But in fact: raising a son in poverty is an investment in a boy's life; Raising a daughter is an investment in cultural literacy.
The real connotation of "poor" raising boys
Perhaps, many people think that raising a boy "poor" means controlling the child's expenses, and don't give him too much enjoyment to avoid spoiling him. This understanding is one-sided, which is different from what we call "poor" support.
We believe that the more important significance of "poor" raising boys lies in the value brought to children by the personal feelings of "poor" and "bitter", as well as the tempering, training and cultivation of children's will, quality, personality and mentality.
To sum up, we can understand and grasp the "poor" raising boys mainly from the following aspects.
| No.65438 +0 | Let the boy live a hard life.
When the economic conditions are good, it is understandable that parents with rich pockets spend money to train their children. Parents can create good learning conditions and environment for them, but they must not give them too extravagant material enjoyment.
Otherwise, it's not too late to save money for your son when he grows up and has a normal view of money. For the sake of his son's positive progress, for his son to develop the virtue of diligence and thrift, and for his son's lack of warmth and bad thoughts, it is better to let him live a "poor life."
| NO.2 | Let boys experience frustration.
The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the storm. The concept of loving children, contained in the mouth and held in the hand, will make boys weak-willed, psychologically weak, and go to extremes if they are slightly frustrated or frustrated.
Frustration will inspire the boy's fearless spirit and face difficulties positively. As parents, we must let our son encounter "setbacks" and encourage him to overcome them.
| NO.3 | Let boys learn to live independently
"Clothes come to reach out, food comes to mouth" and "everything is arranged", which is the taboo of educating people. Many college students can't cook, wash clothes and fold quilts, which is incredible. Can such a person accept the challenge of society? Can you be creative?
| NO.4 | Let the boys be wronged appropriately.
Boys must learn to be strong. If you are wronged properly, you will have a deeper understanding of life When a son does something wrong, it is necessary for parents to give him appropriate criticism and punishment. Even if he is wronged, it is a strategy to educate people. Such a child, after experiencing all kinds of emotional experiences, has less rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance and healthy psychology, and is easy to achieve great things.
| NO.5 | Let boys learn to take responsibility
Responsibility is a badge on a person's shoulder. Dare to take responsibility, don't shirk responsibility, and make men more attractive. Therefore, parents should educate boys' sense of responsibility from an early age, so that they can shoulder the dual responsibilities of family and society in the future and become a man with indomitable spirit.
| 6th place | Make boys more optimistic and caring.
Optimism and kindness are essential qualities for a mature and excellent man. Therefore, parents should guide their children through different ways and means, wipe away the dirt in their hearts, eliminate selfishness in their hearts, and let their children grow into an optimistic, cheerful, kind and sincere person.
The real meaning of "having money" to raise girls
A good girl's nutrition is mainly to cultivate her temperament, broaden her horizons, increase her ability to read the world and enhance her knowledge.
A pampered girl knows what she wants and what is really worth pursuing, because she is well informed, independent, independent and smart. When she reaches the age of sixty, she will not be easily tempted by all kinds of glitz, prosperity and vanity. The most important quality that girls should cultivate is understanding. She has a good personality, can control her emotions and is grateful to those who help her. She is an elegant lady.
| No.65438 +0 | Encourage-encourage raising, not raising modestly.
One of my students, a girl of 13 years old, once wrote in her diary:
Whenever I encounter difficulties and hesitate, my father will always stand by me firmly and tell me, "son, you are the best in my father's mind, and my father believes you can do it!" " "
Thanks to my father, I can cultivate an independent and strong character. ...
Compared with boys, girls live in a relational world and need others' affirmation and recognition, and they need others to push her behind. For them, the affirmation and recognition of others and their help are the source of their self-confidence, independence, strength and pursuit of Excellence.
Parents, whether for boys or girls, cultivate children's self-confidence, self-reliance and wisdom.
No matter how poor you are,
Still rich,
Its connotation lies in education.