How to cultivate children's self-reliance ability, parents and friends should cultivate children's self-care ability from an early age, which is of great help to children's growth. So do you know how to cultivate children's self-reliance? Let's take a look at the ways to cultivate children's self-reliance.
Ways to cultivate children's independence 1 First, let children do their own things.
"Do your own thing well and learn to do what you can't" has already penetrated into our lives. However, sometimes parents are reluctant to let their children do it. It's just that parents ignore it and blindly don't let their children do things, not love them, but hinder their development. Only by letting children try to do something can children really grow up. The future society needs self-reliance and innovation, which is an indispensable part of cultivating children's all-round quality, so that children can exercise their self-care ability, learn to be responsible and exercise their will. In fact, many times, children will do some small things well, but parents underestimate their children's ability and don't let them do it. If parents let their children do it, they will do it well. Therefore, it is very important for children to develop their intelligence and ability according to their abilities.
Second, let children overcome dependence.
Children's dependence psychology is often caused by parents' untimely parenting style. Excessive and irrational love makes children's dependence take root under the warmth of their parents. Therefore, parents should help their children build self-confidence and self-esteem, cultivate independent behavior, and make them no longer depend on their parents. Many parents will complain that their children are too dependent and want to rely on their parents for everything. However, parents may not have thought about it. In fact, the root cause of this matter is parents.
Every parent loves his child, but if he does everything, it will not only upset the child, but also constrain his thinking. After a long time, you will rely on your parents and hinder your growth.
Third, let children have confidence.
Confidence is a positive attitude. Only by believing in yourself and respecting yourself can we be proactive and forge ahead. Parents have high expectations for their children and are always dissatisfied with their performance. They just think that children should do better, so they praise children less and criticize them more. Some even let children do things beyond their ability, so that children can feel the pain of failure. They are not confident, afraid of making mistakes, and even more uncertain. Most dependent children are not confident and dare not find ways to solve their own problems, so they only rely on their parents and people they can rely on. Therefore, it is more important for them to establish self-confidence.
Fourth, how to cultivate children's social skills
We often see a situation, which is often a game that needs cooperation, but several children are competing for each other, and no one will give up their toys, hoping that the other party will give them to themselves. In this way, the game can't go on. Perhaps, sometimes this is just a familiar and normal thing for parents in life. However, experts in early childhood education found that these selfish and uncooperative babies actually exposed a big problem of children's lack of social communication ability, and we should pay attention to this matter.
Social development is an important aspect of children's psychological development, which has an important influence on a person's personality, mental health, learning and intellectual development. Children's communicative competence is an aspect of social development, which will affect children's attitude towards others and interpersonal relationships in the future.
Some surveys have found that for a long time, people's concept of early childhood education is only the development of intelligence, ignoring the cultivation of children's social communication and other abilities. Children generally have some problems of lack of social communication ability, which may have a long-term impact on their social communication ability as adults. Early intervention should be taken to cultivate children's social communication ability.
This study randomly selected 60 children aged 4-6. Through questionnaire survey, follow-up event sampling observation and case interview, it is found that there are many problems in children's communication. For example, without guidance, children are less polite in communication. Only 47.4% children can take the initiative to greet guests at home, and 38.6% children can't answer adults' questions enthusiastically. In addition, children have some problems in communication initiative, independence, communication will, peer relationship, cooperation and sharing consciousness.
The survey shows that there are three main reasons that restrict the development of children's social communication ability. First, the influence of caregivers on the development of children's communication. Some parents neglect to communicate with their children because of their busy work, or excessive "love" limits their children's communication space. A mother said that they seldom take their daughters to public places because they are afraid that air pollution will make their children sick and they will accidentally lose their daughters while shopping. Second, the family environment in which children live has an influence on their peer interaction. Because 45.6% families don't have venues suitable for children's outdoor games, parents don't trust their children to find peers to play alone. Only 9% parents allow their children to play outdoors alone. Third, due to one-sided attention to children's intellectual education, many children have to attend many interest classes and cram schools. Children lack time and opportunities to play games, which leads to poor communication skills.
