Before the two collaborated, they had their own family business.
Zhao Benshan's ex-wife is working alone
When Zhao Benshan was in the trough of his life, she married him, single-mindedly as a good wife and mother; when Zhao Benshan's fame rose, the gap between the two couples is getting bigger and bigger, communication is more and more difficult, she dragged her children to leave him silently, and sincerely wish that he finds a new partner as he wishes... ...She is Zhao Benshan's married wife Ge Shuzhen, an ordinary rural woman from the northeast. A flash of 14 years has passed, Ge Shuzhen did not borrow a big star ex-husband "hype" over their own, and did not say a bad word about her ex-husband, from the "lively" media vision disappeared without a trace... ...Where in the world has she been and what in the world has she been doing for the past 14 years?
Recently, our special correspondent through the search, finally learned: Ge Shuzhen since 1991 and Zhao Benshan divorce, actually so far celibate, and has been working hard! Her behavior is forced, or stubborn and self-reliance? And what kind of inspiration can she give to divorced women? Shuzhen was born in 1960 in Shilong Village, Lianhua Township, Kaiyuan County, Liaoning Province. Because of the family's poverty, she dropped out of elementary school when she was in the third grade. in early 1979, she was introduced to Zhao Benshan, a "poor boy" from Lotus Village in Lotus Township, and soon got married. After the marriage, Zhao Benshan sang everywhere with his erhu, and Ge Shuzhen took care of all the farm work and housework.
By the end of 1979, Ge gave birth to a smart and healthy daughter, Zhao Yufang. But in 1982, she also gave birth to a son, Zhao TieDan was born, she was painfully aware that TieDan is a deaf and mute child, but also suffered from chondromalacia, emphysema and heart disease. Zhao swore to his wife, "I'm going to work my ass off to make money, and I'm going to cure my son's disease!" In order to realize his promise, Zhao Benshan began to struggle hard, insisting on his own color performance, and made rapid progress. 1983, he participated in the first rural small play transfer show held in Liaoning Province, with the image of the blind Zhang Zhi in "Wrestling the Three Strings," which was a hit.
At the end of 1984, Zhao was transferred to the Tieling Folk Art Troupe. Soon after, Ge Shuzhen with a pair of children with her husband moved into Tieling city settlement, living in a spacious and bright three-room house. After entering the city, Ge Shuzhen became a housewife, daily laundry, cooking, take his son to the hospital to see a doctor, the family tidy up in order. However, although life was much more affluent than in the past, he found that communication between himself and his husband was becoming more and more difficult.
In 1987, Zhao Benshan managed to break into the CCTV Spring Festival Gala and became an overnight sensation across China. Ge Shuzhen was happy for her husband's success on the one hand, but on the other hand, she began to worry about the future of this marriage. In order to narrow the gap with her husband, the only thing she can do is to learn the city women painted powder, depicting eyebrows, to dress up their "pretty" some, in order to win her husband's favor. However, these "small repairs" and can not fundamentally solve the problem, the gap between her and Zhao Benshan wider and wider, *** with less and less language.
May 7, 1991, Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan's marriage finally came to an end. At 4:00 p.m. that day, Zhao Benshan and she came to Tieling City, Yinzhou District, Workers Street Office, calmly and peacefully for divorce procedures. After consultation, the two children by Ge Shuzhen support, Zhao Benshan paid her and the two children's living expenses, alimony and medical expenses *** 25 million yuan; at the same time, he also put the Charade sedan and three-room commercial house and the house facilities all left Ge Shuzhen".
After the two broke up, Zhao Benshan tearfully said to Ge Shuzhen: "I only have so much savings at hand. When there is money in the future, the children go to school, start a family and so on everything by me. If you have any problems, just look for me. I will always treat you as my sister." Ge Shuzhen said sadly: "You are now a person, to be better for yourself. I look forward to you finding a suitable ...... as soon as possible."
In the face of a huge family change, Ge Shuzhen's pair of children seem to have grown up overnight. The son TieDan consciously every day to take medicine, very "quiet", basically do not need people to take care of. Daughter Yufang study very hard, grades have been very good, Ge Shuzhen feel very gratified for this. Although she became one of the few "rich women" in Tieling City at the time, the monthly bank interest alone, more than the salary of the mayor of Tieling City, but she thought that even if she was guarding a mountain of gold will have to sit on the mountain of empty one day, so she defied her family's objections, embarked on the arduous road to work.
