Every year, in early spring, I plant baby cabbages.
First, I shovel the soil loose, smooth it out, and scatter the seeds. Then I will gently rake over the ground with a thin bamboo will, and the seeds will be covered with soil, so I won't be afraid of birds pecking at them.
Last year, the weather was exceptional, and after the fall harvest, it actually became warm again, so I thought it would be a shame to let the garden go to waste, so I took out the remaining cabbage seeds from the spring and sowed them. I didn't know that only a few days, and then cold, and all of a sudden into the winter, and never warmed up. The snow drifted, regretted for a while, but also forgot about it.
Until today, this winter day, wearing snowshoes to the backyard to check the hedge wall, thick ice and snow melted, revealing the surface of the ground underneath the closed for a long time, actually through a little green.
A pocket-sized cabbage, only two or three leaves, between the leaves, but also out of a small bud, revealing the inside of the yellow petals, the eye is about to bloom.
This is a touching picture!
Is it possible that for the past half of the winter, they have been holding back, waiting for each slightly warmer day to put down a little bit of root, up a little bit of leaf?
They have been kept beneath the snow and ice, preserving this thread of life, just to bloom, to set seed, and to wait for the spring to sprout once again?
"If you can't see spring yourself, let your children see it!
If you are short and ugly, let your child be tall and decent!"
What I saw was not a humble cabbage, but a sublime mother's love, which blossomed brilliantly in the ice and snow ......
2. Happiness
There are three indispensable factors for a happy life.
One, there is hope.
Two, something to do.
Third is the ability to love people.
There is hope.
Alexander the Great once showed his generosity by giving a large gift. He gave A a large sum of money, B a province, and C a high official. When his friends heard of this, they said to him, "If you keep on doing this, you will be penniless yourself." Alexander replied, "How can I be penniless? What I have left for myself is a most great gift; what I have left is my hope."
A man who lives only in memories but loses hope has already begun to end his life. Memories do not inspire us to live powerfully, memories only allow us to escape, as if a prisoner escaping from prison.
Something to do.
An old Englishwoman, when she was seriously ill and knew that her days were numbered, wrote the following lines:
Don't pity me now, don't pity me ever;
I shall work no more, never, never, never, never work again.
Many people have had times when they are unemployed or have nothing to do, when he feels that the days are going by slowly and life is very empty. Anyone who has had this experience will know that having something to do is not a misfortune, but a blessing.
To be able to love people.
The poet Branning once wrote, "He looked at her, she smiled back at him, and life suddenly awoke."
With love in our lives, we become humble and alive, and new hope is born, as if a thousand things are waiting to be accomplished. With love, life springs and the world becomes a thousand colors.
The perfect prayer would be, "Lord, give me the strength to help others."
3. May life be as quiet as a lake
The wise Zhuang Zi left us a thought-provoking story: a gambler who uses a tile pot as a bet can make the most of his skill, while he takes gold as a bet, which is a big loss. Zhuangzi defines this as "a person who is heavy on the outside is clumsy on the inside".
Because of over-exertion and over-concentration, things that could have been done easily are messed up. Modern medicine calls this "purposeful trembling". The hand that wants to sew a needle too much is trembling, the foot that wants to kick a goal too much is trembling. Wallenda originally had a pair of feet on the steel cable as if walking on the ground, but, overly eager to win the heart is hard to make his feet out of balance - the famous "Wallenda mentality" to Wallenda's loss of life and was given a heavy connotation.
How can life be without purpose? However, the purpose is to lead you forward, if the purpose is made into sandbags tied to the body, then every step forward, a huge burden and inexplicable fear will come to hold your hands and feet. Set your sights a little farther away, so that the life of a calm into a rippling lake, tell yourself: the water is poor place to wait for the clouds to rise, the side of the cliffs to find a straight path.
4, don't take yourself too seriously
John has had a beard for many years, and now he's ready to shave it off, but he's a little hesitant: what will friends and coworkers think, and will they make fun of me?
After several days of deliberation, he finally decided to grow just a mustache. When he went to work the next day, he was prepared for the worst. Surprisingly, no one commented on the change, and everyone rushed to the office and went about their business in a hurry. In fact, not a single person said a word until the noon break.
Finally he couldn't resist asking someone else first, "What do you think of the way I look?"
The other person froze, "What look?"
"Haven't you noticed that I'm a little different today?"
Then his coworkers began to look him over from head to toe, and finally someone yelled out, "Oh, you've got a moustache."
