Psychological case analysis of college students' interpersonal relationship: case introduction
Chen, female, aged 19, is a sophomore majoring in business English. People are weak, depressed, whispering, shy and unnatural. She claims that she often can't sleep, the quality of her sleep is poor, she can't keep studying, and she is in a bad mood. After careful inquiry and in-depth discussion, I realized that her relationship with her classmates was not harmonious, which made her feel lonely and depressed.
Chen comes from a remote village in Henan Province. His parents are farmers, and his mother suffers from chronic diseases due to overwork, and her family is poor. There are two brothers and sisters. She is introverted, inarticulate, likes to be alone and seldom associates with others. But she was thrifty since childhood, never compared with her classmates, studied hard and got excellent grades. However, since she went to college, she found that her previous lifestyle was completely unsuitable for college life. She wants to integrate into the class group, but she doesn't know how to communicate with others, and she doesn't know how to deal with the interpersonal relationship between dormitory students and class students, which makes her brain broken. For more than a year, she didn't get along well with her classmates, and she had several conflicts with her roommates, and the relationship was quite tense. She often goes alone, rarely communicates with her classmates, and rarely participates in group activities, so she is very indifferent to her classmates. She feels that she doesn't have a bosom friend who can understand and talk to each other, and she often feels particularly lonely and inferior. Long-term distress and anxiety made her suffer from neurasthenia. Frequent insomnia and headaches make her mentally tired and weak. She tried to relieve her pain by burying herself in her studies, but it backfired. Because it was difficult to concentrate on learning, the effect was poor, and the grades dropped sharply. Later, I failed the exam. She felt panic and lost confidence in continuing her studies. This kind of psychology made her gradually lose interest in college life, lost in the web she weaved, and once gave up on herself.
A Case Study on Interpersonal Psychology of College Students: A Case Study
Through in-depth understanding of the situation, judging from the professional knowledge of psychology, this classmate belongs to interpersonal disorder. The reasons for this situation mainly include the following factors.
(A) self-cognitive bias
In people's psychological process, cognition is the foundation. It directly affects and determines the mood and will, and dominates the behavior orientation. Correct cognition will produce healthy emotions and will; Wrong cognition leads to negative emotions, will and bad behavior. Self-cognition is people's understanding or evaluation of themselves. There are some misunderstandings in students' cognition and self-cognition of interpersonal relationship, and they lack a clear understanding of the significance and importance of interpersonal relationship, serious thinking and positive attitude.
(2) Personality defect
Personality is a person's stable attitude system and habitual behavior, and an important part of personality structure. A good personality can change and make up for some negative factors of temperament, which is of positive significance to life. At the same time, a good personality is the basic guarantee of physical and mental health. On the contrary, bad personality not only seriously affects interpersonal relationships and people's growth and progress, but also is very harmful to physical and mental health and easily leads to mental illness. The student is introverted, withdrawn, not good at expressing himself, and some are self-enclosed, which has a negative effect on interpersonal relationships. She won't and won't take the initiative to contact with her classmates, which leads to the lack of corresponding understanding and consideration among them, resulting in indifference and disharmony. Once you have a conflict with your classmates and can't handle it correctly, the communication with your classmates will inevitably be unsatisfactory.
(C) interpersonal skills defects
Communication between people requires a certain ability. Because of my personality and family life, this classmate is not good at communicating with others and lacks interpersonal skills. Usually, I don't like to talk, I often go alone, I'm not good at dealing with people, and I lack exercise in this area, which leads to disharmony with my dormitory classmates and classmates. When there are contradictions or conflicts between classmates, she is helpless and will not resolve the contradictions and improve the relationship. Her lack of interpersonal skills is also the internal factor for her to get into interpersonal difficulties.
In a word, the student's problems in these three aspects have formed psychological obstacles to her interpersonal relationship, which has caused the student who had good grades to get into trouble in her college life for more than a year. She not only failed to deal with interpersonal relationships, but also damaged her health, causing panic about life and losing the confidence to persist in learning.
Psychological case analysis of college students' interpersonal relationship: processing flow analysis
This situation of classmate Chen has aroused my great concern. After communicating with her professional class Committee and classmates in the dormitory, I basically understood her actual situation. In order to better solve the problem, I specially consulted the full-time psychological teacher of the school and implemented multi-channel and all-round psychological consultation.
(A) the use of conversation counseling
Before talking to Mr. Chen, I first got a detailed understanding of the situation through his professional class committee and students in the dormitory, and according to the feedback from the students, I went to the school psychological counseling room to consult a full-time psychological counselor in order to adopt a more targeted way of talking. I follow the principle of respecting and understanding students when using the conversation method. In my opinion, respecting students' personality and dignity, respecting each student's right to exist, and acknowledging her equal status with others in personality are the prerequisites for the success of psychological counseling. At the same time, I also use the method of empathy, put myself in Chen's position to consider the problem, to better understand her and understand her. She felt my respect for her, stopped resisting and refusing, and gradually confided to me.
(2) Use rational cognitive therapy to improve their correct understanding of college life.