According to domestic experts, many cases show that "children with poor early communication skills have poor social adaptability and learning ability when they grow up;" On the contrary, children with strong communication skills have strong social adaptability and relatively good academic performance. "The baby's personal social communication ability and corresponding psychological quality often take shape at an early stage. Therefore, to cultivate children's social skills, we should intervene as soon as possible, observe the baby's psychological growth as soon as possible, help the baby complete a simple social ability from small things, and make up the foundation of the baby's social ability. Starting early is the main way.
Ways to cultivate children's independence 2 1. Give your child a space to move forward.
The baby likes to live in his mother's arms at first, but he can't live like this forever. With the growth of children, parents [Weibo] should gradually expand their living space after their children leave their jobs, which is conducive to their healthy growth.
2. Give the child a period of time and let him control it freely.
There is a clever parent who gives their children free time every day when they are very young. Children sometimes play, sometimes read a favorite book, and sometimes draw pictures. Of course, sometimes they are busy and do nothing, but children gradually learn to cherish time and make plans.
3. Give children a condition to exercise by themselves.
Do first-grade pupils need to wash the dishes themselves? Many parents are indecisive. A parent specially prepared a small bench for his child and said to the child, I know that you love to work and want to wash the dishes yourself, but the faucet is too high for you to reach, and mother prepared a small bench for you ... The child shouted excitedly: Thank you, Mom! Get on the bench at once and learn to wash dishes happily like an adult.
Give the child a question and let him find the answer by himself.
Every child will ask one question after another endlessly, but how to get the answer to the question? Experience tells us that whether a child likes asking questions or not is an important factor related to his growth, and how a child gets answers is an important factor related to his success.
Give the child a difficulty and let him solve it by himself.
The living environment of difficult families creates conditions for children to exercise hard. But now that living standards have generally improved, how to successfully educate children in prosperity is indeed an urgent problem to be discussed at present. Most experienced parents will try their best to set some difficulties for their children, and they are not limited to the difficulties in life, so that children can solve them, thus cultivating their ability and excellent quality.
6. Give the child a chance and let him seize it.
Life is often full of all kinds of opportunities. The problem is that adults often catch children, so that children will never succeed in learning. Therefore, the task of parents should only provide or point out various opportunities and inspire children to seize them themselves.
7. Give the child a conflict and let him discuss it himself.
It is inevitable that children will have conflicts together. This process of resolving contradictions is the process of formal children's healthy growth and maturity. For example, arranging blackboard newspapers and rehearsing programs will naturally lead to some inevitable arguments. In the debate and exploration about children's equality, the final correct conclusion is bound to be very valuable.
8. Give your child an opponent and let him compete by himself.
There is a student who studies very poorly. At one stage, he was the last in the class, but his parents quietly told him to take failure as the mother of success and dare to compete with others. First of all, he has to compete with children who are a little better than himself. The child made progress. After winning, his parents inspired him to find new competitors and start a new round of competition.
9. Give your child the right to choose.
Give your child the right to choose, but provide him with relevant information in advance, help him analyze various possibilities, and educate him to be responsible if he chooses. If parents take their children to the Children's Palace for registration, they can let her watch group activities first. Originally, parents wanted their children to learn piano, but when they found her at the gate of the dance troupe, they could see that God would never leave. At this time, parents can respect their children's choices, but ask her to be responsible for her own choices. She must stick to one stage and learn dance well.
10, give the child a topic and let him create it himself.
Creation is the highest level of autonomy. Children's creativity needs the active guidance and clever stimulation of adults. A parent does this: his children like to play with mud. At first, parents felt that their children were worthless. Later, they found that their children pinched clay figurines vividly ... so they said to their children, "If you want to play, you must pinch them well." This is called clay sculpture. Practice hard and come up with some new ideas. " With the encouragement of parents, children give full play to their talents. When they graduated from junior high school, they picked out 108 generals in the vivid water margin, and were admitted to arts and crafts schools with this achievement. Creating conditions for children will only help to develop his autonomy. In the process of children's work, parents should continue to have good and beneficial communication with their children, encourage them, evaluate their achievements and put forward new tasks, so that their progress will never stop.