Famous performance artist Ying Ruocheng told a similar story. He grew up in a large family where dozens of people sat in a large dining room at every meal. Once he had a sudden idea and decided to play a joke on everyone. Before the meal, he hid himself in an unnoticed cabinet in the dining room and waited until everyone couldn't find him before jumping out.
To his great embarrassment, his absence was not noticed at all. It was only after the meal was over and everyone had left that he wilted and stepped out to eat some of the leftovers. Since then, he'd told himself: never make yourself too important, or you'll be sorely disappointed.
5. It is difficult to return to the usual
There is a woman who comes from a usual family, does a usual job, marries a usual husband, has a usual home, in short, she is very usual.
Suddenly, one day, the newspaper made a big fuss about recruiting a special actress to play the princess. A kind friend of hers sent her a photo, and to her surprise, this ordinary woman began her career as a "princess".
Too tough, she read a lot of books about the Princess, she carefully speculated on every strand of the Princess's mind, she repeated the Princess's knitted brows, a word and a line ......
Unlike, unlike, this is not like, that is also not like! The director and cameraman were incredibly picky, making her start over again and again ......
By now, the usual woman was able to play the princess with ease, and it took little time to get into character. The bad part was that it was now very difficult for her to revert back to her usual self, and sometimes she had to toss and turn for an entire night. When she woke up every morning, she had to remind herself again and again of "who I am" to prevent her from bossing people around for no reason; when she was with her kind husband and lively daughter, she had to remind herself again and again of "who I am" to prevent her from somehow being moody towards them. She has to remind herself of "who I am" when dealing with her kind husband and spirited daughter, so as not to be somehow temperamental.
The normal woman said with deep pain that it was too difficult for a person who had enjoyed great privileges and high honor to return to normalcy.
She still looked like a princess when she said this.
6. Weeds in the garden
Jack? London became famous when he wrote Martin? Eden", rose to fame and fortune, not only built a villa in California, but also purchased a luxury yacht on the Atlantic coast. But with all this came boredom, emptiness, despondency, and boredom, and eventually he was driven mad by it, killing himself in his villa with poison in 1916.
Fadeev ascended to the Soviet literary scene at the age of 29 and sat as general secretary of the USSR Writers' Association with his book "The Young Konrad". However, he hasn't written a single novel since then because he's too busy traveling, going to meetings, and making presentations.
A garden, however beautiful it may be, can be rendered utterly barren in one summer alone if the weeds are not regularly pulled and pruned, and it is very dangerous for some one who has built up or wants to build up to exclude boredom without taking care to do so.
7. Birdcage
Two men, John and George, once made a bet. John said that if he gave George a birdcage and hung it in a conspicuous place in George's room,
then George would buy a bird back.
George didn't believe him and said how much trouble it would be to keep a bird, and I sure wouldn't buy one.
John then went and bought George a beautiful birdcage and told George to hang it in an attractive place in the living room.
The results were predictable. As soon as people walked into George's living room, they asked him,
"George, when did your bird die and what happened?"
"I never had a bird." George replied.
"Then what do you need a bird cage for?" The friend looked at George strangely, looking at George as if there was something really wrong with him: a lack of love and indifference to animals ......
George finally went ahead and bought a bird and put it in that beautiful cage, because he realized that it was much easier than explaining it endlessly to everyone.
8. Borrowing money
A famous Taiwanese writer, Lawrence Liu, was visiting a professor's house one day when a friend of the professor's went to return some money. After the man left? The professor then took the money and exclaimed, "Lost and found money, lost and found friend."
When Lawrence Liu heard this, he asked, puzzled, what the latter phrase meant.
The professor said, "When I lend money to a friend, I never expect them to pay it back. Because I think, if he has no money and can not pay back, must be embarrassed to come; if he has money and want to renege on the debt, also must be embarrassed to come back, then I suffered a loss just once, equal to spend a little money, recognize a bad friend. When it comes to friends borrowing money, as long as the number is not too large, I will always agree, because friends should have the friendship of wealth. As for lending out, I never go to collect, because it will inevitably hurt the peace. Therefore, whenever I lend out money, I always have the feeling that I am lending out money and friends at the same time. And whenever they return the money, I have the feeling that money has been lost and found along with the friend."
