I am Chuxue, a lecturer in psychology, a national second-level psychological counselor, a disseminator and practitioner of psychological knowledge, and I am glad to answer your questions.
Let's make an analogy: if the family is a fish tank, then the husband and wife are water and the children are small fish. If you want small fish to grow up happily, you must first take good care of the fish tank.
1. The physical environment should be cleaned up at home first.
I don't know if you have such an experience-if the home is clean, sitting there is not bad; If the house is dirty, messy and poor, it will affect the mood.
Therefore, keeping your home clean and tidy is not only a good mood, but also good luck.
2. Psychological environment Psychological environment is an invisible hidden environment, but it plays a very important role. This includes the psychological energy of parents, the relationship between parents, the relationship between parents and elders, and the relationship with children.
The psychological environment is different from the physical environment. We can't see it with the naked eye, but we can feel it, which affects our mood and life all the time.
A good psychological environment requires a harmonious relationship between family members-father loves mother and mother loves father; Mom and dad love children together; Mom and dad also respect the elderly.
3. A good family environment also includes the inheritance of family style and the creation of family atmosphere, which is the "soft power" of a family. Every family has some rules or qualities passed down from generation to generation. Whether it is summed up or not, it will continue from generation to generation.
For example, in our family, my father summed up our family style a few years ago-"Zhu Dexiao comes first, treats people kindly, has the best career, and life science is the most expensive". This family style is the accumulation of his life experience and his ardent hope for us.
In order to build a good family ecology, family gatherings can be held regularly or irregularly to increase the cohesion of the family and make the feelings between family members stronger; Or set up some family reward systems to reward family members who have contributed.
When the water in the "fish tank" at home is not clean, we can buy a ventilator to increase the oxygen supply; Or do it yourself and clean up the impurities.
"Buying a ventilator" means that when there is a problem in family operation, you can use the help of a third party, which usually works well; "Cleaning up impurities by yourself" means that parents should constantly learn the knowledge and methods of family system education and grow up with their children.
Family is the cell of society. Only when every family is good, will our society get better and better.
I hope the above answers can help you!
In terms of family education, what do you think a good family environment should be reflected in? Since this question is about the family environment of family education, besides the material aspect, our family environment pays more attention to the soft power of the family, that is, the influence of the family humanistic environment on children's education.
We say that in this respect, a good family environment, as parents, we only need to help children see his two important advantages in this process, and children will see themselves more and more clearly and begin to develop in a better direction.
What are these two forces?
One strength is: sense of ability, and the other strength is sense of value!
What do you mean by "ability"? I think I can.
What do you mean by "sense of value" I think I am valuable.
These two forces do not come from reasoning or communication, but from children's life experience. Many parents often say this to their children, "You can do it, you can do it, I believe you can do it!" In fact, in this case, no matter how much you talk, it is difficult for the child to feel that he is really good. However, if you let your child experience these two forces repeatedly in his life, he will begin to believe in himself more and more and understand himself more and more!
For example, children tie their shoelaces for a long time, and you can't untie them. You can't wait. Say to the child, "honey, you are very clever." You can tie them next time. I'll tie it for you this time. " Can children believe what you say? But if you give him a chance and wait patiently for him to tie this seemingly complicated shoelace, even if you don't say anything, the result will greatly improve the child's sense of ability.
Therefore, the sense of ability depends on the result of things to make children feel.
The more opportunities a child has, the more achievements you show him, and the more he believes in himself.
So what is a sense of value? A sense of value means that I deserve to be respected and valued.
A child who is repeatedly beaten and scolded by adults will not have a high sense of value. Because he will subconsciously feel that he is not worthy of respect by the people around him and is not worthy of being treated well by others.
When our children feel and have these two strengths in the family environment, their future growth and future development will not be bad.
In family education, a good family environment should be mainly reflected in five aspects:
1. Husband and wife are filial to the elderly. This is the primary indicator of a good family environment. If this index is reached, the relationship between husband and wife will be harmonious, the relationship between father and son, mother and child will be harmonious, and the overall environment of the whole family will be orderly and enjoyable.
