Developmental psychology believes that mentality determines fate, details determine success or failure, and habits create the future. Good habits are often formed in childhood. Therefore, let children develop good habits from an early age and form a preliminary concept of time and discipline. Let the baby get up and eat on time. If the children don't cooperate, you can tell them: mom and dad have to go to work, can't be late, and don't indulge the children. Proper restraint can prevent children from having a "self-centered" psychological consciousness.
2. Create a harmonious family environment
Parents' upbringing, attitudes and ways play a great role in the cultivation of children's healthy personality. A harmonious family atmosphere helps children to have a positive attitude towards life, and they can consciously participate in family activities. Love, care and understanding between parents; Parents' consideration, respect and care for their elders; Parents' strict love for their children is moderate, demanding and loving, which can make children form positive emotions such as self-esteem, self-confidence, kindness and responsibility. However, if children live in an unharmonious and unhealthy family environment, such as family members' disharmony and frequent quarrels, they will feel insecure, distrust others, and some may even be aggressive or violent.
Parents must have a healthy personality to influence their children. In the modern society where the pace of life is accelerating, parents should not only be busy and work hard for their lives, but also face lively, curious and active children when they get home. At this time, please be a role model for children anytime and anywhere, guide them patiently, and don't treat them with a rude and impatient attitude, so that children can express themselves in a free, relaxed and equal family atmosphere.
3. Protect self-esteem and enhance self-confidence.
Although the child is small, he is also an independent individual with his own wishes and hobbies. Parents should learn to gain insight into their children's inner world, communicate with their children in a tone of consultation, guidance and encouragement, and think from their children's point of view instead of imposing their will on them. Don't scold or abuse children because they are young, especially don't ridicule or satirize them. These are not conducive to the healthy growth of children's personality. Parents should affirm and encourage their children's progress bit by bit, increase their self-confidence and protect their self-esteem.
4. Cultivate the independence of children's lives.
At present, most children are only children. Every child is the little sun at home, and the conditions of eating, drinking and having fun are the best at home. However, due to the over-protection of parents, they think that children only need to concentrate on their studies, and other things are arranged by their parents, which leads to their "mouth to mouth, clothes to reach out" and no self-care ability. Over time, children are too dependent, and it is easy to form dependent personality disorder when they grow up.
5. Pay attention to cultivating children's communication skills and love.
Communication ability is very important to a person's life. Today's children have no brothers or sisters and are the center of the family. Therefore, it is easy to develop shortcomings such as willfulness and self-centeredness, and is not good at interacting with peers. Parents should take their children to contact other children and learn to interact with others.