9, talent
Wang and Li are the same classmates in the Department of Fine Arts, Li graduated from his father's relationship, into a newspaper as an art design work. But Li, who was originally far inferior to Wang, often had access to the latest materials and works because of the good working environment at the newspaper, and with his efforts to learn from his predicament, he established a unique style a few years later and made a name for himself.
Wang finally stopped sneering at Li, because his long-time grudges had turned him from a momentary lack of talent into a real weakling, whose work was not up to par and had fallen far behind Li's.
This was the first time that Li's work has been recognized by the Chinese government, and he is now a member of the Chinese Communist Party, which is a member of the Chinese Communist Party.
It is true that there is a lot of unfairness in our society, but the only way to deal with it is to work harder, to get ahead, and to make yourself capable of creating a fair society in the future; if you only know how to feel sorry for yourself, I'm afraid that your short-term bad luck will become a long-term misfortune.
10. Waiting for three days
A Chinese woman writer visiting the United States met an old lady selling flowers on the streets of New York. The old woman was dressed in rather shabby clothes, and her body looked very weak, but her face was peaceful and happy. The writer picked a flower and said, "You look happy."
"Why not? Everything is so beautiful."
"You have a good eye for troubles." The female writer said casually.
The old woman's reply surprised the woman writer, "When Jesus was crucified on Friday, it was the worst day in the world, but three days later was Easter. So when I have a misfortune, I wait for three days, and after three days everything goes back to normal."
"Waiting for three days", what an ordinary and philosophical way of life, which leaves worries and pain behind and goes all out to reap the joy.
1, the power of the system
This is a famous example of system building in history. 18th century, the British government decided to send all the British people who had committed crimes to Australia.
A number of private shipowners were contracted to transport convicts from Britain to Australia on a large scale. The British government paid the shipowners for the number of convicts on board. At that time, most of the ships transporting prisoners were some very dilapidated cargo ships converted, the ship's equipment is simple, there is no medical drugs, not to mention the doctor, the shipowner in order to make huge profits, as much as possible to load people, so that the ship's conditions are very bad. Once the ship left the shore, the shipowners got the money from the government according to the number of people on board, and they did not care whether these people could travel all the way to Australia alive. Some shipowners even deliberately cut off water and food in order to minimize the cost. 3 years later, the British government found that the mortality rate of the convicts on board the ships to Australia was 12%, and 158 of the 424 convicts on board the worst ship died, a mortality rate as high as 37%. The British government spent a lot of money, but failed to achieve the purpose of mass immigration.
The British government tried a lot of things. Each ship sent a government official to supervise, and then sent a doctor in charge of prisoners and health care, at the same time on the prisoners in the ship's standard of living to do a hard regulation. However, not only did the death rate not come down, some of the ship's supervisory officials and doctors even died for no apparent reason. It turned out that some shipowners bribed officials for profiteering, and if the officials did not go along with them they were thrown into the sea and fed to the fishes. The government spends money on oversight, but people die as usual.
The government also took a new approach, the shipowners are called together for education and training, to educate them to value life, to understand that to go to Australia to develop is for the long-term plans of the United Kingdom, do not value money over life but the situation is still not better, the death rate has been high.
A British parliamentarian argued that the private boat owners had exploited a loophole in the system. The flaw in the system is that the government pays boat owners based on the number of people on board. He suggests changing the system so that the government is paid on the basis of the number of people disembarking in Australia, regardless of how many people you load on the ship in the UK, and then pay them by counting them when you disembark in Australia.
The problem was solved. The shipowner took the initiative to ask the doctor to go with the ship, to prepare medicine on board, to improve life, and to make sure that everyone on board arrived in Australia as healthy as possible. One person means one income.
Since the introduction of shore counts, the mortality rate on board has dropped to less than 1%. Some ships carrying hundreds of people sailed for months without a single death.
This is the power of the system.
Another Chinese story: In a temple, there were many monks who got up every morning to share porridge. But often, because there were too many monks and not enough congee, there were people who couldn't get their share.
The monks met together to study the situation.
The monks elected an older monk to preside over the porridge. At first he divided it evenly, but then he took more from those who had connections and kept the full, thick ones for himself.
The monks felt that this would not work, so they proposed that we take turns to divide the porridge. At first it was not bad. As time went by, the person whose turn it was to share always tried to find a way to keep the favor for himself.
Finally, one of the monks suggested that all the porridge be divided beforehand. The monk said, "I don't know how to do this, but I'm not sure how to do it," but he said, "I don't know how to do it, but I'm not sure how to do it.
After this solution was adopted, the monks did not quarrel in the morning!