2. Harmonious relationship between husband and wife. This is the second condition of a good family environment. In a family, husband and wife care about each other and have a harmonious relationship, and the whole family has a warm atmosphere. Children can naturally develop physically and mentally in this atmosphere.
3. Children are filial and sensible. In a good family environment, besides the harmonious relationship between husband and wife, the father-son relationship and the mother-son relationship should also be harmonious, and the key to the harmony between father-son relationship and mother-son relationship is the harmonious relationship between husband and wife first, and then the children should be filial and sensible. Generally speaking, in a healthy family, as long as the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, the attitude of husband and wife towards the elderly will naturally become filial. Parents do this for a long time, and children will become filial. In this way, a good family environment naturally appears.
4. Take reading as the center of family life. A good family environment and harmonious family relations are naturally the most important, but just stopping there is not a really good family environment. What is the standard of a really good family environment? The author's experience is reading. Only when a family likes reading, likes reading and develops good reading habits can this family have taste and a really good environment.
5. Relatives know tolerance and forbearance, and they know tolerance and concession. It can be said that this is the way to get along with a good family. As we all know, everyone living in the world is not perfect. Therefore, if you understand this truth, your relatives will not pursue perfection and beauty in everything, and your family will be harmonious forever.
Are you satisfied with the above answers? Henry Chinese looks forward to communicating with you.
In family education, a good family environment is reflected in the following two aspects:
1, harmonious family atmosphere, harmonious family atmosphere is the first guarantee for their healthy growth. If a family is angry all day, the husband and wife are not harmonious, and even the chicken flies and the dog jumps, and the smell of gunpowder is strong, then children cannot grow up healthily and happily in such an environment.
2. Healthy hobbies. Maintaining the healthy hobbies of family members is another specific aspect of the family environment. No matter mother-in-law, grandfather or parents, they should have healthy hobbies and give up bad hobbies, such as smoking, playing mahjong and gambling. So, which hobbies are healthy hobbies? Such as sports, running, mountain climbing, playing table tennis and so on.
3. The family's emotions are well controlled, and emotions play a very important role in the family. This point is often overlooked by us. We should control our emotions and give our best emotions to our families, who will not lose their temper or get angry at will. Many times, we often give our best feelings to outsiders, but we don't pay so much attention to them in front of our families. Especially when you get up in the morning, whether mom or dad or children, you should smile, keep a relaxed and tolerant environment, and don't complain or teach lessons. After you get up in the morning. No one will listen to you, and it will also affect the mood of your family and cause a unhappy day.
In addition to these three aspects, we should also pay attention to the following issues.
4. The family is optimistic, positive, generous, indifferent and selfless.
5, family members like to smile, like to praise and encourage others, identify with others, do not hit others, do not belittle others and raise themselves.
6. Family members like reading, traveling and watching movies. They are full of enthusiasm for new things.
7. Family members are healthy, energetic and enthusiastic.
To educate children, parents should first be those who are interested in learning and create a harmonious, enterprising and sunny family environment from the soft side. Today's children don't live in the past. In the past, they were only asked to eat and wear warm clothes and study hard. Parents have the responsibility to cultivate them into people who have a little interest in life and love learning. The cultivation of this kind of interest in life can not only rely on children's own expectations, it needs good opportunities and personal growth aspirations. The love of learning refers to the motivation to seek the outside world and the inner mind in a broad sense, but the utilitarian purpose of school learning should certainly not detract from the essence of learning and progress. First of all, parents must be such people (not only asking children but not asking them to grow up), so that it is possible to influence children to develop in that direction. This is the same as the concept of lifelong learning put forward today, keeping pace with the times and working hard.
A colleague of mine, the couple like reading, traveling, photography, baking, gardening and handicrafts very much, and they also like to express their love, creating a good family atmosphere. As long as they have spare time at home, they will take their children to do what they like, and they are willing to spend time on cultivating their interests. Personal space is full of love for children, love for life and happiness of growing up with children. During the holiday, they traveled all over the country, collecting ideas all the way and feeling the local customs all over the world. Their daughter, at first glance, is the kind of child with aura, with wide interests, much knowledge, strong hands-on ability and generous nature.