Ge Shuzhen's average appearance and introverted personality, coupled with her low education, made it difficult for her to find a job. After hitting the wall several times, she took a job as a dishwasher at a newly opened hot pot restaurant. When her daughter Zhao Yufang learned of this, she hugged her mother's leg and said, "Mom, you don't want to go through that kind of suffering. If Dad knew about it, he would be against it too."
Ge Shuzhen shook her head and said, "I'm going to work in a hot pot restaurant, not only can I earn some money to supplement my family, but more importantly, I can learn to cook a few specialties from the cook." After saying that, she repeatedly urged her daughter not to tell anyone about her part-time job. Since then, in order to reduce the burden on her mother, Zhao Yufang has taken the initiative to take care of her younger brother and do the laundry and cooking in addition to her studies.
The first month of work, Ge Shuzhen got a salary of 150 yuan. She couldn't afford to spend a penny on herself, and used the money to buy medicine for her son.
One night in November 1991, Ge Shuzhen returned home after a long day's work, overworked and in a trance, and accidentally slammed her head against the wall and fell to the ground, groaning in pain. Zhao Yufang is doing homework in the house, heard her mother's moans, rushed to the living room to help her mother up. She stroked the big bag on her mom's forehead and couldn't help but cry in pain. As she cried, she urged her mother never to go out to work again, but Ge Shuzhen comforted her daughter, saying: "If I stay idle at home, I'm sure I'll get sick. Besides, prices are rising so fast now, we can't eat up our old capital, we have to think about the future!"
In 1992, Zhao Benshan once again entered the marriage hall, Liaoning opera school teacher Ma Lijuan became his second wife. After learning the news, Ge Shuzhen behaved quite calmly. Daughter Zhao Yufang met with the "new mom", said to Ge Shuzhen: "Mom, Dad has a family, you should also consider personal problems." Relatives and friends around her also advised her. However, Ge Shuzhen insisted on not considering remarrying in order to raise her children.
After Zhao remarried, his acting career was in full swing. Perhaps he felt guilty to his ex-wife, he had to give Ge Shuzhen tens of thousands of yuan of pocket money every year, but she could not afford to spend it recklessly, and used every penny in the place where it should be used.
"Tough mom" does not believe in fate, undercover work eager to be the boss
In the winter of 1994, Zhao Tieyuan died suddenly of a heart attack, Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Yufang cried to death. Zhao Benshan, who was rehearsing for the 1995 Spring Festival Gala in Beijing, learned the news and immediately took leave to return to his ex-wife's home to deal with his son's affairs.
After her son's untimely death, Ge Shuzhen fell ill at once due to her grief and had to stay home for a period of time to recuperate. The body has just returned to normal, she defied her daughter's opposition, once again embarked on the road to work - in Tieling City, an individual store as a salesman. But she hadn't been working on it for a few months, because the store owner had to go to a foreign country to develop it, and transferred the store out, and she was then laid off.
Since then, Ge Shuzhen did not find a suitable job, had to go to the wholesale market to batch some socks, hats and red ropes, etc., in the street set up a stall. Because it is the first time to do business, she simply will not solicit customers and yell. As a result, she only earned two or three dollars a day.
Later, in order to open up the situation, she began to boldly yell up: "Everyone come to take a look, take a look, here's something authentic and cheap!" A few days in a row, Ge Shuzhen's business just took off, but was expelled by the industrial and commercial, cityscape law enforcement officers. She had to hide like a guerrilla, and only with great difficulty did she manage to sell out her family's stock.
The stall could not be set up, Ge Shuzhen had to re-enter a dumpling store as a handyman, working more than 10 hours a day, with a monthly salary of more than 200 yuan. One night, she was wiping the table, the TV happened to play Zhao Benshan performance of the skit. A few guests talked loudly and said, "We have a Zhao Benshan in Tieling, it's really not easy." "Yes, Zhao's family used to be so poor that they couldn't make a living, but now they've turned around and are so rich." At this time, an older guest stood up fiercely and said, "Alas, Zhao Benshan is red, but Ge Shuzhen is miserable. After she divorced Zhao Benshan, I don't know where she went, did she marry someone?"
Hearing this, Ge Shuzhen knocked over a set of dishes. The shopkeeper rushed over and asked her what was wrong. She covered up by saying, "It's all because I was just watching Zhao Benshan's skit and got distracted." After that, she took out money from her pocket to compensate the store owner for the loss. Unexpectedly, the shopkeeper said generously, "It's okay. Zhao Benshan is the comedian who went out from us here, and it's not a fault at all that you like him." Hearing this, Ge Shuzhen's heart do not know whether to be happy or sad. That night after work, Ge Shuzhen on the way home, can not help but sadly tears. She asked herself: "Zhao Benshan can walk a road until dawn, why can't I?"
