Do you think compulsory premarital examination is necessary?

Recently, Heilongjiang, Henan, Shaanxi and other places have issued policies, stipulating that if you take the initiative to participate in the marriage examination, you can get additional "rewards" for marriage leave. Among them, Henan can take 28 days off from marriage. Subsequently, the topic of "whether the premarital examination should be voluntary or compulsory" rushed to the hot search.

Actually, this topic has been debated for 20 years. Personally, I don't think it is necessary to have a compulsory premarital examination, but one thing that must be done before marriage is a premarital examination. Because the premarital examination is really too important, even if it is not mandatory, you should take the initiative to do it.

Facts have also proved that China's premarital examination policy has changed from compulsory to voluntary, and then to advocacy. It also shows the state's support attitude towards premarital examination, and shows respect for individual rights, which is quite good.

Some people think that health belongs to personal privacy, and even if they get married, they are still independent individuals. It's not really these superficial problems. What is important is related to each other's medical history and genetic problems. If there is a problem, it will have an impact on the next generation, and you should know which is more important.

Whatever the reason, the policy change of canceling compulsory in China does not mean that the state relaxes its attention to premarital examination. Now, in order to encourage premarital check-ups, newlyweds can get free premarital check-ups when registering for marriage, and there is also a premarital check-up consultation platform service, which is very convenient and free of charge. Is this not good?

I feel that some people may be entangled in fear of hurting their feelings. Just think, premarital examination is not the only criterion for testing marriage, it just adds a layer of insurance to both parties. What really hurts feelings is not the distrust of your partner's request for a premarital examination, but the lies that conceal your medical history and the practical difficulties that lies may bring. This is the core of the problem.

For those who advocate compulsory premarital examination, they are more worried that one of them will hide his physical condition and lead to the breakdown of marriage relationship. When the truth comes out, the deceived party will suffer emotional trauma, and finally the trust established between husband and wife will be shaken, resulting in irreparable consequences and even the bride price problem behind it.

All this is understandable, but if two people can't put the premarital examination on the table and think that it can only be forced by the state, then their relationship is not too fragile!

To tell the truth, when it comes to this question, I really feel deeply, because there is such an example around me:

My best friend got married last year and gave birth to a baby boy this year. Unfortunately, the baby was diagnosed with a very serious genetic disease not long after his birth, and he was basically unable to take care of himself after the diagnosis.

Her current situation is that her husband is from Sichuan, and now they are working in Tianjin and have bought a house. My husband almost went back to her home, because it was far away, and because of the special circumstances of these two years, it was strange to a Tianjin girl and her husband's family. It was not until this happened to the child that my girlfriend realized that several people in her husband's family had this genetic disease, which caused my girlfriend to be in a dilemma. Now the mortgage itself makes her overwhelmed, plus the children, the family advised her to divorce, but what about the children?

The last time she called me, she cried and said, I must have a premarital check-up, no matter how good the relationship is. I was just stupid. If I knew now, I would definitely have a premarital examination without love. The point is that the child has suffered.

I think you should have some feelings. Yes, it doesn't matter whether it is mandatory or not. It is important to really realize that if children's health is really affected by not having a premarital examination, then there is no happiness! So, the reason is simple. Everyone should establish this awareness and take the initiative to accept the premarital examination.