What kind of marriage must be abandoned? In daily life, many people are reluctant to divorce even if their marriage is destroyed, because they want to give their children a complete home, but some marriages are meaningless. To know what kind of marriage must be abandoned, let's share what kind of marriage must be abandoned.
What kind of marriage must be abandoned 1? First, I have no feelings for children.
It is easy for two people in marriage to lose their freshness because of daily necessities. This is an understandable and redeemable problem. If they lose interest in their families, they have no desire to communicate with their children. Children don't care about exam results, even if they are sick, then such a marriage can be abandoned. For China people, the most important thing is family inheritance. If they have no sense of responsibility for their children, then such a marriage can't come to an end. Moreover, children can't grow up healthily in such a marriage, so they have to leave such a partner quickly for the sake of their children.
Second, the control of economic rights.
In many families, the husband works hard outside and the wife is responsible for housework and children at home. In fact, a reasonable husband can understand that his wife's contribution is actually great, but some husbands can't sympathize with their wives' hard work, their wages are never used by their wives, and their husbands are unwilling to pay for their family expenses or even invest in their children's education. Such a husband is just a miser who has no feelings and is addicted to money. In addition to the husband's reluctance to invest in the family, some wives have little investment in the family. They are willing to spend money on cosmetics and bags rather than invest in their families. This kind of person is not bound by the sense of family responsibility, so there is no need to save such a marriage.
Third, how many times did you cheat?
In today's tempting society, many people can't control themselves and cheat. They can choose to understand some special situations, and no one is perfect. But many people are forgiven, but they don't know how to repent, cheat again and again, and don't care what their families think at all. Such people are selfish. They only care about their own emotional happiness and are completely indifferent to their families. Such a marriage can only be abandoned.
Fourth, I don't want to spend it at home at all.
Families need to take time to cultivate feelings and take care of the feelings of each member of the family. However, some people always stay at home at night under the slogan of busy work, and some big and small things happen at home, which will not appear. This marriage relationship is meaningless, which proves that he doesn't care about his family and family at all, so this marriage doesn't need to be redeemed. There is a saying that the most beautiful love is companionship. How can those who don't even want to spend time at home put their hearts on their families?
What kind of marriage must be abandoned? What kind of marriage should be abandoned?
One or two people have been relatively speechless.
I came home from work, you looked at him, he looked at you, and then they parted ways without a warm word. Such a marriage is like a stagnant pool, bottomless, and it is a kind of torture for both of them! In a normal marriage, husband and wife will tell their own worries, quarrel and talk sweet words, which is a healthy relationship between husband and wife! If you two are speechless, what's the difference between you and strangers? Give up this marriage!
Second, I don't like each other.
Love him first and then want to marry him; Love her makes her the happiest woman in the world! When the passion of marriage fades, there is at least affection between you and you can live a plain life, but some people don't want to live such a plain life. The outside world is wonderful, but I don't like it when I go home and see the familiar face at home! People outside are obedient and good to themselves, but when they get home, they have endless quarrels! So the contradiction between the two people is getting bigger and bigger, and finally they look at each other directly. Such two people are like enemies. If you don't give up this marriage, you will be hurt more deeply!
Third, one of them cheated.
The essence of marriage is loyalty. If one or both parties in a marriage are no longer loyal, then this marriage will lose its meaning! When you cheat in your marriage, then think about it, can you still wholeheartedly pay for each other in your marriage? If one side of the marriage is cheating and the other side can't accept it, then I still suggest you give up!
Fourth, never do housework.
Many men have male chauvinism, so they think women need to do housework. They come home from work every day, just like the shopkeeper, regardless of anything! In my opinion, housework needs to be shared by husband and wife, because this family is composed of two people. If only one person is busy here and the other person is sitting on the sofa watching, what have you paid for this family?