On the basis of gaining Chen's trust, I combined my professional knowledge of psychology with her irrational cognitive attitude, applied rational cognitive therapy, and seriously discussed the characteristics of college students and the significance of interpersonal relationship with her from the theoretical issues of healthy group consciousness to how to correctly understand and treat the shielding between classmates. On the basis of theory and practice, I made a specific targeted and rational analysis, and clearly pointed out her shortcomings in this respect. Make them gradually realize and change the unreasonable cognitive structure and way of thinking in the past as soon as possible, correct unreasonable beliefs and establish a good sense of group.
(3) Improve personality and cultivate interpersonal skills.
In view of this student's personality defect, I actively encourage her to improve her personality, which is an important internal factor to improve interpersonal relationship. For example, she is introverted and doesn't want to talk much. I suggest that she start from a small scale, first communicate with students in the dormitory 1-2 kinder, and gradually expand to the whole dormitory and the whole class. Then give her specific suggestions and methods about personality optimization, such as reading more books on how to improve interpersonal skills and making more friends. Guide her to set a higher goal in life, actively communicate with classmates, actively participate in group activities, increase her knowledge and exercise her will in colorful social practice, pay attention to learning the excellent qualities of others' personality, and overcome her own weaknesses, so as to continuously improve her personality.
(d) communicate with teachers and related students in this major.
In order to better understand Chen's performance in class, I have communicated with her teachers many times, always paying attention to her state in class, hoping that teachers will give her more care and encouragement, so that she can feel the warmth of the group and the care of teachers. After studying, I also consciously arranged several students with good quality to take her to participate in activities and talk with her, helping her to relax her vigilance, treat her classmates kindly, overcome shyness and integrate into the big environment.
In view of the students' inferiority complex and lack of interpersonal skills, behavioral therapy was adopted to strengthen practical training. When she was absent from class, I discussed the importance of interpersonal communication with her and told her to grasp the four principles of interpersonal communication: respect, mutual assistance, frankness and tolerance. Encourage her to be considerate of others in life, considerate of those who care about her, exercise patience, take the overall situation into consideration, be polite to others, learn to praise others with appropriate language, make positive criticism and self-criticism, and more importantly, earnestly practice and persevere.
According to the above steps, the student has been counseled and communicated for nearly three months. With her active cooperation and serious practice, good results have been achieved. First, her spirit and physique recovered quickly and her mood improved a lot. Second, she stopped rejecting her dormitory classmates and began to actively communicate with them. She also got along well with the cadres and classmates in the class and made two or three good friends. Third, her personality has become much more cheerful and optimistic, and she is full of energy and relaxed all day. Symptoms such as insomnia and headache basically disappeared. Fourth, she studied intently, with high efficiency, and her grades improved rapidly, which re-established her confidence and determination in learning. She finally dispelled the fog of interpersonal relationship, enjoyed the sunshine and rain of a happy life, and spent a good time in college with her classmates.
Psychological case analysis of college students' interpersonal relationship: case enlightenment
This case has a far-reaching impact on the work of counselors:
(A) to guide college students to correctly understand and evaluate themselves
After entering the university, it is an important reason for college students to have inferiority complex that they cannot correctly understand and evaluate themselves. In study and life, counselors should pay attention to cultivating college students' correct self-awareness, strengthening students' adaptation to the external environment, helping them to correctly position themselves, accept their own advantages and disadvantages, actively communicate with classmates, actively participate in various cultural and sports activities, and actively communicate with classmates to improve their interpersonal skills.
(2) Strengthen college students' adaptability education and frustration education.
After entering the university, some students can't adapt to university life well, and psychological problems are easy to appear in similar situations. In daily work, counselors should attach great importance to freshmen's adaptation education, help students realize role change, guide them to change passive learning methods into active learning, and actively take measures to adapt to the new environment, rather than let the environment adapt to themselves. Pay attention to cultivating students' frustration ability, strengthen frustration education, and help students learn to find solutions to problems, rather than avoiding problems or even giving up on themselves.
(3) Carry out self-mental health education and realize self-consultation.
In life, counselors should actively encourage students to carry out self-mental health education, strengthen self-education, and at the same time strengthen college students' self-psychological training, self-psychological motivation and self-psychological consultation to help students solve various psychological problems from their own perspectives. For people with low self-esteem, help them open their hearts, let their hearts fully communicate with the outside world, dispel the haze in their depressed hearts, and release their psychological problems and pressures in time.
(D) Attach importance to theoretical guidance and improve comprehensive ability.
In study and life, counselors should not only actively organize more cultural and sports activities to increase students' communication opportunities, but also attach importance to theoretical guidance. Teachers should encourage students to consult books and materials in libraries, electronic reading rooms and China Knowledge Network to improve their theoretical literacy. Interpersonal communication ability is not innate, it has its own characteristics and certain skills, and there are many studies on it. Teachers should guide students to read more relevant knowledge, improve their understanding of this ability in theory and guide their practice, so as to solve more practical problems and avoid the situation mentioned in the case.
As a counselor, I sincerely hope that my students can grow up healthily. This case has a great influence on me. It is like a mirror, more like a wake-up call, reminding me to carefully observe the psychological state of students, solve all kinds of problems encountered in the process of students' growth in time, and strive to help students form a good attitude, correctly handle interpersonal relationships, and form a personal network conducive to their own development, so as to finish their studies happily and go to work smoothly. An excellent counselor should take respect as the sail, let love help navigation, clear the fog that affects students' growth, and help students sail far away.