Self-care of college students' mental health

What is the standard of mental health?

(1) intelligence standard. Normal intelligence is the most basic mental health condition for people's normal life, and good intelligence level is the psychological basis for all social people's academic success and career success. Expressed by IQ value. An IQ of ≥90 is normal, while an IQ of < 70 is mentally retarded. People with abnormal intelligence can't be mentally healthy, but IQ can't explain a person's achievements, and high IQ can't guarantee mental health. Therefore, people with high IQ should not gloat.

(2) emotional standards. Emotion refers to people's subjective experience of whether objective things meet their own needs. Emotional stability and happiness are signs of emotional health, and emotional changes should be caused by appropriate reasons and have appropriate emotional response.

(3) Will standard: refers to the psychological process that people consciously determine the activity goal, dominate their own actions, and overcome many difficulties to achieve the predetermined goal. Will is the ladder to success in doing anything. If you are too indecisive, hesitant, thoughtful or reckless, hasty, etc. , is a sign of unhealthy will.

(4) Social adaptability standard: Good social adaptability mainly includes: ① the ability to adapt to the natural environment; (2) can establish positive and harmonious interpersonal relationships, can adapt to the surrounding interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationships are both therapeutic and pathogenic. Therefore, harmonious interpersonal relationship is necessary for physical and mental health. ③ Ability to handle and cope with family, school and social life. Such as decision-making, problem solving, critical thinking, emotional control, psychological transposition, interpersonal communication and other abilities.

(5) The "ideal me" and "realistic me" are basically the same. Studies have proved that the failure to effectively face the reality and deal with the relationship with the surrounding environment is an important cause of mental disorders and mental diseases. Therefore, we should face the reality, grasp the reality and actively adapt to it.

(6) The characteristics of psychological activities should conform to the characteristics of age and gender. People go through different age stages in their life, and each age stage has its own characteristics.

(7) concentration. Attention is the psychological guarantee for the success of all activities. If a person lacks the ability of concentration and stability, he can't complete purposeful activities well, such as ADHD in children and anxiety and depression in adults. Generally, the continuous attention time of 5~7 years old is about 15 minutes; 7~ 10 years old is 20 minutes; 10~ 12 years old is 25 minutes; 02+30 minutes, or even more.

(8) A sound personality. The ultimate goal of mental health is to maintain the integrity of personality. A healthy personality means tolerance, acceptance and kindness to others, instead of haggling over every ounce, complaining about others and finding fault in every way. You should have self-knowledge and be able to evaluate yourself correctly. That is to have a correct outlook on life and values.

(9) Under the premise of not violating everyone's interests, give full play to your unique personality characteristics to a limited extent.

(10) can properly meet the basic needs of individuals without violating social ethics and laws.

[Edit this paragraph] Mental health of adolescents in China.

Some experts predict that in 2 1 century, mental illness will seriously endanger the physical and mental health of teenagers. In recent years, the World Health Organization's investigation and research in many countries has proved that about13 of the world's population has psychological problems of one kind or another at any time. In China, the latest national mental health survey of children aged 4 ~ 16 found that the incidence of psychological and behavioral problems of children in China was as high as 13.9%. The relevant departments also conducted a sample survey of primary and secondary school students, and the results showed that about 2/5 middle school students had psychological barriers to varying degrees. These data show that the mental illness of young people is more serious than that of adults.

China is in the period of social transformation, and social changes will inevitably impact all aspects of family, school and society. Various social contradictions, interpersonal contradictions and many psychological conflicts in adult society will inevitably be highlighted from the psychological state of teenagers. Immature minds are under the pressure of generations, and the faults and fetters in social change bind children's hearts, hands and feet, all of which are worrying. However, as long as attention and prevention are paid as early as possible, it is not too late to start working now. It is very important for parents and teachers to really understand our children and help them get out of the inner maze.

Mental health standards (middle school students)

A person's health includes not only physical health, but also mental health, so what is the standard of mental health?

Maslow and Miethman, famous psychologists, once put forward the 10 standard of whether people's psychology is healthy:

1, whether there is a complete sense of security.

2. Do you have a full understanding of yourself and can properly evaluate your behavior?

3. Whether your life ideals and goals are realistic.

4. Can you keep good contact with the surrounding environment?

5, whether to maintain the integrity and harmony of self-personality.

