My father lives in a nursing home. The reason for sending him to a nursing home is that my mother is seriously ill, my father is also seriously ill, and our children have to work and take care of the sick, so they can't take care of him. Finally, the whole family discussed. Let my father, who is in relatively good health, go to live in a nursing home.
At first, my father was reluctant to go to the nursing home, and he didn't want to go. Under our persuasion, father put forward conditions: if you go to the nursing home, must be a single room. If he could find a satisfactory single room, he could consider going to a nursing home.
Finally, after our careful selection, we finally found a satisfactory nursing home and sent my father in.
The nursing home where my father lives is considered to be in relatively good condition in Chengdu. And his single room? The monthly rent is 4,400 yuan, plus living expenses, nursing fees, management fees, the total **** a month's price, adding up to 8,800 yuan. And these expenses? Covered by our siblings plus our father's own pension*** together.
Being a son or daughter puts the old man in a nursing home. There is a feeling as if they have abandoned the elderly. The elderly also have this feeling, as if their children do not want them, abandoned them. That's why it can't even be said that they were happy to send him in in the first place, because he wasn't too happy, wasn't too happy about it.
Of course, when he went in, he found that it was better than he expected. And then the father lived quite happily there. Until now, he has been living in the nursing home for four years.
How much does it really cost to live in a nursing home? It depends on how you live. Currently, there are nursing homes in the country. It can be roughly divided into four categories, right?
The first category is the state public nursing home.
This category are by the state bottom, support. The conditions are good and the equipment is good. Living makes people feel very solid, rest assured. Price charges are also more reasonable. His fee range is about 2,000 yuan to 4,000 yuan a month. But this kind of nursing home is often overcrowded, a bed is hard to find. Because of the affordability of the most popular by the public well.
The second category is the low-end private nursing homes.
This type of nursing home? The first is a low-cost, simple condition.
I've been there. There are three beds in a single room, and the beds are white bedding. Didn't see any other furniture.
This category charges from 1,600 yuan to 3,500 yuan a month, and is basically just several people in one room with fewer amenities. This category is popular with poor people with low incomes. Generally speaking, this type of nursing home also does good business.
I chatted with one of the elderly people there that time. Asked him how is the food here? How are the drinks? How is this nursing home?
He said that if he had his own house, it would be better not to come here. The food was poor, and when I saw meat in the dishes, I couldn't add it up, just a little bit of very little minced meat and shredded meat.
He said he was forced to come here because he had no house, no children, no dependents and a low pension.
The third category, the terminal private nursing homes.
The cost is about 3,500 to 7,500 yuan a month. The infrastructure is certainly there, the entertainment area, the living area also has a large choice of space, the money can choose a single room. If you don't have the budget, you can get a double, triple or multiple room.
The nursing home where my father lives belongs to the third category.
The fourth category would be high-end nursing homes. The cost ranges from 8,000 to 35,000 yuan per month. The environment must be good if the fees are so expensive! Facilities are very complete, live in the service is also thoughtful, and medical staff care, entertainment programs are also rich.
This type of nursing home is usually found in first and second tier cities.
The above fees are for beds and meals, plus regular basic care and nursing home management fees.
Special emphasis here. Nursing fees are generally divided into three categories, corresponding to self-care, semi-self-care, and paralyzed elderly. The nursing home where my father lives distinguishes between the levels of care in this way: if you can't bathe independently and need help, this is secondary care. If you are paralyzed, you need level one care. If you are living completely on your own, you need tertiary care.
My father needs a walker to walk, but he still needs help to take a shower. So it's secondary care. The cost of primary care for a fully paralyzed patient, is higher. The rooms for fully paralyzed patients also have special bathing stations. Hot water is used for rinsing, and the water runs into an underground pipe. It's very convenient. The various costs for the disabled elderly add up to more than 10,000 a month.
Additionally the elderly living in also need to pay in advance another medical reserve. If an elderly person needs to be hospitalized due to a sudden illness while living in a nursing home, then the medical reserve, will be used to advance the elderly's hospitalization deposit.
So, when you do the math, it's not cheap to live in a nursing home.
So what are the benefits of living in a nursing home? And what are the disadvantages? I'll summarize my father's experience in the hospital over the past four years.
The benefits of living in a nursing home are:
One, there is a group living environment. You can make a lot of elderly friends. There will be people to chat with you and talk about topics of interest to the elderly. The mood will be very pleasant.
The service staff are middle-aged and young people, and they will affectionately call you grandparents. The old people are very happy to socialize with the young people. All in all, it is very good for the elderly to have a pleasant mind and body.
Second, the nursing home has a variety of meals to eat. Generally nursing homes have four dishes and one soup, or three dishes and one soup to eat. There are professional cooks to cook. Every meal will change the pattern. More fancy food than at home, more dishes. It's more thorough from a nutritional point of view. There are shortcomings, such as the nursing home where my father lives does not come with milk. Our family members buy and send some to supplement it. Relatively speaking, it's a lot easier for the family members.
What are the downsides of living in a nursing home?
The downside is that the attendants don't take care of the elderly as attentive and thoughtful as their own relatives. They just go about their routine and do their job. Sometimes there are incidents of neglecting the elderly.
For example, I went to see my dad. I saw it with my own eyes: an old man in a wheelchair asked the attendant to get him a glass of water.
The attendant said: your son said. You can't drink much water. There is soup for the afternoon meal.
There are times when it's not perfect, though. But we don't have the right to demand that people who are not related to us by blood love us as much as our relatives do. So looking at the big picture, living in a nursing home is still a good option, with the pros outweighing the cons.
So. To have a decent old age, we must start preparing now, work hard to earn money and save desperately.