One of my parents and friends likes reading books at ordinary times, and the most decorated thing in the house is books. I especially envy the wall decorated by her bookcase, which is full and comfortable. She said there were books in her other room, too. Imagine how comfortable it would be to stay in such a space. Of course, I prefer the picture of her telling stories to her youngest son with a picture book every day. I hope her children will fall in love with books and reading under her leadership. Reading not only adds a scholarly atmosphere to the family, but also enhances the temperament of family members and individuals. The vision of seeing the world is formed from people's reading process. When I say reading, I mean reading all kinds of things in this world, reading the book of life, and reading in a broad sense.
There is also a distant friend who is not only good at writing, but also likes sports. On weekends and holidays, I take my children to play badminton, ride a bike, go hiking and go hiking. The home is also decorated with fresh warmth, although there is no luxury. I appreciate her meticulous attitude, especially to herself and her family. She is not casual or careless. Doing housework is as orderly as working. Even if you cut a pot of fruit, you can put on a beautiful shape. You can say that she is very petty, but you can't deny that she pursues a tasteful life, which can't be piled up by money. Her home is simple, but beautiful.
Educating children should be a person who is interested in the world, likes reading, lives a healthy life and has a certain enthusiasm for exploration.
Six secrets of children's healthy growth, a gift for parents!
In my opinion, in addition to satisfying children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, it is more important to satisfy their happiness. Life should have a sense of ceremony. We should be parents of life and let our children feel the happiness brought by life instead of focusing most of our energy on study. Then everyone in the family should have a plan. Family meetings should be organized every month and week, and the whole family should attend.
And as parents, we should set an example and be the best example for our children. We should do what we want our children to do first, and then ask them. Instead of asking children what to do. There is also family culture, family style and family training, which are actually needed.
More important is the relationship between parents. In fact, a family's best love for children is "the love of husband and wife".
Being born in a family has a great influence on children, and family education can determine their future development. If children want to be high-quality and cultured people in the future, parents should make more efforts in education. A good family environment has these performances, and see how many items your family meets.
1. Family members live in harmony.
A family is made up of many members, which is equivalent to a small social group. In a good family environment, the relationship between family members must be harmonious. Even if we fight small battles occasionally, the contradictions will pass quickly, and we will not hold grudges against each other, let alone be rude. Harmonious family environment: Husband and wife love each other, children get along well, and family happiness is more than sadness.
2. Children are filial
As the oldest person in the family, the elderly should be taken care of by their children. In fact, if you want to know whether a family environment is good or not, you can judge it by looking at the state of the elderly at home. If the old man smiles all day and is in a good mental state, it means that his children are filial and happy in their later years. Such a family environment will not be bad. On the contrary, it needs to be improved.
Parents educate their children in person.
Nowadays, many young parents are busy with their work, and their children are left to the elderly. Although the old people are willing to help with the children, their energy is limited and their thoughts are relatively backward. This is not good for old people and children. Parents with a good family environment will personally educate their children, do not bother the elderly, and be serious and responsible for their children.
Parents and children get along like friends.
Few parents can get along with their children like friends. Most parents think that children should be allowed to establish their own authority, so they often order their children to do something that adults do. In fact, the best parent-child relationship is to get along like friends, let parents walk into their children's inner world and understand their real thoughts.
It is a place where children grow up from childhood, and the environment of our store directly affects children's personality and way of doing things. Parents must create a good family atmosphere for their children and let them grow up healthily and happily.
I am a senior nurse who helps mothers. I personally believe in "parenting classics" to help you solve the problems on the way with your baby ~
A good family should be a wife who loves herself wholeheartedly and cares about her husband, and has an excellent environment for a family with children. Children will feel at ease and feel safe when they see it. In fact, I think it is right to live in a down-to-earth manner, regardless of the contribution of both husband and wife to the family, which is good for both adults and children, and to safeguard their small families, isn't it? .