6. Can you have the ability to learn from experience?

7. Can you maintain proper and good interpersonal relationships?

8. Can you express and control your emotions properly?

9, whether under the premise of collective permission, limited play to their own personality.

10, whether it is within the scope of social norms and properly meets the basic requirements of individuals.

Wang Dengfeng, a scholar in Chinese mainland, summarized the research results from many aspects and put forward several indicators about mental health:

1, know yourself and accept yourself.

A mentally healthy person can experience his own existence value, know himself, accept himself, and have self-knowledge, that is, he can make an appropriate and objective evaluation of his own ability, personality, emotions, advantages and disadvantages, and will not put forward harsh expectations and requirements for himself; You can also set realistic goals and ideals for your life, so you are always satisfied with yourself. At the same time, you can work hard to develop your potential, even if you can't remedy it, you can handle it safely. A mentally unhealthy person lacks self-knowledge and is always dissatisfied with himself. Because the set goals and ideals are unrealistic and the distance between subjective and objective is too far, he always blames himself and condescends. I always ask for perfection, but I can't do it, so I always have a hard time with myself. As a result, my psychological state will never be balanced and I can't get rid of the psychological crisis I feel I will face.

2. Accept others and be kind to others.

Mentally healthy people are willing to associate with others, not only accepting themselves, but also accepting others, accepting others and recognizing the important role of others' existence. He can be understood by others. Accepted by others and collectives, able to communicate with others and have harmonious interpersonal relationships. I can integrate into the small group of life, and I have a strong music group. You can be very happy when you are with your girlfriends, and you can be very lonely when you are quiet. When getting along with people, a positive attitude (such as sympathy, friendliness, trust, respect, etc. ) is always more than negative attitude (such as doubt, jealousy, hostility, etc.). ), so it is adaptable and has enough sense of security in social life. An unhealthy person is always different from the collective and incompatible with the surrounding environment and people.

3. Love life and be willing to work and study.

Mentally healthy people cherish and love life, actively participate in life, and enjoy the fun of life in life. They give full play to their personality and intelligence as much as possible in their work, get satisfaction and encouragement from the results of their work, and regard their work as fun rather than a burden. He can store all kinds of useful information, knowledge and skills accumulated in his work and extract them easily at any time to solve new problems that may be encountered, overcome all kinds of difficulties, and make his behavior more efficient and his work more effective.

4. People with mental health can face and accept the reality, adapt to it actively, and further transform it, instead of escaping from it.

Being able to make an objective understanding and evaluation of the surrounding things and environment and keep good contact with the real environment not only has higher ideals than reality, but also won't indulge in unrealistic fantasies and extravagant hopes. He is full of confidence in his ability and can properly handle all kinds of difficulties and challenges in life, study and work. People with unhealthy psychology often substitute fantasy for reality, dare not face reality, have insufficient courage to accept the challenge of reality, and always complain that they are "born at an inopportune time" or that the social environment is unfair to them, so they cannot adapt to the real environment.

5, can coordinate and control emotions, and have a good mood.

People with mental health always have advantages in positive emotional states such as happiness, optimism, cheerfulness and satisfaction. Although there will be negative emotional experiences such as sadness, worry, sadness and anger, they generally will not last long. He can properly express and control his emotions, be happy and not crazy, worry endlessly, win without arrogance, lose with grace, be humble and not humble, have self-esteem, be conceited and not afraid in social communication, be not greedy for what he can't get, strive to meet his various needs within the scope permitted by social norms, be satisfied with everything he can get, and always be cheerful and optimistic.

6. Harmonious and complete personality.

A mentally healthy person's personality structure, including temperament, ability, personality, ideals, beliefs, motives, interests, outlook on life, etc., can develop in a balanced way, and his personality can be fully, harmoniously and harmoniously displayed in the overall mental outlook of people. The way of thinking is moderate and reasonable, and people can adopt an appropriate and flexible attitude, without biased emotional and behavioral responses to external stimuli, and can keep pace with the pace of society and integrate with the collective.

7. Normal intelligence.

Normal intelligence is the most basic psychological condition of people's normal life and an important standard of mental health. Intelligence is the synthesis of human observation, memory, imagination, thinking and operation ability. If a person is mentally retarded, it cannot be considered as mental health.

8. Psychological behavior conforms to age characteristics.

At different ages of human life development, there are corresponding different psychological behaviors, thus forming unique psychological behavior patterns at different ages. A mentally healthy person should have the same psychological and behavioral characteristics as most of his peers. If a person's psychological behavior often deviates seriously from his age characteristics, it is generally a manifestation of mental unhealthy.

