What is the premise of children's success and happiness?
When we talk about success, there is no doubt that we will say that my children must go to good schools and prestigious schools in the future, which is an important symbol of success. But now there are many problems. Some young people do well in school.
Excellent, but it is worth noting that he was fired and didn't adapt after work. Let me tell you a question. We want our children to be successful and happy, and we must do these things. First of all, when our children reach the third grade of high school,
Be sure to know what major you are suitable for. What road? Second, before you graduate from college and look for a job, you should have enough practical experience and clear life goals and plans. Third, there must be a moral bottom line. this year
Young people have a value orientation, thinking that I can't suffer, and you can't bully me. In fact, how can there be absolute fairness in life? Whether there is tolerance and humility is a question of values and personality. There is a saying.
It is very accurate that a person's moral bottom line can only be formed by repeated strong stimulation of family education. What do you mean by "intense stimulation"? For example, children take other people's things. Where are the parents? You must never turn a blind eye.
One eye. You took someone else's things. Although you can't be said to be a thief, what you did was wrong. You must return it and apologize. If you insist, you have to send it back, you have to apologize, and you must never allow it. you want
With this attitude, the child feels that "it can't be done, it's terrible, and it's in big trouble." If you don't agree, just say "pay attention next time", the child doesn't really care, and such behavior may also develop.
This is called the bottom line.
Some children rely too much on their parents in their lives, and their families value education over quality, with high scores and low abilities. There is a problem. You will find that when a child just studies well, it doesn't mean that he will be successful and happy.
What is true success and happiness?
What is success?
What is success? I will talk about two new concepts. This group of concepts, everyone can succeed, what is its supporting concept? It's three o'clock. 1, success is development. Success must not be compared with others. Only success
Improving and developing on the original basis is called success. Don't compare with others. Everyone is very different. Is it an improvement relative to the child itself? A little progress is success, and success is development.
2. Success is a choice. Genius is choosing the path that suits you. I think choice is very important, choose the one that suits you.
3. Success is harmony. What kind of people live a happy life? It must be a harmonious interpersonal relationship, a harmonious physical and mental development, and a peaceful mentality. Understanding, honesty and helpfulness, then everyone must like such people.
Success is choice. For a person who is willing to struggle, success lies in choice, and choice lies in self-knowledge. Winners choose the path that suits them, while losers choose the path that doesn't suit them.
What is happiness?
What is happiness? According to Aristotle, happiness is the highest goal of human life, and happiness is the combination of family happiness and career success. Plato believes that a happy life is like two clear springs flowing in the heart, one
Clear spring is happiness, which can be compared to honey spring, sweet and delicious. Clear spring is wisdom, like coolant. Two clear springs alone can't give us happiness. Only with our own strength can we reasonably distribute two clear springs.
Ideal enough and happy enough.
Also, attach importance to happiness education. How can we make the child's heart strong? First and foremost, let the child feel that someone loves him. He feels safe, happy and interesting in life. During the children's holidays, too
Let him live a very rich life. The essential meaning of holidays is to let children live a different life in peacetime. Let children live a life different from school and family life. Therefore, this is a great test for parents.
Testing. How to make holidays a happy paradise, a happy time and a happy experience for children to grow up? Don't just want to make up lessons again, so that children feel that holidays are miserable and life is meaningless. In this way, his heart is
Will be very fragile. When a child feels the joy of life, this is the most important condition for his tenacious life. It's important to have love, hope and something to do. Therefore, this is what our parents need to do most.
The way to success and happiness
I summarized several methods.
First, establish a modern view of children, which is the first concept. What is the modern concept of children? I believe that every child can succeed. Everyone's childhood is very important, childhood happiness is the source of happiness in life, childhood
Misfortune is the beginning of a lifetime. Childhood experiences will nourish your life, and the qualities and habits formed in childhood will affect your life. Everyone's adulthood is the development of childhood. So we ... ...
I think to give love to children, we must first give them a happy childhood, a vibrant childhood, so we must believe that every child is successful.
Second, create a good growth environment. No matter how much the life pattern changes, we should attach importance to family building, family education and family style. How important family building is! Is your family life happy? Is it positive energy? Is it a healthy life? This is too important.
Third, we should cultivate positive thinking and emotions. What success and happiness need most is positive thinking and emotion, which is very critical. Let me tell you the most specific question. A good relationship needs a good explanation, and a good explanation is the only way.
This is a good relationship. Parents' positive explanations may lead to children's optimism. Negative explanations may lead children to be pessimistic. Not only can't you explain it negatively, but also let children learn to refute negative emotions.
Don't blindly accept the insult to yourself. How come? Collect evidence. Although the children are still young, some children have suffered many insults. Someone said to the child, I think you are destined to go to jail in the future, and you should be able to learn from the western sun.
If you come out, everyone in the class can become a talent, but you can't. How to refute? The first is to collect evidence and find one or two pieces of evidence to prove that children can do it. That's for sure. Make a choice, analyze the consequences, start fighting back, and let the children change slowly.
Confidence is very important.
Fourth, it is the combination of care and discipline. Simply put, whether children can grow up healthily depends on two basic criteria, namely, whether they can cultivate their initiative and self-control. We say that the core of education is to cultivate health.
Healthy personality, and the core of healthy personality is to cultivate these two seeds. Initiative, self-control, you go and see, your child has no creativity, no happiness and no enthusiasm without initiative. But if there is no self-control, then
It is particularly prone to problems. So, if you train a child, whether he is successful or not. The simplest and most important criteria are initiative and self-control. Education is regular, no matter how you learn it at home and abroad, one
It will be found regularly that the family with the highest success rate must be a democratic and authoritative family. Is to respect understanding and be strict. In fact, it is initiative and self-control. This is the law.
Fifth, guide children to learn creatively, pay attention to the changes of things at any time, and look at this problem from different angles. Children will be inspired to learn this kind of creative learning. People should do something and be valuable.
Yes Therefore, we advocate a special thought, that is, positive thinking and falling in love with learning. It is said that distraction is another kind of concentration, and mindfulness can bring creative life. What is mindfulness? Create various possibilities, actively pay attention to new things, at any time.
Be keenly aware of subtle changes in the environment and adjust your response at any time. You see, this is an innovative learning, and this is the best learning state.
Sixth, form good habits. Simply put, the most important education method is to form good habits. How to form a habit? Technically, when a behavior or action lasts more than 2 1 day, it may initially become a habit.
Used to be. If you can persist for more than 90 days, it may become a stable habit. According to the research of MIT, the easiest way to get used to it is to hint and reward. Grab these two guides for children.
Guidance, let children have a normal behavior, 2 1 day to 90 days, it is possible to form good habits.
Generally speaking, what I want to talk about today is modern family education, exploring real success and happiness. Without success, happiness is empty talk. Simple pursuit of success and unilateral pursuit of success may be far from happiness. We should make the pursuit happiness-oriented and success-oriented, so that children can get healthy development.