2, but also to prepare for war
Switzerland is a small country in the middle of Europe, an area of only 4.13 million square kilometers, the population of only 6.6 million people, but it has been more than 600 years have not experienced war. Switzerland and Germany adjacent to Germany was the source of the two world wars, however, Switzerland during the two world wars are exempt from the scourge of war, the reason is that the Swiss people not only love their own country, but also have a strong concept of national defense and better military quality, a Swiss diplomat said: "If you ask us why we have not fought for more than 600 years, the main reason is that we are are always ready for war." Switzerland is a neutral country, but he is a typical military country. There are shooting ranges in every small village in Switzerland. All men over the age of 20 are obliged to perform military service, which lasts for 17 weeks in the first year of enlistment and then, as they get older, for 2-3 weeks of maneuvers and military training until they reach the age of 50. Uniforms, boots, helmets, guns, backpacks and other military materials are kept in their homes, often organized, always ready, in the event of an emergency, the country can be assembled in one day, 625,000 people in the reserve forces. After the 1970s, the new public and private housing must be equipped with a concrete-filled, thick iron doors, and inside a very spacious underground nuclear shelter, the cost of which can be subsidized from the government. The expenditure could be subsidized by the government.
3. Burden
After the French withdrew from Moscow, two farmers took to the streets in search of food. One was smart and the other was stupid. When they found some burnt wool, they said, "This wool is useful", and carried a bag on their backs.
On the way, they saw a lot of cloth on the street, the smart farmer threw away the wool, bundled a bundle of cloth on the shoulder, the stupid farmer said: "Why throw away the wool? It is well bundled and firmly tied." He did not take any cloth at all.
As they went on, they saw some clothes thrown in the street, and the wise farmer threw away the cloth again and picked up the clothes. The foolish farmer said, "Why did I throw away the wool?"
Moving on, he saw some silver cutlery thrown on the ground. The wise farmer threw away his clothes and packed up the silverware as best he could and took it away with him, but the foolish farmer refused to throw away his wool, for it was "well bound and firmly tied.
Further on, they saw gold on the road. The wise farmer threw away the silver and picked up the gold. But the foolish farmer said, "The wool is already well bound and firmly tied."
On the way home, it rained, and the wool was drenched and rattled, so the foolish farmer had to throw away all the wool and go home empty-handed; but the wise farmer was enriched by the gold he got.
4, "a penny"
In the late Qing Dynasty, the story of "a penny" was widely rumored, A, B, two Anhui merchants with a huge amount of money to go to Suzhou to do business, but the results were squandered, begging during the day, and at night slept in the ancient temple. One night, the two men faced the fire and sighed. Merchant A touched the only penny to throw away, merchant B hastily grabbed and said, "I have a way." A short while later, Merchant B returned with bamboo leaves, grass stems, chicken and duck feathers, and other things in his arms. He encouraged a merchant and he bought with a penny of flour, water, so as to mix the pulp, the grass wrapped in bamboo, masked with color paper, and then stick all over the chickens and ducks, a **** do two in a hundred pieces of lifelike bird paper toys, to the Xuanmiao Guan go to the sale of toys because of the exquisite, people scramble to buy, and actually earn more than 5,000 Wen. Since then, the night production, daytime sales, "a penny" from the famous Suzhou, business is booming day by day.
5, mountain and stream offering stone
The river and stream stone color is very different, different sizes, but they are almost all smooth pebbles, river and stream, in addition to smooth pebbles, only the stone body broken into fine sand, can not see the sharp edges of the clanking iron stone.
However, before falling into the river stream water, they will never be so general shape, the same round and smooth.
The stones in the mountains, originally an angular soul, a bloody life, a group of character of the great husband, because of this, they are composed of majestic mountains, condensed into upright peaks, and much admired by the people.
However, when they fell into the mountain stream, after a few rolls, they all became smooth pebbles.
The stones are hard.
The water is soft.
The soft water turns the hard stones into rounded pebbles, so that the water does not grind itself into powder? Is it to curry favor with the stone collector?
6, you are a landscape
Born in the world, exist in the universe, you are not more than others, nor less than others. With the top of the hot sun, **** Mu bright moonlight, the mind is not lacking, the mind is not lacking, as long as you have the courage to show their talent, personality and style, then, you do not have to look up to others.
You, is a landscape!
There is no need to praise others to belittle themselves, should boldly stand up, and the best landscape than shoulder, as long as you relentlessly pursue, I believe you, not worse than others. Really, you can!
