2017.7.25
So they pool those desires.
pool: verb, used to gather (funds, knowledge, equipment, etc.) If a group of people or organizations pool their money, knowledge, or equipment, they share it or put it together so that it can be used for a particular purpose. When I saw the pool, I immediately thought of a swimming pool, but I didn't expect it to be okay. Used as a verb, so novel. The original meaning of pool is a pool, so gather things. The association means gathering, and it is used
e.g. We must do our utmost to pool ideas and information to make a sound plan.
All that did was to exacerbate the problem.
exacerbate :(formal) to make sth worse, especially a disease or problem make it worse; make it worse; make it worse
e.g. Air populltion exacerbeted the environmental problem.
Both were initially acting in good faith.
in good faith: sincerely, sincerely
e.g. We have to act in good faith, so we are able to achieve win/win.
Buddhism calls this "the middle way".
the middle way : The middle way
e.g.The middle way does not mean to compromise, but to seek to a third alternative.
It is quite touching to see the example of the husband getting ready to go on vacation for fishing while the wife hopes to go back to visit her mother, because life is like this Examples abound. Everyone has their own plans, and then they find that everyone is going in the opposite direction. In the end, there is always one person who compromises, wrongs himself, and becomes a win/lose. But this has destroyed the beautiful atmosphere. The person who has been successful has a sense of guilt in his heart, and the person who has wronged himself is not happy. It has become a lose-lose situation for both sides. Then the author proposes the third alternative. Put themselves in other's shoes, think win/win, seek first to understand, don't compromise. The effect is a 180-degree change, and each other can understand each other. With eager needs, both sides can understand each other's situation, and finally be able to solve the problem in a more friendly and acceptable way, which is in line with "the middle way".
Valuing the differences, I agree with this point of view very much, and "I have an apple and you have an apple. If we exchange, we still only have one apple for each other; but if I have a thought and you have a thought, When we communicate, we have two ideas that "fit together." Only by embracing different viewpoints will there be a collision of ideas and will we be able to see broadly and high-mindedly.