A woman's life after divorce

0 1, until covered with a thick layer of dust, you can no longer see the enthusiasm and charm when you are in love. When Xiao Su married Chen Hui, he didn't have a car, a house, a ticket or even a stable job. But Xiao Su loved him and married him without hesitation, regardless of his parents' opposition. After marriage, Xiao Su took out all his money and savings to help Chen Hui start a business. In order to help him run more business, she did not hesitate to quit her job with a monthly salary of over 10 thousand. When a woman truly loves a person, she will not hesitate to put down all her senses and love with all her sensibility. At that time, Xiao Su lived with him in the cold and humid basement. When he is busy, he eats a bag of instant noodles for lunch and then goes out in the hot sun. He was busy until eleven o'clock in the evening, dragged his tired body back and fell asleep. However, Xiao Su was very happy at that time. Chen Hui often carries the heaviest work on his shoulders. When she comes home late, no matter how late or how cold it is, he will pick her up by bus. For married life, many women are not afraid of hardships. What she fears is that men don't love her enough. Xiao Su thinks that as long as there is love, all efforts are worthwhile. However, it never occurred to her that some happiness, like flowers, also has a flowering period. As soon as the season is over, it withers. 02. No matter how good a marriage is, it needs both husband and wife to run it together. At that time, Xiao Su devoted himself to his career, and all his thoughts were on Chen Hui. She wants to create their future and little happiness with him. After five years of hard work, her career finally stabilized, and Xiao Su chose to take a back seat because she was pregnant. At this time, she devoted herself to the warmth and cleanliness of her home, worrying about what to cook for her husband all day. The whole focus of life is on the husband. But Chen Hui, because one person took over all the business, he was a little at a loss and had to spend more time studying and socializing. He became so busy that he didn't have time to answer Xiao Su's phone, go home for dinner and talk to her. On the day Xiao Su gave birth to his child, he went on a business trip and didn't go home. In fact, she knows whether men love women in marriage. However, women often choose to deceive themselves. So is Xiao Su. Before the baby was born full moon, she found intimate photos of her husband and another woman. At that time, she really felt that the sky was falling. It never occurred to her that she had survived such a difficult life. Now that she has a car and a house, her marriage is gradually falling apart. After a year of struggle, finally, they chose to divorce. When she divorced, Chen Hui chose to own her own business, otherwise she would take away her children. At that moment, her heart was really bitter, and she felt worthless for what she had done. However, seeing that the child was still so young, she chose the child, gave up most of the property at home, and left this no longer warm home with her only deposit of 20,000 yuan. 03. At the time of divorce, women began to examine the shortcomings in marriage and began to introspect. Xiao Su often looks in the mirror. She found that she was no longer that beautiful young girl. Suddenly, she found that her figure became bloated, her face had black spots, and her clothes looked old and dim. After the divorce, she took care of the children wholeheartedly and needed to spend money everywhere. Seeing that her savings will soon run out, she has to take some small orders and start taking care of the baby. When divorcing, if the woman is not financially independent, life after divorce will become extremely difficult. When divorcing, don't give up fighting for marital property because of mutual affection. Because money can solve many things and make life more comfortable. She looked for Chen Hui many times, hoping that he could bear the child's living expenses, but he cried in front of her and refused to bear the child's support. As a last resort, Xiao Su had to support her children on her own. After Xiao Su's divorce, the first and second years were very difficult. Children are always sick, and their financial conditions are not rich. In order not to worry her parents, she always reports good news instead of bad news. She can only use her children to sleep or stay up late to work, and drag her tired body to continue to take care of her children the next day. She knows that she must be strong and work hard to make money, so that the children will not suffer with her. In the third year, she borrowed money everywhere and then opened a breakfast shop, because the place was remote and the business was not good. But Xiao Su is kind to people, can get up early and suffer in the dark, and his business has gradually improved. After the business became stable, she hired an aunt and then spent more time on self-study. In these