However, as children gradually leave infancy, parents should no longer do everything. Choosing to let go at the right time is the key to let children learn to fly. As we all know, in family education, "doting" is a common culprit in destroying children.
A child who lives in a loving family atmosphere will grow up healthily with courage and strength.
However, if a child is surrounded by parents' doting since childhood, it is easy to form an arrogant and lazy character, and then become a "negative textbook" in the eyes of the public.
How lazy can a person be if he is immersed in doting? I believe that many people will be surprised after reading this case.
Because of the love of relatives, the 35-year-old daughter pretended to be paralyzed for 20 years. Who is responsible for this tragedy? The doting of his family made Wu Guiying taste the sweetness, and he also developed the character of being lazy and hiding. In short, no matter what she does, someone at home always cleans up for her. She doesn't want to go to school, and she lies that she is ill.
Gradually, Wu Guiying, who is getting lazier and lazier, gets used to everything his mother does. Even the little things like combing his hair, eating and tickling him are too lazy to reach out and do it.
The mother gave her little daughter everything she wanted. Instead of educating her to be independent, she was willing to let her send her.
/kloc-At the age of 0/5, Wu Guiying pretended to be ill in bed after quarreling with his brother. After lying for a few days, her mother took her to the hospital for examination, and the results showed that there was nothing wrong. But even so, the mother indulged her daughter to "recuperate" in bed. Wu Guiying has been in bed for 20 years since the disease was brought up. She enjoys the care of her family and never wants to work like a normal person again.
For the "paralyzed" daughter, the mother took care of her in every possible way, eating and drinking Lazar, but her mother died many years later. At this time, Wu Guiying's sister Wu Guiling took the place of her mother and continued to take care of her sister.
My sister has to do farm work during the day, so she has no time to take care of Wu Guiying. So when her sister went out, Wu Guiying stood up and ate something. When her family came back, she was another "patient" lying in bed.
Once, my sister's daughter went home for the weekend. The little girl suddenly became paralyzed for a long time, and her aunt sat up by herself. When she told her mother about this strange scene, Wu Guiling raised her vigilance.
In order to find out the truth, Wu Guiling quietly installed a camera at home.
Wu Guiling was shocked by the scene under surveillance, only to see her sister Wu Guiying get out of bed slowly after thinking that there was no one at home, and find a plate of peanuts to eat with relish.
It turns out that my little sister is not paralyzed at all. She faked everything!
After the lie was exposed, Wu Guiling went to her sister to discuss the story, but her sister insisted that she was paralyzed, unable to walk, and unconscious of the pictures under surveillance. If a normal person lies for 20 years, there will be problems without problems. Wu Guiling decided to take her sister to the hospital for examination.
Finally, she got the answer from the doctor: My sister is really ill, but not physically, but mentally. She's a little hysterical.
When she was a child, she often pretended to be ill because she was lazy. Wu Guiying gradually adapted to the life under the doting of his family. Subconsciously, she thought that as long as she pretended to be paralyzed, she could get eternal care, so she began to consciously imitate paralyzed patients.
Over time, she really thought she was paralyzed. Judging from the ending, Wu Guiying's experience can be described as tragedy, but it is her family who loves her most.
From the perspective of parents, it is often difficult to grasp the words "love" and "doting" in parenting. If you are not careful, you will "love the world". In fact, loving children means giving them warmth, care, strength and courage, and giving them the ability to live independently.
However, doting on children is an appropriate "alternative" and "arrangement". When parents get used to protecting their children in the greenhouse and prevent them from suffering a little wind and rain, the children will gradually lose their independence and degenerate into a "giant baby" who needs family care for everything.
This is also the beginning of a child's tragedy. ...