From ancient times to the present day, people in the process of daily communication, from time to time will come up with a few sayings, these sayings not only make people's communication easier and smoother, but also to give the object of communication to leave a deep impression, so that the other party is not easy to forget you.
Today we are going to talk about a familiar saying: "Money does not borrow three, the land does not go three, wine does not drink three", a deep understanding of the essence of this sentence, after a person's life path has a very good reference role.
Photo: Stills of communication with people
One, the money does not lend threeFirst of all, "money does not lend three", as the name implies, is that the money can not be lent to the three kinds of people, that in the end is which three kinds of people?
First of all, it is a gambling man
Often these people will say a lot of beautiful words in the moment of borrowing money, and is sworn and guaranteed to pay back the money, and will also be paid back with interest, but any ordinary person can see that these are all lies they said in order to successfully borrow money.
As long as the people who have become addicted to gambling, giving them more money will be in vain, they promise to never gamble again, but at the same time, they put their money into the bottomless pit of gambling. The people who get deeper and deeper into gambling have lost their basic integrity and will say anything to borrow money to gamble.
So don't lend money to these people, because if you do, you won't get it back.
Photo: Abusive gambler stills
Secondly, it's a long time no contact
Often, when we have a hard time borrowing money, the first thing we think about is the relationship between the people who are closer, such as family members, relatives, and friends who are often in contact, and rarely look for the kind of people who don't contact each other in a couple of years or a decade or two. It is very rare to find people who have not been in touch with you for years or decades.
Likewise, when this kind of long time no contact with the person to find you, without a few pleasantries on the offer to borrow money, in the face of this kind of situation, you must consider again and again, because he is very likely to be around the relationship between the closer people are borrowed, resulting in the last no one to lend him before finding you borrow money.
Often this kind of people, there may be caught up in some bad habits, such as drug use, we all know the harm of drug use, drugs are not only hazardous to health, but also burn money, get involved in drugs is the same as to give their own life in advance of the death sentence.
These people may also have entered a pyramid scheme, which is reported in the news every day, such as when someone in a certain area borrows money from friends he hasn't talked to for a long time in the name of doing business or raising money to pay for medical treatment, etc., and when this money is lent out, it's a waste of money.
Photo: Stills from a friend I haven't spoken to in a long time
The last thing you can't do is lend to the poor
It's a saying we've all heard before that "you don't want to save the poor," meaning that when someone is really in trouble, you can't save the poor. It means that when someone is in a real hurry, we can lend them money to help them get through the difficult times, but if you simply want to borrow money to change the quality of life, then you must refuse the request of the other party, and say that nothing can be borrowed, because after the first time, there will be a second time, and then there will be an endless number of irrational requests.
The author has a freshly graduated friend, Lily, who is still in her internship. Although her salary is not high, she has two hundred thousand dollars from her parents to keep her company. She has a friend who grew up with her, Xiaoyue, who got married a few years ago, had a child, and is now pregnant with her second child.
Small Yue every once in a while to find Lily to borrow money, each time is to borrow a thousand or eight hundred, although not much, but a few times down there are tens of thousands of, and small Yue each time to borrow money for reasons that are elusive, such as to go to the hospital pregnancy checkups, or to the big baby to pay the kindergarten tuition.
Lily felt very strange, if really encountered this kind of thing, the first time should be to their parents or in-laws to borrow money, and how can the husband not care about their own? Later Lily realized that Xiaoyue had lied to herself, and that all the money she had borrowed from herself over the years had been used to buy clothes, bags and cosmetics, and that she had relied on borrowing money from friends all over the place in order to make a better life for herself.
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Two, "the ground does not go three" refers to three kinds of places must not goFirst of all, the temptation to place
such as the place of the wind and flowers or casinos and so on, a lot of people have become famous after and people The first thing you need to do is to get into a place where you can be tempted and get hooked.
There was an anonymous article on the website of a woman describing her marriage, in which she had a very considerate husband and a pair of lively and lovely children, and her life was very happy, but because of a promotion and a raise in her husband's salary, everything has changed.
Husband's character has become more and more strange, often angry and trance, ask again and again only to know, he went to the encouragement of colleagues to find a few Miss, but also has been worried about their own disease, on the one hand, he disliked the outside of the Miss dirty, afraid of contracting the disease, on the other hand, but also feel that he is sorry for his wife, but can not help but look for Miss again.
Finally, he had a mental breakdown and had to resort to drugs every day to survive, while his wife divorced after accompanying her husband to overcome his mental illness.
Photo: Places of Wind and Flowers Stills
Secondly, you can't go to the place of right and wrong
People have a common problem, that is, they love to be nosy, like to get together, but not all the hustle and bustle can be put together, and some of them can no longer be shrugged off once you messed with them.
Many people watch TV series will be inside the protagonist will be shocked, they are curious and get into trouble, and finally managed to turn the danger into peace, but the TV series is ultimately a work of art created by people, not real life, the protagonist of the TV series has a specific aura, and most of the real-life people, as long as the trouble is really to be cannon fodder.