three years, she also thought about finding a new boyfriend and forming a new family. However, she is worried that her second husband is not good for her children and has always been suspicious of love. She is afraid of falling in love and getting married. Since the child went to kindergarten, she has more and more time. In the fourth year, Xiao Su's life in by going up one flight of stairs, the powder shop business has been good, opened a second branch. Moreover, she also started a company with her previous experience in helping her husband start a business. Xiao Su has been very unwilling in my heart. She secretly vowed in her heart: "I must mix a human being and make him regret his decision to divorce me." In the fourth and fifth years, my best friend introduced her to a boyfriend, but there was no mutual trust between her and him. She often suspects that he will betray her. The old wound of the first marriage has been unable to heal in her heart and has become the shadow of her life. Although her career is developing well, in fact, she is often helpless and lonely. Once, the child was scared to cry by a thunderstorm because he couldn't change the light bulb. She cried helplessly with the baby in her arms. Xiao Su is determined to develop his own career. When love is unreliable, just make more money. In the sixth year, relying on his own ability, Xiao Su bought a smaller house and a car, learned to make up and dress himself, and his temperament improved. The quality of a woman's life after divorce depends on her attitude towards life. At that time, she really felt that women could only rely on themselves at any time, and life would be bright. In the seventh year of divorce, Xiao Su heard that her ex-husband's career had closed down. She is not very happy, but she feels it is a pity that she has worked hard for her career. That year, she met her current husband. She has no previous panic, no previous self-confidence, and is more calm about love. A woman's self-confidence after divorce depends entirely on herself. In the eighth year after the divorce, Xiao Su was no longer young, her children were very clever, and she also got a love. When she was about to get married, her ex-husband came to see her and said that she missed her children and wanted to meet them. Xiao Su didn't want to have anything to do with him, but her ex-husband went to the children's school and saw him again and again, which made the children gradually have a good impression on him. Chen Hui asked Xiao Su if he could forgive his mistakes and give them a complete family for his children. Xiao Su suddenly felt ridiculous. She said: "I gave birth to the child, and you have never borne the child support. What qualifications do you have to be his father? " . If you keep pestering me like this, I'll make you never see that child again. I'm getting married soon, so please don't disturb my life and my children's life. "At that moment, Chen Huicai suddenly realized that he had missed a good woman, which was irresponsible and failed her and her children. Some love, once let go, can no longer have. Divorce is just a gap in life, not the destruction of all life. Xiao Su finally remarried, and her current husband loves her children very much. Suddenly, she understood that a failed marriage is not terrible. What is terrible is that in a failed marriage, she will never recover. As long as a woman is rational enough, tough enough and brave enough to move forward with a warm heart for life when she is divorced, all the injuries and pains will be slowly healed by years. A woman's life after divorce is 2 0 1. Divorce and remarriage are seamlessly connected. She regrets that Xiao Liu and her ex-husband got married for the first time, and this marriage lasted for four years. Since the second year, they have lost their passion and even their family ties have completely retired. Two people haven't lived apart for a long time. The fuse of divorce is that the ex-husband has no plan, vision or idea about whether to have children or not. Xiao Liu filed for divorce, and her ex-husband only considered it for one night and agreed. The two had no common property and went through the divorce procedure within one week. The ex-husband left their rental house. Xiaoliu was "liberated" to a single state within a week. Only three months later, she registered to get married again. No marital infidelity. This man was known to her after her divorce. For three months, her long-lost passion made her get carried away-"pregnant". Considering the age factor and the man's economic condition, the child stayed and began to register for marriage. However, after the birth of the child, various "faces" of the current husband began to appear: a large number of business debts need to be repaid every month; Irregular daily life, not sleeping at night, unable to eat during the day; Don't talk about hygiene ... The child is still young, and Xiao Liu, who just got married, really doesn't have the courage to divorce again. Besides, her