Generally speaking, we can refer to the above standards to examine our mental health. Strictly speaking, mental health needs the help of clinical psychologists' examination and diagnosis, and we can't draw conclusions for ourselves and others at will.

[Edit this paragraph] Abnormal psychology

The essence of psychological abnormality is the cause, mechanism and psychological structure of abnormal psychology. Psychological abnormality is the disorder of brain structure or function or the disorder and distortion of people's response to objective reality. It not only reflects the abnormality of individual self-concept and some abilities, but also reflects the adaptation obstacles in social interpersonal relations and personal life.

But it is not easy to clearly distinguish normal psychology from abnormal psychology.

At present, the most commonly used criteria are as follows:

Self-evaluation criteria: If you think you have psychological problems, of course, this person's psychology will not be completely normal, but it is generally impossible to have major problems. People with basically normal psychology can fully perceive that their psychological activities are different from before, their psychological performance is different from others, and so on. This kind of self-evaluation is called insight in psychiatry.

Psychological test standard: Psychological test can only be formed through representative sampling, establishment of normal samples, standardization of test reliability, test validity and methods, which can avoid experts' subjective opinions to some extent. However, psychological tests also have errors, which can not replace the doctor's diagnosis at present.

Etiological and pathological classification standard: This standard is the most objective, and it is a medical standard that treats psychological problems as physical diseases. If a person's psychological phenomenon or behavior can find the basis of pathological anatomy or pathophysiological changes, he is considered to have mental illness. Its psychological manifestations are regarded as symptoms of the disease, and its etiology is attributed to brain dysfunction.

External evaluation criteria: people's psychological activities are always manifested in all aspects of life. If everyone thinks there is something wrong with someone, it is generally correct. Even if the people nearby don't see it, professionals can judge whether the parties have problems through various performances.

Social adaptation standard: under normal circumstances, the human body maintains a state of physiological and psychological balance, and people can adapt and transform the environment according to the needs of social life. Therefore, normal people's behavior conforms to social norms and can act according to social requirements and moral norms, that is, their behavior conforms to social norms and is adaptive behavior. If a person's ability is damaged due to organic or functional defects, and he can't act in a socially recognized way, so that the consequences of his actions are not suitable for himself or society, he is considered to have psychological abnormalities.

1 Melancholy For various reasons, teenagers will be unhappy, unhappy and taciturn. If you are in this state for a long time, you should pay full attention to it.

Shaanxi expert is too narrow-minded to tolerate or understand others. I'm worried about small things, too, and I love to get to the bottom of it.

3 jealousy is unnatural, uncomfortable and even hostile when others are better than themselves. What's more, they even vent their inner jealousy by cracking down and slandering. -seven kinds of unhealthy psychology in growing up

4 panic has a sense of terror to the environment and things, such as fear of needles, fear of the dark, fear of ghosts and so on. The light person's heart is pounding and his hands are shaking. In severe cases, people can't sleep, insomnia, screaming in their dreams, etc.

5 cruelty is a bit obscene. If you are unhappy, you will vent it on others, and you will beat and scold. Others will tease others for their own happiness, laugh at others, and have no warm heart.

Sensitivity means nervousness and paranoia. People often regard others' unintentional words and irrelevant actions as contempt or ridicule for themselves, so they are moody and their mood changes greatly.

7 Inferiority lacks confidence in yourself and thinks that you are inferior to others in all aspects. No matter in study or life, it always regards itself as a person who is inferior to others and can't lift its head. This inferiority complex has seriously affected my mood, and I feel too depressed because I lack interest in myself.

According to the estimate of the World Health Organization, more than100000 people attempt suicide every year in the world. Among the top 10 diseases with the greatest functional disability, 5 are mental disorders; It is estimated that by 2020, the burden of neuropsychiatric diseases in China will rise to a quarter of the total burden of diseases. In China, it is conservatively estimated that there are about 65.438 billion people who need professional psychological counseling or psychotherapy in their lifetime. The survey shows that among the 654.38+0.3 billion people, there are more than 654.38+0.6 million people with various mental disorders, and among the 654.38+0.5 billion teenagers, there are 30 million teenagers who are troubled by emotions and pressures. Wu Ruihua, a researcher at the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, believes that the lack of professionals engaged in psychological counseling is one of the reasons for the relatively high suicide rate in China. Teacher Hao Bin, an expert in psychological counseling and stress management, suggested in an interview with reporters a few days ago that when you encounter troubles in your life and are ready to choose a counselor to enter the counseling room, you should choose a counselor with a psychological, medical or educational background, professional training, long-term experience in psychological counseling and treatment, and be recognized by professional psychotherapy associations or society.

