I believe that in life, every friend will have times when they are depressed, irritable, and emotionally unstable. They seem to dislike everyone, feel unhappy in everything they do, and feel like they are holding back a feeling of sadness in their chest. The nameless fire wants to be vented, yelling, and getting angry at others. If anyone accidentally offends you at this time, it will lead to anger!
Although people have troubles and things don’t go their way, we can’t lose our temper with people whenever we have troubles. Sometimes, the city gate may be on fire and the fish in the pond may be in trouble! In order to avoid harm or loss caused by this kind of emotional out-of-control, we should learn to use several magic weapons to control our emotions and regulate our emotions.
01? [Be alone and meditate]
First of all, when you feel angry, irritable, or even want to lose your temper and make noise with others, usually at this time, you are likely to Under the influence of impulse, some extreme behaviors will be performed.
According to surveys, 80% of quarrels will turn into fist fights and may even lead to murder. Isn't it scary? This is based on science. When your brain is congested, you are very likely to be unable to control your behavior! So, don’t think this is an exaggeration!
At this time, you can find a quiet place, be alone in a room, take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and avoid the negative consequences of hurting your family and friends due to your anger, regardless of words In terms of behavior, you are somewhat aggressive and harmful at this time, so please don't give yourself this opportunity to avoid regrets.
(A little trick here is that you can listen to some relaxing and pleasant songs to help you relax, because music can relax people, soothe the soul, and help you soothe your anxiety and irritability. provides great help! )
02? [Rational Analysis]
If you are a rational person, I hope you can calm yourself down when you feel irritable. Use your mind to find out the reasons for your emotional irritability. It is best to analyze the specific problems in detail. You can come up with solutions to the problems based on their occurrence and deal with the problems rationally.
I have seen people like this who can immediately think of the consequences when something goes wrong, and will quickly look for remedial measures to the current situation to save the losses as much as possible, just when others complain. At the time, he had already found several emergency plans, and finally saved the day. This is very admirable to me, and it is also worth learning.
At the same time, I also hope that after a problem occurs, I can restrain myself as much as possible and avoid complaining and other negative emotions. This will have no other effect except making things worse. At this time, what we should do is to think on the bright side of things and learn to explore some beautiful aspects. As the old saying goes: Blessings are where misfortune lies, and misfortunes are where blessings lie. If you learn to educate yourself, maybe you will find another bright spot!
03? [Emotional Transfer]
Maybe you will say, then I am not a rational person, so the next magic weapon will definitely be able to help you - divert attention, Find opportunities to vent your emotions.
For example, you can watch a TV series or movie you like, feel the joys and sorrows of the characters through your senses, and focus on the twists and turns of the characters’ fates in the drama, comedy It can make you laugh endlessly, and tragedy can also make you cry and vent your depression and sadness. But no matter what, as long as you can vent your emotions and release yourself in this way, I believe that when you return to reality from virtuality, Your emotions have been released. At this time, your mood will get better quickly.
In the same way, men and women after a breakup like to vent their emotions through overeating, especially some girls, by going shopping and shopping. This is also a method, but I don’t really advocate this approach. , because whether you torture yourself or your wallet, you will hurt yourself in the end, so isn't it a futile effort? So I hope everyone will take this as a warning and stay away.
04? 〔Find someone to talk to〕
Some people have delicate minds and sensitive hearts. When they are confused and irritable, they may get bored if they are left alone. At this time, the role of family and friends will be infinite, and they can also provide them with great help.
Communication is the bridge between people. The more communication there is, the closer the distance between people will be. I believe many people understand this.
If you have some things that you can’t figure out, you can communicate with your parents, listen to their opinions, tell them your thoughts, and let them help you analyze and give you guidance. After all, Jiang is still old. It's so spicy. It's possible that listening to you is better than ten years of reading. Let your confusion clear up and be swept away.
You can also talk to your friends. There are some things you don’t want to say to your parents, but you can do whatever you want among peers. A good friend may become your mentor at this time, whether it is a colleague Friction between friends or misunderstandings in friendships. Effective communication can often avoid a lot of trouble.
To take a step back, even if they may not be able to provide you with any effective advice and help, in the process of you talking about your troubles, your mood will also be improved as you talk about it. There is a certain soothing feeling, and some words cannot be said quickly, but when you say them, you will naturally relax.
05? 〔Play and relax〕
A magic weapon that was very popular some time ago is to take a trip on the go. What I mean is that when you are dissatisfied or confused about your current situation, you might as well simply pack your bags, go to a place you have always wanted to go but haven’t, and give your body and mind a vacation.
This is also a good idea. Go on a trip, have fun and relax. Although it is a bit escaping reality, the moment you pick up your luggage, you actually give yourself a chance to breathe. Maybe in work or life, due to material reasons, you have to do work that is boring, complicated, or stressful. There are seniors and juniors, and a heavy burden is placed on your shoulders, making you unable to breathe. stand up. At this time, you will need such a trip.
On the road, you can enjoy the mountains, rivers and beautiful scenery along the way; you can also let go of your curiosity and explore some unknown areas to fully satisfy your beautiful fantasies; you can also On the vast ocean, set sail, fly on the waves, and release the madness in your heart; when you have the chance. The moment I realize what I want in my heart, I believe that any depression and unhappiness will disappear.
Because you know that you are still the high-spirited young man who pursues your dreams. For you, this is not a trip, but a practice of letting yourself go.
06? [Increase self-confidence]
Your irritability may come from your lack of confidence in yourself. When you encounter difficulties that cannot be solved or are difficult to solve at the time in your work or study life, you will feel inexplicably irritable and anxious at this time. However, as the saying goes, heart disease requires heart medicine. If the confusion is caused by this reason, then of course you still need to increase your abilities to enhance your self-confidence. When you have enough self-confidence and optimism, what difficulties will you still have? What can't be solved?
At this time, you have entered another realm, facing difficulties head-on and rising to them. When you have this courage, any difficulty will be nothing in your eyes, because a person with enough confidence will become cheerful, and a confident and cheerful person will never be restrained by irritability. The so-called Draw the ground as a prison, and when you break through the prison in your heart, you will be truly free at this moment.
Your irritability, your uneasiness, your confusion, your confusion, at this time, you will naturally break through them one by one, because your heart is full, so full, how can there be any place to hold these? What about worries?
Finally, I attach a verse that I like, from the masterpiece "If Life Deceived You" by Pushkin, a master I admire very much.
Day 28 of Wujie 365 Writing Training Camp