One night, Xin Ran felt very tired. After putting the baby to sleep, she fell asleep Sleeping in the middle of the night, Xin Ran suddenly heard the baby crying. When he woke up, he found himself on the baby's arm, so the baby would "protest" with crying. Another time, Xin Ran fell asleep. When she woke up, she found that her quilt covered her baby's head. Fortunately, she found out in time, otherwise serious consequences might occur.
Xin Ran was afraid to let the baby sleep with her, so she bought a crib online. Xin Ran found that the baby didn't like sleeping in a crib as others said. When she took care of the baby at night, Xin Ran didn't feel much trouble.
What's the danger of not sleeping in separate beds with the baby?
1, adults are very heavy, and it is easy to crush the baby.
We are always careful when taking care of the baby, but when we fall asleep, our bodies lose control and we may crush the baby as soon as we turn over. Adults are heavy and babies are fragile. If the baby is crushed, it may cause injury to the baby, which may pose a threat to the baby's life in severe cases.
2, easy to block the baby's nose and mouth
Sleeping with the baby, it is very dangerous for adults to cover the baby with a quilt. The baby can't talk yet, and his strength is not great. If he is covered, he may suffocate and be life-threatening, so parents must pay attention to this.
The baby will be more dependent on his mother.
Babies need the care of their mothers, but when they grow up, they will begin to practice sleeping by themselves. If Ma Bao keeps letting the baby sleep in the same bed with himself, the baby will have a particularly strong dependence on his mother. As long as he is separated from his mother, it is difficult for him to fall asleep, which is not good for his growth.
Pregnant in October, once delivered, from the moment the baby is born, parents' hearts and eyes cannot be separated from the child. As the old saying goes, "if you hold it in your hand, you will be afraid of melting it in your mouth"! Under the influence of parents' feelings and traditional family habits in China, many parents and babies sleep in a big bed. In addition to being convenient for feeding and comforting, they want to be closer to the baby, so that the baby can feel the parents around at any time and give the baby more security.
I believe many parents have heard that the time to separate beds from their babies is not fixed, depending on their individual characteristics and development. Some parents think that the baby is still young and it is convenient to take care of the baby by sleeping with parents; Some parents think that with the growth of the baby's age and the germination of sexual consciousness, it is more conducive to the healthy growth of the baby to separate beds and rooms early. ...
Experts said: after the baby is born, you can sleep in separate beds. After the baby is born, you can prepare a crib and put it next to your parents. This can make the baby leave the arms of parents as soon as possible, and the second is to prevent parents from unintentionally hurting the baby.
In fact, if you have the conditions, you can try to let the baby sleep in a cot after birth, so that you can take care of the baby and lay a good foundation for sharing a room with the baby in the future.
There are many benefits to being separated from your baby, so parents should understand.
1, which is good for baby's health.
British Independent News: The British infant death investigation team found in the investigation that 1/4 the infant who died suddenly slept in the same bed with his mother and died of fever and suffocation without any warning.
According to the research results published by American researchers, the asphyxiation death rate of infants who sleep with their parents is 40 times higher than that of infants who sleep alone in cribs. Even if you remove the situation of being pressed by your parents in your sleep, the mortality rate is 20 times higher.
These findings are not accidental, and these cases are also true. The baby and his parents are in the same bed. Although it is convenient in nursing, it is very dangerous for the baby. Among parents, the carbon dioxide exhaled by adults surrounds the baby, making it difficult for him to breathe fresh air; If you are in a quilt with your mother, the quilt of an adult is heavier, which will cause a burden to your baby; If parents turn over, they will touch the baby, which will affect the baby's sleep quality; If parents sleep dishonestly, they are likely to crush or hurt their babies and even pose a threat to their lives.
2. It is conducive to cultivating the inner independence of the baby.
Research shows that children's independence is from form to content. The so-called form is the child's tangible behavior, and the content is the child's heart. Let children be separated from their parents at the right age, which will help to cultivate independent consciousness and self-care ability and promote psychological maturity.
As the baby grows older, parents may find that the baby plays more and more time and can do what they can ... these are the stages of the baby's inner independence. Parents' timely letting go can make the baby better adapt to the surrounding environment and know how to deal with things around him.
