Neighbor Jason is a mother with a second child. Not long ago, Jason's mother-in-law suddenly had the idea of having three children. "While the policy allows now, you are still young, and it would be great if you had a baby together again! And now that you quit your job and stay at home, it shouldn't be difficult to bring another child? "
After listening to her mother-in-law, Jason was helpless. "I take two children is enough. If I have another one, I am afraid it is really unbearable! " Moreover, raising two children is very stressful now. If I have another child, I'm afraid my husband's salary will be lost! "
Jason's direct refusal embarrassed her mother-in-law, but she had to say so, which is also true. So my mother-in-law immediately said, "If you want another one, we can bring it for you, and I can also give you some pension money!" "
Although Jason can understand her mother-in-law's mood, she has to say that having three children is no joke. "You and my father-in-law are old and want to help with the children. Your physical condition doesn't allow it! Besides, the cost of having children is high now, and you can't afford it with a little pension! "
In fact, it's not that Jason didn't think about having three children, but the idea flashed through his mind, because "with the current family strength, it is definitely unbearable to regenerate one."
0 1 Why is the three-child policy liberalized, but few families have three children together?
Although there is no policy to restrict the birth of three children, it must be said that there are still a few families who really have the "strength" to have three children. Nowadays, people's lives are under great pressure. Many working couples have to return to their families after having a second child, which reduces the family's financial resources to some extent. If three children are born together in this case, it will be unbearable for the family economy.
In addition, at present, the cost of giving birth to a child is high. Whether it is milk powder when I was a child or a school district when I grow up, I need enough economic foundation to prepare. At the same time, raising three children will inevitably lead to a sudden increase in the cost of family support, even middle-class families with relatively good economic conditions dare not make hasty decisions.
Raising one more child is a great challenge to both husband and wife's parenting energy and time, especially at present, people's life pace is fast, and the time and energy that husband and wife can pay for parenting is very limited. If triplets are born together, but they can't be accompanied enough, then this obviously goes against the original intention of the husband and wife.
In the matter of childbirth, what aspects should husband and wife be clear about?
Before deciding whether to have children, the couple should consider the overall economic conditions of the family. If the family's economic conditions are solid and stable, the impact of childbirth can be weakened to some extent because of the strong support of economic conditions. For example, you can pay a nanny to help take care of the baby. Adequate material foundation is also more conducive to the stability and harmony of the family atmosphere.
Before deciding whether to have children together, couples should also measure the time and energy they can spend raising each other. After all, to raise children, we should not only provide them with sufficient material conditions, but also give them enough companionship. And this kind of companionship requires parents to spend a lot of time and energy. If both husband and wife can't spare the time and energy, it will easily lead to frequent family conflicts, and the relationship between husband and wife will be tense after the quarrel.
In families with many children, parents have to face more complicated problems in getting along with their children. If the couple do not have enough educational wisdom, then the desperate choice is likely to lead to greater contradictions and differences between the children. This will not only break the original warm and harmonious family atmosphere, but also hinder the healthy growth of children's body and mind.
Whether fighting for a second child or a third child, parents should remain rational and make a sober choice on the issue of fertility. Being able to witness the birth and growth of a baby is naturally a process that parents are proud of and happy about, but it also means that the couple have to pay a lot for it.
Conclusion: Different families have different views on triplets, but in the final analysis, giving birth within one's ability is more conducive to maintaining and ensuring the quality and happiness of family life.