We are destined to talk because our husbands are friends. I have known each other for four years, and with the passage of time, one by one got married and had children, and got married in Xiamen.
"They rarely have such a good gay friends. They all got married because of love. I have known each other for so many years, and I am still such a good buddy, and my wives are also very talkative. " Not long ago, Shi Ge, the last good friend of their group of friends, took off the bill. In middle age, people still marry love.
"Bringing people you agree with into your circle of friends" is the aim of Brother Shi and his friends. Men never play by themselves, but always bring their girlfriends or wives.
Four years have passed, from girlfriends to wives to children's mothers, men continue their friendship, and we girls occasionally get together to talk about trivial daily life.
"Let's find a place to eat together, we haven't got together for a long time", m-girls discussed on WeChat, except that I am pregnant, the other three have given their children to their husbands.
"Today, relax. We get together and give the children to men. " Even if Lan, Mei and Hui Ting have children, they will not focus on their families and children. "We women must have our own leisure time so that their men can take on some family responsibilities."
After we agreed, we greeted the men and made an appointment to hold a party for exclusive women.
In a happy marriage, your partner should enter your circle, and you respect each other's circle. Women do not exclude family and children, but also adjust themselves appropriately, and there is a small circle. Men are not completely "shopkeepers", they know how to take responsibility and give women a holiday.
What women talk about after marriage is nothing more than the education of men and children. Before marriage, this woman focused on all kinds of cosmetics, bags and clothes; When you get married, it is a different world. Children and husbands talk the most.
Chatting is a way to pour out trivial things in daily life. Even if you talk and laugh, you can spit it out like garbage.
Everyone will have their own troubles. When talking about her husband, there will be dissatisfaction, but it is more of a release between jokes.
"I thought you two wouldn't have a problem, and you did." Chatting and chatting, I suddenly found that every small family and every seemingly happy marriage will have small fights.
"How can there be no contradiction, however, I learned to quarrel. Recently, we quarreled over trifles, so I threw the child to him and went out to eat delicious food by myself. Eat something delicious and take a walk. I was in a good mood when I came back. I just quarreled about something and completely forgot. "
"Say, that's good. If the husband is not good in the future, throw the children directly to them. "
"Then how can I throw it? I still have my in-laws. It's no use. My in-laws will help me. "
"Nothing, your family has been spoiling you. How dare he quarrel with you? "
"What about me? What should I do if I have a baby in the future? If I give birth, I'll take it to my brother and visit your house. "
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Several women completely burst out laughing again. In fact, a happy marriage will be accompanied by daily quarrels, but one thing is that a woman's emotional intelligence is very important.
Every small family will have contradictions, and how to adjust contradictions depends on your attitude towards contradictions.
What we women have in common is that our hearts are big and easy to turn pages. If you quarrel, you will find ways to make yourself happy. Men can do whatever they want. One more thing, forgetfulness and cheekiness, no matter how the contradiction happened one second ago, it will be forgotten the next.
People who care about themselves are often really not worth it. Days are always accompanied by small fights, which is grounding gas. But more importantly, both husband and wife should properly handle daily contradictions. Daily life is the spice of marriage. Properly handled, it will enhance the feelings between husband and wife.
You know, the most taboo in marriage is to take care of everything, and the older ones are noisy.
A happy marriage, a person's mentality and personality determine your marital status with the other person. In marriage, the ideal way to get along with each other is not tired. Don't be too serious in marriage, be serious about your own people and torture each other.
The premise of a happy marriage is to choose before marriage. Your views and differences on marriage also determine how much happiness you will have in the future.
Our four little sisters got married, no matter how late, because of love.
"It's quite strange, maybe it's fate. I never give up waiting. I wanted to come to Xiamen, but it was really because of him. "
"I am because of my classmates. When I was not in love before, I would worship' Please give me a good man' in the temple every time, and the result really came. "
"Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
"Me and him, he used to take me, our company, a little admired him, and then he set a routine."
