From the teacher's talk, I feel that this is a standard student with learning difficulties. With the psychology of hating iron and not producing steel, the teacher has given the students a conclusion, "Don't study". The head teacher must have taken great pains to negotiate and compete with parents for many times. Qi Xin and Qi Xin worked together, showing helplessness, and had to let the flowers fall, let nature take its course, fly away and float with the wind.
Saving people and saving themselves is my consistent position. It is my pursuit and belief to give someone a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in my hand.
And promised the class teacher's request to meet this "student who doesn't study".
When the head teacher brought the student to my office, I felt that the student was not hopeless, because he could cooperate with the teacher to meet me.
But I saw the students with their heads down, their faces cold and serious. This may be the usual performance of students who have made mistakes coming into the office and waiting for the teacher to blame education.
Fortunately, after seeing off the students, the class teacher said "there is class" and left in a hurry. I can't imagine what the head teacher would say to the students if he were here!
Now that the students are here, the teacher should take the initiative to break the embarrassment.
First of all, thank you for listening to the teacher. Now thank you for your dedicated and responsible class teacher for contacting me and letting you come here so that we can meet again.
At this time, the students raised their heads slightly, and their nervous faces relaxed a lot. Maybe they thought my teacher didn't have a stern face, scolded or scolded a few words, and said a few words of thanks.
I further explained to the students: "I am an ordinary history teacher and a mental health education counselor in the whole school. I insist on my professional characteristics: I will keep the personal problems of visitors confidential unless it involves safety and illegality. " The purpose is to reassure students and facilitate seamless communication with themselves. The students' tight hands were loosened and they smiled, which was still unnatural. He must have been so comfortable for a long time, and few people communicate with him like this.
Teacher: How do you like going to school?
Student: I like studying, but I can't. And often have a stomachache, showing helplessness, which may be a responsibility for children's poor study.
Teacher: Do parents know about stomachache? Have you seen a doctor?
Student: My parents know, and they took me to the city hospital for examination. The doctor said that the reason could not be found, and suggested seeing a psychologist. My parents and I don't agree to see a psychiatrist.
The fact makes me understand that this student's stomachache is not caused by organic diseases, but mainly psychological problems. I'm afraid to see a psychiatrist, because when I go to see a psychiatrist, others will think I'm insane and abnormal.
Teacher: What do you usually like?
Health: I have no hobbies. If you don't know your hands after class, you will lie prone on the table or be in a daze. No good classmates and friends.
You can't live without sunshine or friends. Otherwise, the sky is dim, life is gloomy and the mind is closed. I dare not delve into this problem, so I turned to study it.
Teacher: When did your stomachache start?
Student: I remember when I was in the fourth grade of primary school, I went to school in Xingzhi. The requirements of the school were very strict, and I was always watched by teachers everywhere. If I am not careful, I will be educated by the teacher. Therefore, always be careful everywhere, be careful, and be on tenterhooks all day long.
Ordinary students have this problem when they go to a strict private school for the first time. For active students, teachers will soon notice changes, and targeted education will make them adapt faster. But for introverted students, teachers only see self-discipline and discipline, and will ignore them. Positive pressure "You just don't understand my heart". How to get rid of it, only pretend to beg for sympathy and care, leave school and go home. When I entered junior high school, I was nervous and couldn't keep up. I only said "I can't learn", and my parents and teachers all said "study hard, how can I not learn?" . The subtext behind me is that you didn't study hard. Students understand, what should I do? I can only say that my stomach hurts and I feel uncomfortable. You can't be with me anymore!
This problem cannot be directly exposed, and students will firmly deny it in order to maintain their self-esteem.
Teacher: At that time, parents knew how to deal with your stomachache.
Student: I don't go to school, I don't see a doctor, I stay at home for a while.
Teacher: How about staying at home for a while?
Health: It will be much lighter.
Teacher: It seems that you have had a stomachache for several years. I have a stomachache and I want to stay with you all the time. Are you also very upset?
Health: nod. I feel that this teacher knows himself very well.
Teacher: When is the stomachache light and heavy?
Student: Holiday is light, but school is heavy, especially English class.
Teacher: How is your English study?
Health: Not good.
Teacher: I know you want to learn well. Can you tell me how you learned it?
Student: Recite in the morning and listen in class. Helpless always can't recite, can't understand in class, and can't listen. How could I be so stupid! The students are full of hatred.
Teacher: If you can't learn, what will the teacher do to you?
Health: first educate and persuade patiently, then reprimand and beat.
Teacher: It seems that you are working hard and want to study hard. Teachers also hate iron not to produce, I hope you can learn well. Have you ever thought about learning methods:
Health: I know I'm stupid. There won't be any good way. I can't learn anyway. Besides, I asked who can tell me? Students show jealousy and inferiority.
Teacher: Just try it.
1. It's silly of me to remove the word "I can't learn" from my life. In other words, I will study hard, I will learn well and I will be excellent if I work hard.
2. Try to communicate with classmates, observe the state of good study, imitate, and don't ask the teacher for advice. Teachers like students who like to ask questions.
3. Make a plan every day, set a time to learn the prescribed content, and read it repeatedly, especially for languages and English, but fortunately, English has corresponding reading, follow-up, first follow-up, and let yourself read later, so as to achieve recitation and step by step.
4. Actively communicate with students, smile, be sincere, listen more and praise more. Take part in more group activities and express yourself boldly. How big the heart is, how big the dream is, and how big the stage is. Group activities will give you wings to fly.
5. Reflect in time, one every day, and persist. This is spiritual self-encouragement, which is the continuous summary and sublimation of experience.
Teacher: Did you write down some of my suggestions?
Health: I see!
Teacher: Tell me about it.
Student: The student's face is uncomfortable. Obviously, I didn't remember, but I refused to say that I didn't remember for my own face.
Teacher: Take notes this time!
You're repeating! Do you understand? Can you do it?
Health: I will nod.
I have never met such a teacher. This educational method is not a simple preaching, but a method of pointing out and demanding implementation.
Teacher: Now that you remember and understand, I believe you will do well. Let's talk sometime next week! I hope you can take the initiative and don't forget!
Health: I'll try my best. Speak with strength and show confidence.
Teacher: Is there anything else to communicate? The student shook his head shyly. The monitor is missing.
Teacher: Feel free to communicate with me if you have any questions. You'd better leave me a message, and I'll get back to you sometime!
No problem, let's call it a day. It's been almost an hour.
I'm glad to see you this time. I look forward to seeing you differently next time.
I avoided the problem of students' stomachache, because I know that stomachache is a superficial problem, but it is actually a psychological problem. Only by letting children build up confidence, find a scientific learning method and have a positive attitude, learn and learn well, other problems will be solved. At the same time, there is no teaching method to delve into the subject teachers. This is not the problem that students talk about in front of them. I still want to maintain the image of the teacher, establish the dignity of the teacher, and the students cooperate with the teacher.