(2) Don't pay too much attention to children: Don't let our family always revolve around children, which will make children full of femininity, impolite, willful and "crazy". As parents, we should not pay too much attention to children, nor should we focus on children. We should encourage and guide children to concentrate on doing their own things, and don't hinder adults from doing things and talking. It is necessary to respect children politely. Don't be noisy when the guests come, but be polite.
(3) Slow response: We will never meet children's material requirements. When they are satisfied, they should not be satisfied immediately. Keep the child waiting and be patient. Because of the pursuit of life, even small goals will not be smooth sailing. A positive life requires waiting, patience, overcoming difficulties and striving.
(4) Don't go with the flow: Don't passively wait for the care of the environment because of busy work, or let bad living habits erode children. We should set an example, establish a good regular living environment, good eating habits, and form the habit of watching TV and sleeping on time.
(5) Don't ask children: Don't have a begging and pleading attitude in front of children, and don't show helplessness. The education of children should be serious, the requirements should be appropriate, it is estimated that children can do it, and they should be encouraged, trusted and respected. Language and tone should be short and firm. If children do well, they should be praised or rewarded. If the child is disobedient, he should also seriously educate and criticize.
(6) Don't do everything yourself: When children can take care of themselves, we shouldn't do nothing. After a long time, children will become dependent, timid and lack self-confidence. Encourage children to do what they can as soon as possible, gradually increase the difficulty of children's work, praise children more, and create a pleasant working atmosphere. Slowly, children's independence and self-confidence will be exercised.
(7) Do not give in: In the face of children crying, keep calm, as if nothing has happened, make it clear and never give in. Don't obey children when they cry, and don't insult and hurt their self-esteem. Say something interesting to distract the child.
Give reasons and criticisms afterwards, and even give indifference. Sometimes indifference is also an effective way to teach children to obey. Parents' correct handling of their children will make them sensible, reasonable, self-controlled and caring.
(8) We should unify our thinking: sometimes fathers take care of children, mothers take care of children, sometimes parents take care of children, and grandparents take care of children. This will make children have no sense of right and wrong, distorted personality, and sometimes cause family conflicts. Only by unifying the understanding and methods can a family teach its children well.
If one of our parents is educating our children, all family members will give support and tacit cooperation. Even if adult education is improper, others should not interfere face to face. This is the true love for children. We should use scientific love to protect the healthy growth of children.