How much influence does parents' divorce have on their children? How to get children out of the shadow of their parents' divorce?
A sad thing is that a girl of 12 years old in Hunan committed suicide by jumping off a building at school. The reason is that her parents divorced. How much influence does parents' divorce have on their children? Don't think that children don't know anything, just look at this little girl who committed suicide by jumping off a building. The harm caused by parents' divorce may be permanent pain, but she is lucky and won't end her life as early as this little girl.
It is reported that the girl who committed suicide also left a suicide note, which read:? I hope mom will get out of the shadows and remarry with dad. I hope my father can get rid of bad habits and make my mother laugh often. ? I miss the days of a happy family of three and hope my parents can remarry.
After the parents divorced, the husband and wife did not get rid of it. The little girl's mother didn't get out of the failed marriage. Her mother is under great pressure and very strict with herself. She missed her father and never saw her again. It can be seen that the parents of the little girl did not get rid of the divorce and failed to start a really beautiful life.
Under such circumstances, the mother failed to adjust her mentality, which brought great pressure to the little girl. Besides, children are under great pressure to study now. They used to be the apple of their eye at home, and they didn't suffer much. Therefore, their psychological endurance is very poor, and they finally embarked on the road of suicide.
The children's tragedy is caused by their parents.
The harm of parents' divorce
From the experience of the little girl above, we can know that the direct cause of the little girl's tragedy is the divorce of her parents. A beautiful home in the little girl's heart is gone. I can't see my parents often, and there is a big psychological gap.
For parents who have children, it is very irresponsible to choose divorce to seek relief. You know, because of some contradictions between husband and wife, parents choose divorce to seek relief in order not to catch up with life. Although I am relieved, it may ruin my child's life. Let children live in an incomplete family since childhood.
After the divorce, I didn't take good care of my children.
After divorce, parents who thought they could get rid of it did not really get rid of it. Instead, I am immersed in the shadow of a failed marriage. I only feel that I am the most hurt, but I ignore that in this failed marriage, the most bitter and hurt is actually the poor child.
After divorce, children can't be comforted as soon as possible, and they can't be given a new good start, so that children have been under endless pressure, which is one of the reasons why children go to extremes and eventually lead to tragedy. You know, children's hearts are fragile, especially those who live a good life. They have never been hit since childhood and are more vulnerable than their divorced parents.
Did not exercise the child's mind
Today's children, it can be said that many of them grew up under the care of their parents, and they have never suffered or suffered since childhood. This is because parents have good feelings and children can grow up slowly. However, when the parents' feelings broke down, the baby who was originally raised in the greenhouse by their parents could no longer bear the wind and rain outside.
Divorce, for families with children, should be carefully considered. What should the children do? Whether you can bear such a blow. If parents have really made the decision to choose divorce, they should first consider how their children should handle it, do a good job in their ideological work, actively enlighten their children and give them more care. Even at school, they should communicate with their teachers, make them care more and help them look after them.
For children, let them exercise more at an early age, learn to be independent, learn to take care of themselves, start with what they can, and try to let them do it themselves, so that children will be more independent, psychologically more tolerant and stronger, so that they will not pay for their parents' marriage and add another misfortune to their unfortunate marriage. What did you say?/Sorry?
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