What is needed today is not self-effacement, but self-confidence. The world is recognized by the people of the attractions are unique, all can be remembered by us is rich in personality traits.
Let the personality with you, standing should be a mountain, down is the roadbed, complete when the revelation, crushed when people wake up ...... you are not more than others, nor less than others, you do not have to look at people's eyes can be known, you in the sun with the figure will be the table declaration:
You are a landscape!
7. The fisherman's mistake
One weekend, a fisherman found a snake biting a frog on the side of his boat, and feeling sorry for the frog, he went over to gently take the frog out of the snake's mouth and let it go. But he also felt sorry for the hungry snake, and since there was no food, he took out a bottle of whiskey and poured a few sips into the snake's mouth. The snake swam away happily, and the frog went away happily, and the man was happier for having done such a good deed. He thought everything was in order, but after a few minutes he heard something touch the side of the boat and looked down, and unbelievably the snake swam back - with two frogs in its mouth.
8. The Rosenthal effect
There is a Rosenthal effect in psychology.
Rozental, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, once did an experiment on the effect of education. He divided a group of mice into two groups - A group to an experimenter, told him that this group of mice belongs to a particularly smart class, good training; B group to another experimenter, told him that this is a group of ordinary intelligence.
The two experimenters trained the two groups of rats separately. After some time, the two groups of rats were tested by making the rats walk through a maze.
For the rats, there was food if they walked out. But in the process of walking out, it has to go through bumping into walls, and it takes a certain amount of memory, a certain amount of intelligence, and the smarter rats are likely to walk out first. The results of the experiment found that the rats in group A were much smarter than the rats in group B, and both walked out first.
In response to this result, Prof. Rosenthal pointed out that his grouping of the two groups of rats was random. He had no idea which rats were smarter, he just divided them arbitrarily into two groups, described one of them as smart and gave it to the group A experimenters, and described the other group as average and gave it to the group B experimenters.
Since the experimenters had already identified group A as the smart rats, they trained them in the same way they had treated the smart rats. As a result, the group of rats literally turned out to be smart rats; conversely, the rats in Group B, who were considered unintelligent, were trained in the same way as the unintelligent rats, and the rats literally became unintelligent.
9. Convert destiny into mission
In ancient Greek mythology, there is a story of Sizifor.
Sizifor was punished by the Great Spirit for breaking the law in heaven and was brought down to the human world to suffer. His punishment was that he had to push a rock up a hill. Every day, Sizifor pushed the stone to the top of the mountain with great effort, and then went home to rest. However, while he was resting, the stone would roll down again of its own accord, so Sizifor pushed the stone up the mountain again. In this way, Sizifor was faced with: never-ending failure. The Great Spirit wanted to punish Sizifor, that is, to torture his mind and make him suffer in the fate of "never-ending failure".
But Sisyphus was willing to accept his fate. Every time he pushed a rock up a hill, the Great Spirit struck him down, telling him that he could not succeed. Sizifor refused to be trapped in the trap of success and failure, thinking: pushing the rock up the mountain is my duty; as long as I push the rock up to the top of the mountain, I have done my duty; whether the rock rolls down or not, that is not my business.
Further, as Sizifor struggled to push the stone up the hill, he appeared to be at peace in his mind, for he consoled himself that there was still a stone to push tomorrow, that he would not be out of work tomorrow, and that there would be hope tomorrow.
The Great Spirit, unable to punish Sizifor any longer, let him go back to Heaven.
10. A goat
In the morning, a goat wandered outside the fence, wanting to eat the cabbage in the fence, but it could not get in.
At that moment, the sun rose in the east and shone obliquely on the earth, and without realizing it, the goat saw its own shadow, which was dragging long. "I am so tall that I will surely eat the fruit of the tree, and what does it matter if I cannot eat this cabbage?" It said to itself.
In the distance, there was an orchard with trees full of colorful fruit.
So, it ran towards that garden.
When he reached the orchard, it was midday and the sun was shining. At that time, the goat's shadow turned into a very small mass. "Alas, it turns out that I am so short that I cannot eat the fruit of the trees, and it is better to go back and eat cabbages!" So it turned around in displeasure and ran back. By the time it reached the fence, the sun was already in the west, and its shadow became long and long again.
"Why did I have to come back?" The goat was chagrined, "With my size, I can eat the fruit from the tree without any problem at all!"