Middle-aged men's greatest
Sadness is the current social problems
Straightly speaking, it is the pressure of six new mountains: career, marriage, mortgage, children, the elderly, medical care. Six new mountains pressure middle-aged men range from 45-59 years old rapidly expanding to 30-69 years old, countless young people were forced into middle age, hereinafter referred to as the new middle-aged.
Now you see Zhihu so many young people say they are middle-aged, this is a performance under great pressure, who is embarrassed to say they are young again, because youth means freedom. The saddest thing is that they are still like a child inside, they still want to play, and even very middle-aged, but as soon as they get out of the society, they will directly carry all the pressure of middle-aged men, do you think this can blame the youths? Bald and greasy has long since ceased to represent the middle-aged man, the new middle-aged hair thick it, but they are a big mistake a wrong time and the wrong person to get married, the wrong time to buy a house on the car, the wrong time to lose their jobs, the wrong use of the body wrong to get a serious illness, the wrong to give birth to too many or the wrong to raise the children, as well as will be forced to raise 6 wallets 12 old people in a long time, because the wallet is empty ah.
New middle-aged have responded to the call to give birth to 2/3 children, but the nanny is now so like | play phone, ask who dares to invite, that can only let the elderly with, but the elderly body what a long and short you do not worry about? So go to work you can not rest, back home you still have to more with the baby, with the old man, the weekend also have to take them out to remote bend, a wind blowing on the school to be punished, go to the hospital to line up. The new middle-aged time is broken into tiny pieces by various kinds of moths.
The young people who keep joining the ranks of the new middle-aged are forcing the new middle-aged to constantly strengthen their professional skills, and if you don't work hard, you will be taken down immediately, but the key point is where is the time? Day by day, it is not easy to stop a little, always have to take themselves as a personal relaxation ah, play mahjong play games drink a little wine, then you can only stay up all night, which still have the energy to live a married life, that there is still interest in maintaining marital relations? What's more, this wife is also a marriage "market" on the map to buy (error, looking for), the background of gold-digging, the new middle-aged how to solve the objectification of women's poison? In the consumerist environment, how can the new middle-aged people solve the poison of gender antagonism?
So, the new middle-aged in a field of chicken hair, has long been and his wife have their own, and the old king next door will always be in the flexible employment of that night to a perfect backstabbing, the new middle-aged fell in a pool of blood in the structural unemployment, surprisingly, also covered in green. But must hurry to get up ah, children and the elderly waiting to feed, mortgage who help to pay back, Gou out big problems in the body who help to cure? I don't dare to die,
Not even dare to learn from the women emo, must wipe off the bloodstained tears, and quickly get up to look for work everywhere.
In this fast-developing society, prosperity and beauty have nothing to do with the new middle-aged, consumerism and even lazily pay attention to them. The new middle-aged, as the backbone of society, have solidified all the parts of the big machine, but they are quickly worn down to parts that no longer fit, and are replaced by younger parts - the used screws that litter the ground.
But do you want to be a screw from now on? Too much thinking. The new middle age must immediately change thinking and even three views to adapt to the whole environment of any demand, for middle-aged people the world has never been a cruel Shuluo field. Not falling in love, not getting married, not having children, not working, not getting ahead and not socializing, this is certainly an option, but it is not mainstream. Our education doesn't allow it, our reality doesn't allow it, and our ideal ambitions don't allow it.
This is the greatest sorrow of middle-aged men.
The confused child inside has long been forced onto the battlefield of life, the young man, the early old man, the rapid old man, must be old.
It has to be admitted that the above description is an abstract and exaggerated generalization, even emotional. But the 35-year-old threshold does exist in the examination and job search, with the continuous upgrading of the industry, automation is higher and higher, more and more volume of education to come, more and more chicken and thieves in large factories, many in the early thirties of the new middle-aged has become the old man in the workplace, facing the risk of being eliminated. This is the reality.
The eliminated new middle-aged have become knights and chauffeurs, which in itself is a metaphor for the era of big growth:
To be fast, to be convenient, to be more, to grow forever, people no longer mean the end but only the means. Mechanical repetitive labor positions will soon be replaced by algorithms and robots, and humanity means redundancy that needs to be weeded out. In the future, the age bracket of the new middle age will continue to be stretched, perhaps in a world dominated by silicon-based life, where humans are born middle-aged and are still doing it before they die. And it would be nice to have work to do! What to do?
Looking over at the other side of the coin, this is again the best of times, full of opportunity and change. As an individual middle-aged men, first of all, should get rid of the influence of the grand narrative of the era of turbidity, in the chaos of the first quiet down, more thinking, calmly see their own strengths and limitations, filtering out all the impact of impatience and panic, to find a point of sustained in-depth continue to play a steady and stable, in order to have real growth. This is a great gift to their own middle-aged one to complete the de-middle-aged, lifelong learning and progress, lifelong enthusiasm and passion, this is the real new middle-aged, this is the real maturity.
The greatest good fortune of a middle-aged man is to maintain his inner peace and certainty amidst the tremendous pressure and chaos of this era