The cost of living is not as low as it was in the 1970s and 1980s. How many children nowadays can buy a house and get married in their twenties? Look at those first-and second-tier cities. Aren't there millions of apartments? Even graduate students may not be able to afford it! I want to earn my own money, get married, buy my own house and take care of my own baby. I will go, I feel incredible! In short, his son doesn't feel bad about his mother, he feels bad.
A talented boy with a high IQ may not have bought a house or given a bride price when his parents got married, but this vacancy was made up by the woman's family because of the boy's Excellence. How many girls with good family choose boys who have no car, no house and no bride price because boys are excellent and regard them as potential stocks. Some boys are born with potential stocks, and parents don't have to pay. Rich girls will definitely invest in potential stocks, so parents dare to talk like this.
But not all men are potential stocks. I think there is nothing wrong with it. Show your attitude. Families raising boys should understand that pain returns to pain and love returns to love. They must set up an idea for their children that he is a man, and he should take full responsibility for his own study, his own life and his future life, instead of conniving at children's lawlessness, not fighting for their own lives, pinning their hopes on their sisters at home, exchanging relatives with girls, or marrying their sons with girls' bride price.
The bride price thing is that the poorer the son is, the more he needs to give the bride price to the woman. The more capable the son is, the woman doesn't want a bride price at all. Why? Parents are afraid that their son can't find a wife. Parents don't help, don't prepare the bride price, and they have to be single. And capable children have no worries about finding a wife.
People don't grow up in a day, and some people need to be honed to grow up. A parent who loves children will support his newly-born son appropriately and should help his new wife. Daughter-in-law in a strange place came to a strange family and environment. Don't let them face all the difficulties as soon as they get married. Teach them to fish. You should give them some fish before you learn to fish. The bride price is just a form, just give it at will according to the family situation. What's the difference between talking about price and selling? There are many unsuitable bridesmaids, how can life be better? Now there are many women who don't marry or love me easily, damn it! This kind of thinking is loved by some people after marriage. The man, too, has no money to borrow and has to pretend that he has nothing to give. When the economic situation is bad, he will settle old scores after marriage. Life is so busy. If I were a man, I wouldn't marry such a girl. If the same girl wants to marry a better one, it depends on whether the family is hardworking, whether there is room for development in work, whether people are flexible and love learning. Don't just look at how much you pay on your wedding day.
I don't think the old man can say anything wrong, but he speaks a little cool thin. Not to mention whether he should give a bride price or prepare a wedding room for his children. When a child is not married, he is closest to his parents, who are the children's support. Parents are naturally the first to think of difficulties. If you can't help at this time, talk to your children and tell them your difficulties. Don't say that you can't earn when you are old. Even if the real situation is very helpless, there is another one. Of course, if the other party wants a sky-high bride price, the son knows his own situation and talks to his parents. Parents should be angry when they say this.
I also think I should ask my husband for a bride price, not my in-laws, and I don't need much. Just give me a year's salary, because if I want my children's income to be damaged this year, if I want them to take care of them at home until they are three years old, I have to give them at least three years and borrow them. This is not called the bride price guarantee fund. If he has worked for three years and still can't save your salary for one year, it means that he is not worthy of you. Wages are too low or there are no savings plans or luxuries and vices. Don't get married if you can't, or you can't afford to raise children. Houses can be bought together after marriage, which is called * * * having property.
The most successful education is not how much property to buy for children, but to teach children the ability to buy property. You're absolutely right [like] Some parents don't teach, but they will only be across the board. It is wrong for a baby who is not weaned today to give up everything tomorrow. This way, the children will definitely hate you. You must teach survival and exit.
Let's not talk about the bride price, let's talk about the down payment for buying a house. It is rare for a man's parents not to pay a young man in his twenties to take it out by himself. To put it mildly, you have to think about this day when you have a son. It can only be said that the boy's parents have no plans, and the son himself does not have much ability to earn money. Giving money is a mutual affection, not giving money is a duty, but China is a country with personal feelings and a society, and it is normal for parents to help their children. If two people get married, only two people try to accumulate wealth, and with the help of the woman's family, the man wants to be the shopkeeper of cutting, so in the family status, the man's parents have no right to speak, and whoever pays the money has the final say, and the economic foundation determines the superstructure.
I can have children, but I can't help having children. I just want to be happy. After giving birth to a child, no matter what the future is, the active old people keep working hard for their children's future. How can your daughter-in-law be filial to you in the future and how can your son admire you from the bottom of his heart? You don't work hard for your son at all. You'll know how hard it is for your son to start.
When their children grow up, China's parents will sum up their old age into their old age. They can't stop working, but their children understand. So they have trained a group of dependent children who cannot be weaned. Parents don't love but hurt them. For adult children, the elderly should choose proper care and leave the last bit of love to themselves.