was wrong. I won't spend time on bad emotions, so I will have more time to discover the beauty around me.
"I Overcome Bad Emotions" says that everyone has the right to be sad, and only by facing up to their emotions can they get proper counseling.
In the process of continuous analysis and imitation, I learned the skills of emotional stability of my friends. In the past, I always resented my relatives who stood at the moral high ground, were impatient with many things, and hated all the messy situations. When you really can't control it, think about it: "Is this person, this thing, worth turning into a nodule and bringing it into your blood to form a spot attached to your liver?" If it's not worth it, don't waste time.