Since then, Ge Shuzhen began to work at ease, and spent all the hard-earned money on her daughter.
In September 1999, her daughter, Zhao Yufang, was admitted to the English Department of the Dalian College of Foreign Languages, and from then on, Ge Shuzhen took up the role of "accompanying mother". Zhao Benshan learned of this situation, commissioned a friend in Dalian, Dalian City, near the Heishi Reef spent nearly 200,000 yuan, to Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Yufang bought a set of second-hand houses.
After settling her daughter down, Ge Shuzhen, who had nothing to do, couldn't stay at home and had to come out for a walk every day. Soon, she met He Junli, a woman who owns a small department store in the neighborhood. He Junli from Heilongjiang Heihe and Ge Shuzhen have similar experiences: her husband had an affair, then kicked her out the door. Since then, she has worked in the restaurant, in the construction site to do a job ...... after twists and turns, she finally became a small boss. Two unfortunate women with the same encounter, and finally came to a **** the same conclusion: "Women have to rely on their own, relying on men to support the woman is difficult to get ahead ......" and He Junli this heart-to-heart talk, Ge Shuzhen touched a lot, she first The idea of being a boss was born.
That day, her daughter Zhao Yufang came back from school, Ge Shuzhen said to her daughter this idea. Zhao Yufang laughed and said: "Mom, don't be so whimsical. Not everyone can do good business." Ge Shuzhen said, "Don't scare me, I will do what I see fit to the end."
After observing the situation for some time, Ge Shuzhen felt that she was best suited to open a restaurant. She then began to look for suitable restaurants to be transferred. After more than half a month of searching, she finally found a restaurant that wanted to transfer in a neighborhood close to the Dalian College of Foreign Languages. The owner of the restaurant is a good person, when he learned that Ge Shuzhen has not opened a restaurant, he suggested that she first work in a restaurant to learn from the experience of others, and then open a store, so that the risk will be less. The company's business is a very important part of the company's business," he said.
Then, under the introduction of this kind boss, Zhao came to work in a seafood store in the suburbs of Dalian. In the store, she grabbed every day to do things, and, when encountering problems, always ask yourself: If I am the boss here, what should I do? Ge Shuzhen so a "undercover" is two or three years, and finally gradually find some when the boss of the "feeling".
Is it hard to make money by being generous?
In June 2003, Zhao Yufang graduated from the University of Dalian City Public Security Bureau to find a job as an office clerk. Her daughter finally took up a job, Ge Shuzhen was very pleased. Without worries, she then decided to start a restaurant, try to be their own boss. She smiled at her daughter and said: "Xiaofang, your father is the company's big boss, I also want to small knock when a small boss. Can't let your dad look down."
Zhao Yufang opposed to her mother to do business, afraid of her risk, but Ge Shuzhen has made up her mind, Zhao Yufang see really can not be dissuaded, so she had to go.
It just so happens that they live near the neighborhood called "taste really fragrant" restaurant because of poor management, to be transferred to the outside world. Ge Shuzhen immediately to the price of 20,000 yuan, the disk of the loss of the store. After that, Ge Shuzhen did not change the name of the store, and did not re-recruit the cook, with the original team opened.
Ge Shuzhen learned that the reason why the original restaurant could not continue was because the owner was too stingy, and the portion of food made was obviously insufficient. Guests have been fooled once, and then never come back. So, she "the right medicine", asked the chef to increase the portion, put more oil and salt. In this way, the dishes are very flavorful. In order to make the flavor delicious, she also specially bought old hen and ribs, cooked into the original soup. In addition, Ge Shuzhen asked someone to write this promise in the store: "Northeastern people are straight, Northeastern people are cool, and dishes made by Northeastern people are really fragrant." She also took out her family's Northeastern kimchi and gave it to guests to taste for free.
One day, the chef made a plate of potato fried shredded pork for a guest. The waiter was about to serve it, but Ge Shuzhen called out, "Why can't I see shredded meat?" The chef told her that potato fried shredded pork has always been this way. She said, "No way! In my store, there must be more shredded meat." The chef warned, "You'll lose money if you do that! You have to put all the rent, utilities, taxes and staff wages into each dish so that you can make a profit." Ge Shuzhen said, "I'm the boss, so you have to listen to me!" At Ge Shuzhen's request, the chef had to redo a dish of fried shredded meat with potatoes, with the amount of shredded meat equal to the shredded potatoes. The dish pleased the guests so much that they said to Ge Shuzhen, "You'll definitely have more and more customers."
