I don't want to live in a nursing home with people I don't know. When you get old, find a favorite place, live with a group of like-minded people, drink tea and play chess together on weekdays, travel occasionally, and take care of each other every day, which not only reduces the burden on children, but also eliminates the sense of loss and loneliness. Isn't that a good thing?
Old people need not only good food and housing, but also care, love and friendship.
Old people live alone, eating three meals a day consumes time and energy, and often leaves leftovers, wasting a lot of food. Living with many people can avoid these problems to some extent. Everyone can share the cost of living and reduce the per capita cost of living. Spend less money, but more people can eat together. I feel delicious after eating it several times. Why not?
Disadvantages of holding a group to support the elderly
A thousand people may have a thousand living habits. Although everyone has a good relationship on weekdays, they have never really lived together. This kind of close group pension will lead to contradictions over time because of different lifestyles.
This mode of providing for the aged really envies many people, but it has great limitations: first, the physical condition of the elderly is better; Second, everyone has the same interests and hobbies and has a certain economic foundation; Third, everyone should be cheerful and open-minded. We have been in contact for many years and understand each other. When problems arise, we can tolerate each other and ignore each other. Only in this way can we "grasp" tightly and persist for a long time.
It is said that distance produces beauty, and when "bosom friends" meet occasionally, there will be a feeling of "drinking a thousand cups of bosom friends". If we are together every day, it may be counterproductive; It is said that "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water", and it is best to keep a certain distance between people, even if they are "bosom friends". So I think it's better to support the elderly at home.
The situation of holding a group to support the elderly varies from place to place. According to my analysis, those scattered groups have some mental problems, mainly two factors: one is money. People with low incomes are unwilling to pay more because of their high living standards; Selfishly encounter public welfare expenses and don't want to share them; Suspicious people suspect that the people who take care of money for everyone are dishonest and are not at ease when they take out money. The second is comparison. Facing high-income people, envy; Seeing a well-connected person, I am angry; When you meet a very skilled person, you will be jealous. These factors will gradually make people feel alienated, and will also affect the people around them, eventually leading to the breakup of everyone. Practice has proved that it is difficult to form a group without a peaceful mind; Only with a correct world outlook can a group be formed.
A new way of holding a group to support the elderly
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There are some drawbacks in the traditional close-knit way of providing for the aged. Sometimes the ideal is full, but the reality is very skinny. Now there are some new ways to support the elderly by holding a group, which can not only maintain the family atmosphere, but also avoid its shortcomings, so that the elderly who want to support the elderly have more choices. Today, I will share with you three new ways of providing for the aged-
0 1/ Migratory birds (pension)
There is a "migratory bird" way to hold a group for the elderly, which is very popular in recent years. For example, a group of elderly people live in Hainan, Shandong, Guizhou and other places according to climate change, which has the characteristics of combining old-age care with tourism. Because everyone needs to take care of each other when they leave their hometown and go to a strange place, and because most people adopt a migratory bird lifestyle, the time for "holding a group" is short and there are relatively few problems.
The key to "supporting the elderly" is to choose the organizer. There are two ways. One is to entrust a qualified travel agency or company. The staff should be experienced, familiar with the local customs of the destination and convenient for arranging accommodation; It is safer to have an accompanying doctor and complete facilities. The second is to select the person in charge among those who participate in "holding the group to support the elderly". The person in charge should have a fair heart, be willing to serve everyone, be healthy and have good communication skills.
In addition to selecting organizers, it is also necessary to formulate rules and regulations to be observed within the group, not only considering the general direction, but also considering small details such as eating and drinking Lazar. As the saying goes, no matter how clever a person is, he has long-term ideas, and it is inevitable that he will encounter new problems when implementing them. Therefore, when encountering new problems, all members should maintain a mutual humility and seek common ground while reserving differences.
02/ Holding a group with young people (sharing a building for generations)
Hangzhou once launched an old-age care service called "multi-generation sharing the same building". Young people participating in the project can live in a suite in a nursing home as long as they pay the rent in 300 yuan every month. The requirement is to participate in voluntary service for the elderly every month.
According to the person in charge, this is a new reform of the old-age service model. Mainly by enriching the social scenes that young people and old people experience together, the old people can rekindle their enthusiasm for life, actively participate in life, integrate into social circles, and establish new neighborhood relations. So far, the effect is not bad.
03/ "old man" and "little old man" hold a group (time bank)
Last year, a pension model called "Time Bank" gradually emerged in China.
To put it simply, this new model is that old people of different ages hold each other in groups, and relatively young and healthy "little old people" spend time helping "old people" do housework and other services and accumulate "time coins". When they are old, they can use these accumulated time coins to be taken care of in their later years, so as to realize "providing for the elderly with the old" and let mutual support for the elderly get a virtuous circle.
This model is undoubtedly a good choice, especially when everyone's hands and feet are still neat, no money, no exercise, and a certain nursing guarantee in his later years.