There are many schools of psychological counseling and therapy, among which psychoanalysis, psychodynamic therapy, visitor-centered therapy, reality therapy, behavioral therapy, interactive therapy, gestalt therapy and rational emotion therapy are the most common. According to the statistics of American Psychological Counseling Association, there are as many as 300 kinds of recorded psychological counseling and treatment, and it is still increasing. Perry Landon, an American psychologist, believes that all these therapies can be roughly divided into two categories. One is "cognitive insight" therapy, which aims to relieve people's psychological confusion and obstacles by changing and improving people's cognitive style. The other is "behavior modification" therapy, which aims to correct people's bad behavior by establishing new conditioned reflex. In fact, in concrete practice, people often use both and complement each other.

[Edit this paragraph] The efforts made by our government for teenagers.

In order to thoroughly implement the Implementation Outline of Citizen's Moral Construction, the State Council's Decision on the Reform and Development of Basic Education and General Office of the State Council's Opinions on Further Strengthening and Improving Moral Education in Primary and Secondary Schools to Adapt to the New Situation, and cooperate with the development of mental health education in primary and secondary schools, on the basis of summarizing the working experience of some experimental areas (experimental schools) of mental health education in primary and secondary schools in Beijing, Xicheng District and Dongcheng District, Under the guidance of experts and professors from the Department of Psychology of Beijing Normal University and Capital Normal University, and with the strong support of the Psychological Counseling Office of Beijing Xicheng District Education Committee, in order to solve the psychological problems of middle school students, we will safeguard their mental health, share the pressure of mental health education for schools and families, and create a healthy and harmonious school, family and social atmosphere. 18 TV series "Free your mind? It was filmed on TV. Perspective of adolescent mental health.

In order to adapt to the school teaching cycle (the actual teaching time is about 15 weeks) and the teaching time (45 minutes), this TV series is divided into 18 episodes (including 3 episodes of teachers' mental health guidance), each episode is 25 minutes. The film corresponds to the school mental health education curriculum and is broadcast once a week. After each episode is broadcast, 20 minutes can be reserved for classroom questions and discussions.

According to the latest ratings survey report made by A.C. Nelson and CCTV sophomore, CCTV's Psychological Interview and Beijing TV's Wide Angle of Life are in the leading position in ratings and audience evaluation. According to the study of its program form and content, combined with the viewing habits of today's audience, especially middle school students, this film takes the case as the core in shooting form, and the host and experts interview the events, so as to achieve the coexistence of events and comments, pay equal attention to sensibility and rationality, and cooperate with relevant materials and scene reproduction to ensure the viewing effect and communication effect of the program to the maximum extent.

The VCD CD of Free Mind-A Perspective of Adolescent Mental Health is directed by Capital Normal University Press and published by Academy Audio-visual Press.

The first 1 episode "My wings are hard? How do students deal with their parents?

In today's social life, the communication between children and parents is becoming more and more important. Students need parents to know their feelings and thoughts about an event, and parents also need to guide their children in life and study. However, in real life, communication between students and parents is generally difficult. This film reproduces a parent's mental journey, so that children can understand their parents' feelings and difficulties, and then through expert comments, students and parents can understand and master the skills of effective communication between the two sides.

The second episode, "Why don't teachers like me?" How do students deal with the relationship with school teachers?

In general, students like a teacher, usually his class, so they get better grades, otherwise the opposite is true. In view of this phenomenon, this film tries to solve the problems between students and teachers through the development and analysis of actual cases.

How do students deal with interpersonal relationships between classmates in the third episode of "Proactive Hand of Friendship"

Through the content of the short film and the comments of experts, guide students to learn how to get along with others in a strange environment, and guide students to communicate with others in a familiar environment, so as to establish students' correct views on communication and friendship.

The fourth episode "My Holiday is My Master" How do students arrange their holiday life?

What kind of festivals are meaningful? How to arrange your holiday life reasonably? How to cash in your holiday plan? This film will give the answer through examples and expert explanations.