current husband is very satisfied with her, and it is impossible to "let go" her easily. As a woman with marriage experience, it is really a "mistake" for Xiao Liu to enter the second marriage so blindly and quickly. She has more practical experience in the common sense that "falling in love is easier than getting along". Therefore, when a woman steps into marriage again, she should not only remember the pain brought by her first marriage, but also remember the experience it brought to you. She divorced and didn't leave home just to take care of the children, and her ex-husband wanted to remarry. She resolutely refused Xiao Jiang's divorce from her ex-husband, largely because of her former mother-in-law. Mother-in-law said that there were many housework, and Xiao Jiang was asked to do housework on weekends. Xiao Jiang said that she would hire an hourly worker, but neither her mother-in-law nor her ex-husband wanted to. Mother-in-law cooks, but ginger is not used to eating. She told her ex-husband that it was unreasonable to let her cook by herself, Jiang cook by herself, and her mother-in-law and ex-husband wiped their tears ... In the eyes of ex-husband and mother-in-law, she is a completely "unqualified" daughter-in-law. Malicious divorce, she went out clean and did not share her ex-husband's savings. The house is also pre-marital property, and she never thought about it. After the divorce, she couldn't let go of her 4-year-old daughter and still came back to take care of her daily life. Maybe the daughter cried to her mother, or maybe her mother-in-law and ex-husband wanted to see her divorce. They acquiesced in Xiao Jiang's staying here after marriage. Xiao Jiang, who didn't leave home after the divorce, obviously felt that her mother-in-law was less hostile and replaced by "high above" contempt. However, she can not do housework aboveboard, she can take takeout to the children's bedroom to eat, and her ex-husband and mother-in-law are no longer in charge. From this perspective, Xiao Jiang actually feels a lot easier. On such a day, until the child graduates from the first grade of primary school, the child has the basic self-care ability and can finish his homework by himself. Xiaojiang also had a little savings and rented a house around the children's school. An 8-year-old child can clearly tell his father that he will go to his mother on weekends, and Xiao Jiang is very satisfied with his present life. At this time, the ex-husband frequently sent a request for remarriage, and even thought that Xiaojiang had lived at home for four years. He is a very nice person, and Xiao Jiang is welcome to go home at any time. Xiao Jiang didn't even want to waste theoretical time on him, only told him that it was impossible to remarry, and she just wanted to put her experience in the past few years into her work. For four years, I asked Xiao Jiang if he felt he was wasted. She said that in the past four years, I can accompany my daughter to grow up healthily and give her the best resources within my power. This is not a waste. After all, if she calls me "Mom", I will be responsible for her life. After the divorce, she resumed her teenage life. When Yu Jie, 43, divorced, we were all surprised, because Yu Jie had no worries about food and clothing, and her son 18 years old. The reason for her divorce is that her son went to college and she wanted to do what she wanted. After the divorce, Yujie ran, participated in fitness yoga and outdoor activities. In addition, she took part in a sketch class. She didn't attend the free training class for the elderly. She studies with a group of 10 teenagers. Sister Yu said that she liked painting when she was a child, when the economic conditions did not allow it. When economic conditions permit, she has to go to work, take care of her family and take care of her children, so she has no time. Now she can regain her dream. She persisted for 10 years, and by the time she was in her fifties, she had made small achievements. A year after the divorce, Yujie is like a model in the TV program "Image Transformation of Amateur". The difference is that Sister Yu's vitality is from the inside out, which makes me envious. Judging from the above three examples, Xiao Jiang and Yu Jie's choice of divorce will undoubtedly be better, and Xiao Liu's choice is a bit unsatisfactory. I hope her husband will wake up as soon as possible and take on family responsibilities. Through comparison, we can see that Xiao Jiang and Yu Jie are both very responsible women, responsible for their families, children and themselves. On the other hand, Xiao Liu, who makes himself obey the so-called "feeling" and "fate", is irresponsible to himself. Live a serious life after divorce, or your old age will be miserable. Women should take responsibility for themselves and their children. After divorce, you are no longer a wife, but you will always be a mother. Women should also be responsible for themselves, learn a lesson and don't fall into the pit of marriage.