A marriage that must be abandoned
1, marriage is not about love
In life, a considerable number of people enter the marriage hall, either because of love or because their feelings have not been combined to a certain extent. For example, when Fengzi got married, she was anxious to get married when she was old, and tried to find a partner to drive away the pain of lovelorn. These situations may not eventually lead to divorce, but they will all cause marital pain because of poor emotional foundation before marriage and lack of interest in each other after marriage. Many people think that feelings can be cultivated after marriage. In fact, this is a big misunderstanding. If two people do not have a certain emotional foundation, it is difficult to cultivate after marriage, especially men. Men can't change from first love to later love, only from first love to later love. This is a unique psychological characteristic of men. Such a marriage is likely to end in an extramarital affair. Therefore, before entering marriage, both parties must have a good emotional foundation, and don't choose to get married hastily because of temporary pleasure.
2. A marriage in which the other party continues to cheat and does not want to repent.
If this is the case, even if the other party does not explicitly file for divorce, the marriage will exist in name only, and maintaining this marriage will only cause greater harm to the injured party. Repeated infidelity is fatal to marriage.
Generally speaking, if the woman continues to cheat, few husbands can always patiently persuade and wait, and usually decide to divorce and cut the gordian knot. On the other hand, if a man cheats repeatedly, most wives are still willing to patiently persuade him to give him enough time to return to his family. However, if the other party doesn't care about his own feelings, the influence on the children, and only considers his own interests and feelings, this betrayal will not be temporary for marriage. Endure this time, there must be another time or next time. This is a character defect, not a temporary confusion, and it is not necessarily a wise choice to give up this kind of person.
3. Marriage in which the other party has serious personality or psychological defects.
If the other person basically has the personality or psychological defects such as withdrawn personality, extreme paranoia, xenophobia, sensitivity and suspicion, self-righteousness and bad temper mentioned in the previous sections, and the degree is serious, it belongs to compound personality or psychological defects. If faced with this situation, it is almost impossible to get a happy marriage, and this defect is almost unchangeable, which will definitely do great harm to your family.
4. Marriage with low emotional intelligence.
People with low emotional intelligence are often immature and not necessarily bad, but what they do is often incomprehensible and sometimes even absurd and irrational. They are like children who are not sensible. They can't handle all kinds of relationships well, and there is always something wrong with what they say or do. I'm not very sociable and have few real friends. For unmarried lovers, it is the best choice to stay away from people with low emotional intelligence, otherwise their quality of life and happiness index will be reduced.
What kind of marriage should be let go?
1, the two sides are extremely lacking in trust.
In some families, both men and women are romantic. Every day, I have ulterior motives and make excuses not to go home. Although everyone knows that the other party is making up excuses to deceive people, they don't expose each other and seek happiness. This kind of married life has no flavor of marriage at all, and the family has lost its meaning of existence. It is better to give up early and make plans early.
2. One party is extremely irresponsible to the family.
Marriage and family need the painstaking efforts of both sides to be happy. If one of them only cares about his own enjoyment, he will treat his family as an ATM and then go out to gamble, take drugs or have sex. The only purpose and thing to do at home is to ask for money. With a little money, I went out to "enjoy a happy life" and never changed my mind. It is a relief to give up such a marriage early.
3. Marriage with escalating violence.
Domestic violence has become a poison in marriage. If one party treats the other with domestic violence, and the domestic violence is escalating, it is better to end the marriage as soon as possible. It is often reported that a family member was beaten, bound, confined, mutilated or otherwise physically, mentally and sexually injured and destroyed. The means are cruel and outrageous. There are even cases of disability and death.
4. An inactive marriage must be abandoned.
What is an inactive marriage? In my opinion, there is obviously a big problem between the two parties to the marriage. Instead of communicating well and trying to solve the problem, the two people muddle along and continue the problem in an attempt to whitewash the peace. Or one side actively wants to solve the problem, and the other side faces it with silence or hysteria and refuses non-violent communication. This kind of marriage belongs to inaction marriage, and it is also a marriage that I think must be abandoned.