Nowadays, with the rapid development of society, the contact between people is more and more frequent. The probability of meeting other people is greatly increased. The ones at home are always not fresh enough. There are so many interesting people. If you don't know how to restrain yourself, your marriage will eventually fail.
First, the parent group has now become an "ambiguous new position". Parents of the opposite sex secretly love their children.
Parent group is an important place for parents and teachers to communicate now, but it has gradually evolved into a place for parents to exchange WeChat and fuzzy chat.
Wang Lu has been married for eight years, and her children are in the first grade. Wang Lu's husband Sun Tao is very considerate. Their married life has always been sweet. Sun Tao is the kind of person who has a special sense of family responsibility. He usually picks up the children after work and tries to attend the parent-teacher conference.
Wang Lu, for the sake of her husband's sense of responsibility, left the child to her husband. Parents and family committees are handled by Sun Tao, but half a year after the children went to school, Sun Tao suddenly filed for divorce, and his attitude was very firm.
Wang Lu doesn't quite understand. Her husband is from a public institution, so it's nothing unusual to pick up and drop off children from nine to five. How did he suddenly get divorced?
After some threats and inducements, Wang Lu finally knew the reason. Sun Tao cheated on her, and the object was the mother of her children's classmates. The two met at the parent-teacher conference. Sun Tao is one of the few parents who attended the parent-teacher conference as the father of their children. His words immediately attracted the attention of many parents.
One of the single mothers privately added Sun Tao's contact information to her parents. At first, she asked Sun Tao about her children's education. Later, she let her son approach Wang Lu's son, and the two children became good friends with the help of adults.
Sometimes, she will invite her children to eat and play at home, and Sun Tao will pick them up. In the long run, they actually came together.
Therefore, although Sun Tao was picking up the children, she also went to see the object of an affair, and finally the two divorced. Things also spread to the school, and the other party transferred with his son. Sun Tao also came together with each other and became someone else's "stepfather".
Second, what is the impact of parents' derailment on children?
Although feelings are a personal matter, everything is different after getting married and having children. Usually parents cheat, which is easy to affect children.
For boys, it is easy to be impulsive and easy to do things to protect their mothers and hurt their derailed fathers. Or my mother cheated on me and stopped trusting women. In adulthood, marriage will distrust each other and make each other in a state of tension at all times.
For girls, their father's cheating will make them no longer believe in the opposite sex, have no yearning for marriage, and their emotional state will be more casual. Adults are more likely to appear, selling themselves for revenge and seeking parents' attention. The mother's infidelity will make the girl fall into self-blame, always wondering if she will be as cautious in marriage as her mother.
But also has a great influence on children's self-confidence, outlook on life and values. Don't think that children are too young to understand anything. In fact, there are countless children who cheat their parents on Post Bar and Zhihu every year.
There are even children who ask for help to learn that one parent is cheating. Do you want to tell the other? For the sake of family harmony, children don't know how to deal with it. Over time, it will affect their mental health.
Third, how should parents get along with their opposite sex parents?
In fact, this is a relatively simple question. Adults need to face many temptations. If you always rely on the other side's prevention to solve it, it will not last long. Parents need restraint. When parents of the opposite sex strike up a conversation, they give it to their partners.
Parents get along for their children, not for their own selfish desires, which destroys the harmony of the family. A netizen put it very well: people who want to be ambiguous, whether their parents or not, will cheat, and having a sense of family responsibility is the most important thing.
There are more and more parent-child activities and parents spend more time together. Polite and distant contact is the responsibility of both parties.