Episode 5 "Internet is a double-edged sword" Advantages and disadvantages of the Internet for students.

With the progress and development of society, the network has increasingly affected people's study and life. Network is a double-edged sword, which brings both benefits and disadvantages to students. Through the different use of the Internet by two students, this film truly explains the advantages and disadvantages brought by the Internet to us, especially to students' study and life, so as to guide students to correctly understand and use the Internet and consciously avoid the harm brought by the Internet.

How to guide students to use the Internet correctly in the sixth episode "Get on the Internet Well"

Through the investigation in school, let students realize the purpose and rationality of surfing the Internet. Let students and parents understand the psychology of students surfing the Internet, let students use the Internet correctly, and parents guide students to surf the Internet correctly.

Objective: To enable students to set up correct online goals, use the Internet correctly and arrange their online time reasonably.

The seventh episode "How to Plan Life" The Cultivation of High School Students' Self-awareness and Life Planning

Senior high school is in the period of gradually forming outlook on life, values and world view, and senior high school students have no deep understanding of themselves and their future life. This episode shows the different development paths of three students and the problems they will face after graduation, and tells the importance of strengthening self-awareness and initially constructing life planning. At the same time, through on-the-spot tests, it helps students to make future career plans, so that students can establish a good life plan in advance in high school and study hard for it.

Episode 8 "What should you do in the face of social ugliness? Social shock

Nowadays, the influence of society has gradually penetrated into schools, which has brought many influences to students, both good and bad. This episode analyzes which aspects of society have brought influence to students and the reasons for this bad influence, educates students to avoid the harm brought by society from their own perspective, encourages students to actively participate in social welfare activities and learn more beneficial influences from society. Objective: To guide students to adjust themselves, avoid the bad influence of society, make teachers and classmates care about them and participate in beneficial social activities correctly.

Episode 9 "The Year of the Big Exam"

Through case analysis and on-the-spot interaction among hosts, students and experts, this paper analyzes students' nervousness in the face of big exams (senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination), helps students adjust their emotions and meet the big exams with a good and stable attitude.

The first 10 episode "budding feelings" heterosexual communication

This episode begins with a girl who was discovered by her mother to like a boy before the college entrance examination. Invite experts to discuss students' heterosexual communication and provide some principles and methods to guide students to treat heterosexual communication and puppy love objectively and correctly.

The first 1 1 episode "What's wrong with my mood" Emotional adjustment

In this episode, the report of a student's suicide raises the question of emotional adjustment. Through the dialogue between the guest and the host, the case interspersed, and the real-life shooting in the psychological counseling room, the guiding role of psychological counseling is explained, and some simple and applicable emotional adjustment methods are taught to the students.

Comparison of 12 episode "The Temptation of Famous Brands"

This episode leads to the problems of wearing famous brands and comparing with others through random investigation on campus, and discusses the common phenomenon of comparing with others among students through interspersed cases and expert analysis, and analyzes the reasons, so as to correctly guide students' consumption psychology.

The first 13 episode "Why do I study?" Why do you study?

The purpose is to help students establish correct learning objectives, thus improving their learning initiative. This episode takes the phenomenon that students' academic performance fluctuates greatly in recent years as the breakthrough point, and the psychological counseling teacher looks for and analyzes the reasons, enlightens students to find the phenomenon of "shifting their learning purpose" that may exist, conducts follow-up investigation, analyzes the wrong learning purpose, and guides the correct learning purpose. It shows that each subject has its own fun under the guidance of the correct learning purpose. Illustrate the importance of setting short-term learning goals with examples. Re-emphasize that learning is a process of constant need and satisfaction, and people need lifelong learning.

The first 14 episode "Find a suitable learning method for yourself" learning method

This episode begins with the introduction of three students' learning difficulties. Psychological counseling teachers test their learning types and get their different learning types, so as to give specific guidance. At the same time, it is supplemented by effective learning methods introduced by experts, so that students can find learning methods suitable for their own learning types and improve their academic performance.

15 episode "Mom and Dad, have something to say" family environment response

Lingling, a girl, is sensitive, suspicious and forced to her friends, which makes her friends gradually away from her and brings Lingling nightmares. The purpose is to make students realize the importance of a good family environment to their healthy growth, and learn to actively improve and cope with it. The psychological teacher found the deep reason of family disharmony. There are several ways for children to cope with family disharmony. Combine cases, right and wrong respectively.

