Nervousness and anxiety are problems that most people will encounter. Unfortunately, although everyone knows that they have this problem, they don't know how to get rid of it. It seems that the more you struggle, the tighter you get.
To cure a disease, we must first ask the source of the disease. Then why are you nervous and anxious? You have to know your heart first. Know that your heart is not single, but consists of two parts. Some of them are conscious, rational and have high-end thinking; The other part is unconscious, or subconscious, perceptual and simple underlying conditioned reflex. Consciousness is the key to distinguish the two. For the convenience of description, the former is called "wisdom" and the latter is called "heart".
Perhaps everyone knows the difference more or less, but not everyone agrees with the relationship between them. Most people always think that the high-end is to control the low-end, and all thinking should be conscious first. But the facts backfired. Many times we realize that something is wrong, but we can't help doing it. Sometimes we want to do something in our consciousness, but our subconscious mind has a power to resist.
Metaphorically speaking, "Zhi" is like an experienced prime minister who has been in politics for many years, while "Xin" is a king who came to power by inheriting the throne. The prime minister is smart and virtuous, and will tell the king what to do and what not to do; But the king is more headstrong. He listens to whatever he likes, and goes his own way if he doesn't like it.
Anxiety is like the rational analysis of the prime minister, knowing that the situation is critical and something must be done, but it happened that the king lost his temper at this time and made the situation critical, but he was addicted to pleasure. And nervous, that is, the king is in extreme panic, losing his hearing, and the prime minister won't listen to anything he says. Of course, everything will get twice the result with half the effort.
After understanding clearly, how to solve it? Solve the tension first. It's no use saying anything if you don't hear it. Don't do anything in a hurry. Nothing can be done at this time. Sit quietly and meditate, calm your heart and listen to the voice of thinking. I believe he is a good man. He knows you better than anyone, and he is in the same boat with you. He will give you the most correct advice. If you still don't listen, you can try to write your own thoughts word by word, which may be slower, but it will play a role in balancing interests and better ensure that every word of the prime minister can reach the king's ears.
As for anxiety, it depends on the Prime Minister. The Prime Minister has a chance to speak. Don't put on a "fight to death" appearance and say that something is wrong when the king is away. No one likes to hear these words, even wise kings such as Qi Henggong and Emperor Taizong. A great reason for their success is that they are surrounded by wise ministers who know how to speak, such as Guan Zhong and Wei Zhi. Don't force the other party to accept what is truth, but guide the other party to find a solution. Therefore, ask more questions and guide more when you speak.
Here, I dare not say that I have any panacea to solve anxiety and tension, but I know that the prescription is in your heart. As long as we keep calm communication and let "mind" and "wisdom" have a good dialogue, we can find out the prescription and implement it well. It is best to have this conversation once a day, and the length of time depends on the severity of the problem. Remember a principle, what is most needed in adversity is mutual support and encouragement, not mutual blame. This is true between friends, so should the two souls in your heart.
Finally, thank you for inspiring me to write this blog post. Whether it is adopted or not, welcome to my space for more discussion.
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