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The encounter between people is fate, but more is your uncompromising view of mate selection.
Yesterday, a reader chatted with me and complained that he always met love rat. On a trip, the girl met a man. She was taken good care of, but when they were alone, the man took off her clothes as soon as he came up. The girl refused, but the man did nothing. But not long after they met, the man said he wanted to marry her, and claimed that he had tens of thousands of wages and would add her name to buying a house.
I was wrong when I heard it. This girl must have been cheated Any normal man, who doesn't have much contact, will take off your clothes as soon as he comes up, and will rashly say marriage and even add his name. This is obviously a routine to lie to the little girl. But the girl said that he was considerate to me, and he didn't get stronger when I refused, so he shouldn't be love rat.
I fainted when I heard this. It's really not that you always go to love rat, but that you are too simple, completely ignorant and have low emotional intelligence.
In fact, each of us, the probability of meeting love rat is roughly the same, but the result is different, because: each person's concept of mate selection and discrimination are different, which will lead to various differences.
Premarital choice is very important, and it is a two-way choice. The person you want to choose is similar to you in three views, good in character, responsible and able to chat with you; You can observe him through his circle of friends; With the above factors, you will hardly choose the wrong person.
Take m-girls for example. They don't pay much attention to material things, but pay more attention to the people they choose. The key to a person's personality, the fit of three views and the way for friends to get along is to be kind to us. Such a choice to enter marriage because of love is mostly happy.
A happy marriage pays more attention to the choice of premarital people and the uncompromising concept of mate selection, and enters marriage because of love. When two people are together, it is very important to have similar views, and you can also observe him through a circle of friends. When you are not happy, you might as well improve yourself and meet your other half.
Happy marriage, and one more thing, people should know how to be content.
"Actually, after all, we are all very happy. Although I don't have much money, I have a house, children and a considerate husband. We each have a corresponding job, we can earn money, and we can share responsibility with men in life. Enough, content. "
Several people talked to the end that day, completely calm and satisfied. Life is not like this. Ordinary daily life is the most rare happiness.
In marriage, it is very important for people to know how to be satisfied in trivial daily necessities.
If you are satisfied, you will also have a good attitude to face the future marriage life. Take the four of us as an example. Some of us never compare with others, but are thinking about how to have a better attitude and lifestyle. Even in the face of trivial life, they will have their own dissatisfaction, but they will still have a good attitude and comfort themselves with contentment.
In fact, the essence of life is really like this. Within the scope of your power, don't blindly follow, and live your little life with a relatively peaceful mind.
For four years, several people have got married, got a house and a home of their own. They are in different periods, but they all have the same energy. Grasp the corresponding steps and develop in a good direction step by step.
In a happy marriage, people are content with the status quo, not blindly following. A good partner should have the same goal in life, have his own small career, and don't put the burden of life on one person's shoulders. A family needs the support of two people to balance and complement each other.
I have heard too many people ask me, is there a happy marriage in this world?
The answer is: there is no absolute happiness, only relatively dull daily happiness.
Each of us has been pursuing our own happiness all our lives, and you also want to have a happy marriage;
First of all, we might as well start from ourselves and improve our views on marriage and mate selection. Your knowledge, character and discernment determine what kind of people you will meet. Before love comes, you might as well improve yourself first.
Secondly, to improve your discrimination, it is more important to look at a person before marriage than to look at material things. Still want to marry love, don't compromise, pay more attention to one's choice. Choosing a person depends on his personality, behavior, circle of friends, whether his family is reasonable, whether he has the ability to make decisions independently and whether he has a sense of responsibility.
Furthermore, good partners respect and understand each other. A happy marriage will have contradictions more or less. The difference is the mentality of the handler and the mutual support of two people. Family responsibility and economic responsibility are never borne by a single man or woman, but more importantly, by two people.
In a happy marriage, men marry happiness and women marry love. This has never been a personal matter. Only by taking care of each other can we grow.
? A thoughtful housewife. Wechat official account: Liming ID: yibao 8690