In the second year after falling in love, the two of us chose to get married. My father-in-law has a lot of complaints about our marriage, because I have a junior high school education and my husband graduated from college, so my husband's attitude towards me is also very cold.
After I got married, I tried my best to please my father-in-law, but I still couldn't get his understanding.
I gave birth to my first child after I got married, but the birth of my first child didn't improve my family status. Because I am a daughter, my father-in-law has a big opinion of me. During my stay in hospital, my grandfather didn't even look at my granddaughter.
My husband wants me to have a second child when the child grows up. Considering my husband's feelings, I agreed. Maybe I missed the boy. The second child is still a daughter. To tell the truth, I was very tired during that time and didn't know what to do.
Father-in-law is still a traditional thought, thinking that boys are good at continuing the family incense, so they have always encouraged us to regenerate.
In this way, I had three children in five years. Fortunately, the third child is a son.
But this year, my life has also been extremely painful.
Because of having children, my body recovered slowly. After five years of marriage, I gave birth to three children, and my body fell to the root of the disease. For me, I have suffered a lot in this family. The people I hate most are not my husband and mother-in-law, but my father-in-law, because my father-in-law prefers boys to girls.
After giving birth, I not only need a person to take care of three children, but also serve the daily life of my family. My father-in-law thinks that these things are what a daughter-in-law must do. For the sake of children, I chose to endure for five years.
If I had to choose again, I would never have three children.
After listening to her story, maybe everyone will have a little feeling in their hearts, and the concept of son preference still exists. For a woman, what kind of marriage to choose is what kind of family to marry, so keep your eyes open before marriage.
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Marriage cannot be reconciled.
Johnson once said: "People who marry only for money are extremely evil; People who marry only for love are extremely stupid. "
A happy marriage is a feeling of two people with the same interests. Before getting married, we should not only consider whether the two parties are suitable, but also consider each other's family situation, because family happiness and harmony are often the basis of a woman's happiness. If we can't even do this, there will be no happiness in marriage.
Marriage is a gamble. Many women are too blind in the face of marriage, so they will be black and blue in the end.
If you have suffered too much injustice in your marriage, then in the end, you should also stop loss in time and don't waste time with people who are not worth it. This is your most correct choice.
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The other person's family is also very important.
Maybe many people will think that I married him, not his family, so as long as the two of us are happy, but in fact this idea is the stupidest.
A family's acceptance of you also represents their attitude towards you.
Many women may think that as long as they work hard, they will be recognized by their families, but in fact this idea is wrong.
The family style of a family represents the quality and self-restraint of a family. Marrying a reasonable family is a woman's greatest happiness.
Socrates once said, "A good marriage can only bring you happiness, but a bad marriage can make you a philosopher."
For women, never be a slave to love. In love, we should also learn to know ourselves correctly. Only in this way can the affection between two people become deeper and deeper.
True love is based on respect. It is important for two people or two families to respect each other. If a woman can't even get the most basic respect in her married life, then in the end, her married life will only be your painful cage.
Love yourself, don't be too humble because of love. Only by learning to love yourself can others love you. In a family, women should hold their heads high, be themselves, be in no hurry to contact anyone, and work hard for their own happiness.