Father's love for mother's love is innate, but filial piety needs to be cultivated.
Professor Ceng Shiqiang once said: China has filial piety, but there is no Tzu Chi, because parents will do it kindly, but it is the result of parents' careful care and cultivation to let a person honor his parents.
Therefore, when we see that our children are not filial to the elderly or even beating their elders, we should think about two issues:
What kind of education has the child received since childhood?
Has the child become a useful person through re-education?
In China, when children behave badly and have bad conduct, adults will say one thing first: children have no tutor. -I think this is the most malicious sentence without dirty words. Because he not only talked about the children's problems, but also said that the children's elders and even the whole family had problems.
Nowadays, with the infiltration of individual exquisite egoism, the relationship between many parents and children is less and less like father and daughter, mother and child.
The interaction between Wu Zongxian and her daughter in her thirties is uncomfortable.
It is obvious to all that Wu Zongxian, as a senior figure in the host field, has great appeal. However, in the education of his daughter, his behavior is really incredible. According to media reports, once, Wu Zongxian and her daughter Wu Shanru hosted a program on the same stage, hugged her own daughter and joked that you were the only female artist who could grope.
I don't know how you feel after reading it. In short, I feel very inappropriate, even particularly disgusted and disgusting.
In order to update the video on social platforms, Li begged her daughter and kissed her thigh!
Last month, Li opened a new social account. Promise to shoot three videos a week. At first, most of his video content was shot with his own life. Later, he didn't know what to shoot, so he asked his daughter Li Yan for help.
The video scene, according to a big V report, is like this:
He shook his daughter's leg and asked, is that okay? Daughter replied: your acting skills are too bad!
Then Li kissed her daughter's thigh.
It is this action that has been angered by netizens. Under great pressure, Li had to delete this video. The comments of netizens all express a content: How can a dear dad treat his own daughter like this without boundaries?
Of course, some netizens said: Everything looks dirty. -I mean, it's not about filth. It turns out that Li and Li Yan are father-daughter relationships, and it is only natural for a father to love his daughter. But some behaviors just can't be done, which is out of line and unacceptable to secular ethics. This is against the ethical etiquette in Chinese excellent traditional culture.
Some netizens shouted directly to Faye Wong: Don't you care?
Personally, I think it may not be that Faye Wong doesn't care, but that he can't do it. Once, at Li Yan 10 birthday party, Li kissed her daughter in front of everyone.
Faye Wong is independent of the world, cold and self-centered. She knows many things and understands many things, but she can't break them because she can't change them. So, what does she think of children's education? We can learn from her previous interviews that she once said, "My desire to protect and worry about children is in infancy. After this stage, I will treat them as independent individuals to get along and communicate. "
Of course, Li's behavior towards his daughter Li Yan is not only what he did, but also similar "father loves mother's love" by other famous people without boundaries.
Angel and his son Dingding, Hu Jun and his daughter, and so on.
To put it alarmist, if children and parents have no sense of boundaries, children will have no sense of boundaries in dealing with others in the future. A person who has no sense of boundaries will not be very smooth.
The original intention of writing this article is to hope that this kind of "fatherless love and maternal love" will stop as soon as possible! ! ! This is not to love children at all, but to satisfy their hypocrisy, loneliness and nowhere to put their souls in the name of loving children.
To truly love children, we should respect them, understand them, support them and give them unconditional support when they are in trouble. Of course, this does not mean that you can go beyond your behavior. Respect, understanding, tolerance and support should be emotional. It is possible to express it in words and support it with actions. This kind of intimate action that only couples and couples can do should never be done to children.
We can imagine: if a girl's parents hold her since she was a child and kiss her here and there, will she think that this is what people should look like, so they can do the same for people who are slightly close ... what will happen?
Similarly, if it is a boy, it may be okay to meet someone who can understand. If you don't understand his cuddling and kissing behavior, you may also be regarded as a hooligan.
There are limits to loving children.
Parents should sincerely express their love within a reasonable range, rather than "arbitrarily" falling under the name of "flirting" The good reputation of most of my life has been ruined by educating my children, which not only hurts myself, but also leaves a bad image for the public.
Love children, as long as you are sincere from the heart, you don't need any intimate actions at all. In a word, children can feel it.
Many parents don't understand that this is also an important part of educating children to do well.
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