Trust is an ability.
Have you ever doubted anyone? I think there is no doubt that anyone has had the experience of doubting others or things. It is human nature to have doubts about some people or things, and it is a mechanism to protect yourself. As the saying goes, it is indispensable to harm civil air defense. This sentence also tells us not to trust a person completely. After all, human nature is too complicated and changeable. No matter celebrities or ordinary people, there are countless things that turn against each other because they trust a person too much. How to prevent people is a coping strategy based on doubts. In the process of interacting with people or things outside, doubt actually plays an evaluation behavior, which protects us invisibly. Appropriate doubt is giving us an early warning.
However, if a person is too suspicious, it is essentially caused by a lack of security. If a person is too suspicious, he will be like an enemy when he encounters some troubles. Actually, it's not as serious as he thought. If a person is often in this suspicious situation, it will have a negative impact on his physical and mental health and behavior. At this time, doubt becomes a burden, which will not only have a positive effect on us, but also have a negative impact on us.
Therefore, moderate doubt is a good thing, and excessive doubt will only make things worse, especially in interpersonal relationships. If a person shows doubts, his interpersonal relationship is bound to be tense. To be gentle, he will make himself nervous. Seriously, friends and colleagues will stay away from him. If there is a suspicious person around us, you'd better stay away and associate with someone who is too suspicious, and you will suffer.
We find that people with good interpersonal relationships are characterized by trusting others. This kind of trust is from the heart. Doubt is essentially human nature, but trust is a kind of ability of human beings. This ability is not available in a short time. As we all know, when a person is born, he trusts his mother the most, but this trust is unconscious. Babies think they are one with their mother, and then they realize that they have a father ... and then other relatives around them. But at this time, if they meet a stranger, the baby will cry. We call this phenomenon "looks unfamiliar", which is the stress reaction of the baby due to fear. It is possible that our suspicions evolved on this basis. As a person grows up, we don't cry when we meet strangers, but we definitely show doubt. In life, we find that some people will be cautious when they meet strangers at first, but after getting familiar with them, they may relax and even develop into friends who talk about everything.
There is actually a process of trust between people. Most people have a certain time limit in the process of building this trust. If you think about it a little, you will understand that we trust our relatives most, followed by friends, classmates and colleagues ... Of course, we also have hit it off, but this situation is rare.
The older a person is, the more rational it is to build trust. Whether for people or things, building trust depends not on emotional maintenance but on things. People who can't do anything well can't win the trust of others. At this time, a person's reputation is very important. We can say that trust is an ability, and this ability is whether you can build a interpersonal network that others trust you.