Free Mind Special Edition —— Teachers' Mental Health Care (Part One)

Teachers are engineers of the human soul. They preach, teach and dispel doubts. However, at present, teachers often face many mental health problems such as job burnout, life pressure, social evaluation, interpersonal relationship, professional cognition, professional confusion and so on. The purpose of these three episodes is to answer the questions of senior professors and scholars through talk shows, so that teachers can realize the importance of mental health knowledge.

[Edit this paragraph] Appendix: Views of historical figures on mental health

Let's take a look at the definition of mental health by scholars in history:

For example, ingrid thinks: "Mental health refers to a continuous mental state, in which the parties can adapt well and have the vitality of life, and can fully develop their physical and mental potential; This is a positive enrichment. Not just mental illness. "Mai Linger believes:" Mental health refers to people's most efficient and pleasant adaptation to the environment and each other. Not only to be efficient, but also to be satisfied, or to accept the norms of life happily, but to have both. A mentally healthy person should be able to keep calm mood, keen intelligence, behavior suitable for social environment and pleasant temperament. "Masler believes that a mentally healthy person should have the following qualities: (1) having an efficient perception of reality; (2) Have spontaneous but not vulgar thoughts; (3) Being able to accept yourself and others; (4) Be independent in the environment and enjoy peace. (5) attaching importance to philosophy and moral theory; (6) Interested in ordinary things, even in daily work; (7) Being able to establish deep feelings with a few people and having the spirit of helping others; (8) Have a democratic attitude, creative ideas and a sense of humor; (9) Can experience joy and hurt. 1946 the third international conference on mental health defined this as: the so-called mental health refers to the development of one's mental state to the best within the scope of physical, intellectual and emotional adaptation to the mental health of others. The concrete manifestations are: the coordination of body, intelligence and emotion; Adapt to the environment and be humble to each other in interpersonal relationships; Have a sense of happiness; In my work and career, I can give full play to my ability and live an efficient life. In addition to this definition, people also explain it from different aspects. It is generally believed that mental health can give full play to the individual's greatest potential and properly handle and adapt to the relationship between people and between people and social environment. Specifically, it includes two meanings: first, compared with most people, its psychological function is normal and there is no mental illness; Second, we can actively adjust our psychological state, adapt to the environment, and develop and improve our personal life effectively and constructively. Based on the above point of view, scholars believe that mental health refers to the harmony of physiology, psychology and society in the process of adapting to the environment and maintaining a good psychological function. It is believed that people's mental health includes the following seven aspects: normal intelligence, emotional health, sound will, coordinated behavior, adaptation to interpersonal relationships, moderate response and psychological characteristics adapted to age.

Normal intelligence

Normal intelligence is the most basic psychological condition of normal life and the primary standard of mental health. The International Classification of Diseases proposed by the World Health Organization (WHO) regards mental retardation or retardation as a psychological disorder and abnormal behavior.

Good at coordinating and controlling emotions, in a good mood.

People with mental health can always maintain a happy, cheerful, confident and satisfied mood, be good at finding fun from life and be full of hope for life. More importantly, good emotional stability.

Have a strong will quality.

A healthy will has the following characteristics: clear and reasonable purpose and high consciousness; Good at analyzing the situation and being decisive; Strong will, perseverance and strong psychological endurance; Good self-control, not only has the firmness of realistic goals, but also can restrain the desire, motivation, emotion and behavior that interfere with the realization of goals, and does not indulge willfulness.

Harmonious interpersonal relationship

Its performance: first, it is willing to communicate with people, with stable and extensive interpersonal relationships and bosom friends; Second, maintain an independent and complete personality in communication, have self-knowledge and be neither humble nor supercilious; Third, we can objectively evaluate others, make up for our own shortcomings with people's strengths, be lenient with others, live in harmony and be helpful; Fourth, there are more positive attitudes than negative attitudes in communication. Actively adapt to and transform the environment, and maintain the integrity and health of personality.

The main signs of personality integrity and health are:

① There are no obvious defects and deviations in the structural elements of personality;

(two) have a clear sense of self, and do not produce confusion of self-identity;

③ Take a positive outlook on life as the core of personality and use it to effectively control your behavior;

④ It has relatively complete and unified psychological characteristics.

Psychological behavior conforms to age characteristics.

A person's psychological behavior often seriously deviates from his age characteristics, which is generally a manifestation of mental unhealthy.