Sure enough, the "flavor really fragrant" restaurant guests gradually more and more, the original two chefs and four waiters were busy. Ge Shuzhen shouted happy, and hastily hired another three cooks and two welcome lady. In order to make the hotel on the grade, Ge Shuzhen not only bought disinfection cabinets, water dispensers and other equipment, but also require all kitchen workers to wear plastic gloves, wearing white overalls operation. Although the cost has increased significantly, Ge Shuzhen did not raise the price of food or reduce the number of dishes.
After six months, Ge Shuzhen's 50,000 yuan reserve fund is running out. She felt strange: the restaurant business is so good, where did all the money go? Zhao Yufang know, go to the hotel to help mom inventory inventory goods and fixed property, the results found that less than 10,000 yuan full. She helped her mother to analyze: "Business is good, more guests is good, but 3 yuan of food you only sell two dollars, can not lose?" Ge Shuzhen, however, said, "Loss at the beginning is not the same as loss all the time in the future." Zhao Yufang saw her mother so stubborn, shook her head with a bitter smile. Since then, Ge Shuzhen took out another 50,000 yuan, "smashed" into the restaurant.
In early 2004, the Benshan College of Arts at Liaoning University was established. Zhao Yufang in Zhao Benshan's arrangements, from the Dalian Municipal Public Security Bureau resigned to come to Benshan College of the Arts work. Zhao Yufang asked her mother to go back to Shenyang with her, persuading her to say: "You can't make much money in business from morning to night, so it's better to go back to Shenyang with me. I can intervene to find Dad, so that you can find a decent job in Benshan Arts College." But Ge Shuzhen declined her daughter's kind offer and insisted on keeping the restaurant open.
Zhao Benshan was quite saddened to learn from his daughter about Ge Shuzhen's struggles over the years. He immediately took out 150,000 yuan of money for her to plug the hole. He also called Ge Shuzhen: "You'd better close the restaurant. You are too generous, it is difficult to earn money ......" Ge Shuzhen's attitude is resolute: "Be generous can not earn money? I don't believe it!"
What Ge Shuzhen didn't expect was that the red-hot "flavor really fragrant" restaurant annoyed the competitors around. They began to dig up the corner, with a higher price to Ge Shuzhen's chef dug out. For a moment to find a cook, "flavor really fragrant" restaurant had to close. But defiant Ge Shuzhen soon after listening to the advice of some friends, the use of existing people, did a fast-food business. Her principle is: other fast-food companies to earn 1 yuan per boxed lunch, "flavor really fragrant" only earn 50 cents, the figure is a small profit and more sales. She also specializes in hiring a nutritionist to come to the guidance, so that each boxed lunch are delicious, hygienic, fresh and nutritious, so that guests can eat, but also eat well. Now, she sells more than 500 boxed lunches every day.
Ge Shuzhen went back to her hometown every Spring Festival to pay a visit to the New Year, and the townspeople suggested to her: "You should take advantage of Zhao Benshan's fame, in that case, you can surely earn a lot of money." Ge Shuzhen is very indifferent to this, said: "Zhao Benshan to Zhao Benshan, I to me. I can not smash his brand, nor can I smash my brand. I do not have excessive requirements, just want my daughter to remember that she has a strong mother who is not defeated on the line ......"
"Dr. Working Speech" At present, with the simplification of the divorce procedure, the rapid transformation of society and the change of gender concepts, modern people's concept of eternity for marriage has become lighter. Coupled with the increase in the gap between husband and wife, divorce is therefore becoming more and more common. In the face of marital change, as the vulnerable party of the woman should do? How to deal with the relationship with the ex-husband, and children and career? Some women after the divorce, accused the man is philandering Chen Shimei, everywhere to collect evidence, lawsuits, lawsuits, making a big fuss; some women can not think, lack of will to fight, self-loathing, all day long live in grief; some women after the divorce is still with their ex-husbands to try to salvage the shaky "mismatched marriage"; some women are to the ordinary heart to deal with the life of a woman, and the children and career. Some women treat the changes in life with a normal heart, looking for a new center of gravity, by self-struggle to realize the value of their lives. Ge Shuzhen is the last type of woman. After she left Zhao Benshan, she didn't live on Zhao Benshan's fame, and never said a bad word about Zhao Benshan. Instead, she lived her life with a normal heart, worked hard, and finally broke out a path of self-reliance and self-improvement. This virtue and spirit of hers is really admirable. Although her success in the career is far from being compared with Zhao Benshan, but she on the other hand - the success of people, not inferior to the achievements of Zhao Benshan!