3. Better promote the relationship between husband and wife.
I believe many families have the same experience. Since the baby was born, I have been with the baby all the time. Usually the baby falls asleep beside his mother, and sometimes the baby falls asleep at the same time. If the baby is uncomfortable, the husband and wife will appease and sleep together. After the baby falls asleep, they are also sleepy, and the husband and wife have little independent time. A good relationship between husband and wife must be based on good communication, mutual exchange and care. In the long run, the relationship between husband and wife will definitely be affected.
4. Avoid the baby's excessive attachment to parents.
Usually after the age of 3, the baby can clearly understand his gender and gradually form the initial sexual consciousness. If parents don't sleep in separate beds in time, the baby will form excessive attachment to their parents, which will have a bad influence on the baby's future development.
There's a reason why babies don't want to sleep alone.
1, safe with parents.
Babies who are used to sleeping with their parents can't sleep after separation; Some babies subconsciously touch their parents when they sleep. If you don't touch them, they will suddenly wake up and cry. Some babies wake up as soon as their parents leave after falling asleep ... In fact, the baby's attachment to their parents is normal and the most primitive instinct. For the baby, parents will be very practical around and feel a sense of security and happiness, so falling asleep with parents has become a habit, and it has gradually become the best attachment way for the baby.
2. Worried that mom and dad don't love themselves.
The baby subconsciously thinks that sleeping in separate beds means that parents don't love themselves. Once this happens, the baby thinks that the feelings of love with parents are not satisfied, which will lead to depression and big fluctuations in the baby's mood. The baby can't sleep well at night, needs his parents to accompany him at any time during the day, and loves to lose his temper. You can vent your emotions in these ways.
3. The baby is afraid
In the process of baby's growth and development, there will be fear of many things or phenomena, such as fear of night, strangers, loneliness, different sounds, and even what you see during the day ... For a baby, the embrace of parents is the warmest and safest. Without the embrace of parents, these fears will escalate and become stronger. Older babies watch cartoons, see scary pictures, and even imagine their roles in daily life, which will make them more afraid of sleeping alone at night.
How to sleep in separate beds with the baby?
1, prepare the baby psychologically in advance.
If you decide to sleep in separate beds with your baby, parents should communicate with your baby in advance and start telling your baby about sleeping in separate beds. Some parents think that their babies can't read novels, so they separate them. Actually, it's not. The baby and parents sleep together for a long time, and suddenly sleeping in separate beds will have a certain impact on the baby's psychology and seriously affect the baby's sense of security.
Parents should be prepared in advance.
Sleeping with the baby for a long time has become a habit, and parents have begun to worry about sleeping in separate beds, such as whether the baby will fall asleep if he is dishonest, and what to do if the quilt is kicked ... In fact, the baby is far braver and more independent than parents think, so parents should be mentally prepared.
3. Give the baby a bedtime ceremony.
Suddenly sleeping in separate beds, the baby will definitely have a lot of emotions. Parents can set a bedtime for their baby. Before that, you can tell your baby stories, listen to music, hug your parents and say good night ... After that, your baby will go to sleep. Giving the baby a bedtime ceremony can make the baby have a good sense of security, and in a relatively relaxed environment, it is also conducive to the baby falling asleep alone.
4. Give your baby a favorite partner
After being separated from the baby, the baby will definitely feel lost psychologically. Parents can put their babies' favorite toys and dolls on the crib and accompany their babies at all times, which can increase their sense of security.
5. Make rules with your baby.
Sleep in separate beds with the baby. Once you start to need parents to insist, you can't be soft-hearted when you see your baby crying. You can make a deal with your baby and tell him that he will be in his crib after the bedtime ceremony. Parents should remember not to change their decisions casually.
6. Don't get your baby too excited before going to bed.
One hour before going to bed, it is not recommended to make your baby too excited. Don't play games with your baby, and don't show cartoons or anything with scary pictures. Before going to bed, you can arrange some activities that help your baby sleep, such as listening to songs, telling stories, etc ... This will help your baby fall asleep independently.
Being a parent is a long road. Parents should not worry when things happen, patiently accompany their baby to grow up step by step, be a reliable and competent parent, and raise their children correctly and scientifically, so as to get twice the result with half the effort!
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