Part 1: Appreciate your unique body.
1. Find out what can bring you real happiness. List your happiest moments and record as many details as possible, such as who you are with, what you are doing, where you are and so on. Recall the similarities of these things. Are the people you are with the same kind of people? Are you excited at the same level? Or simply put, did these things happen in the same environment? For example, are you in nature or in a big city? As long as you know what kind of situation your body is in, you will get the greatest happiness, and you can try to spend the most time in the same situation in the future. Everyone's body is unique, which means you should try more and find something that can bring you happiness. Researchers have found that less than half of Americans describe their current situation as "very happy", partly because they don't fully understand what makes them happy. You can start with a simple method, which is to recall all the moments when you felt happy.
2. Find what you are naturally good at. Having a unique body structure and chemical structure means that some people are naturally better at certain sports than others. For example, if you are only 5 feet 2 inches tall at most, you may not be able to enter the world-class organization NBA, but you may become a very good jockey. Learning to accept your body means learning to accept that your body will perform better than others in an activity. It may take you a little time to find these specific activities. If you are not sure what your body is born for, then you can take some time to experience some projects that you never thought you would be interested in. Join a yoga class or a pottery class, and attend an impromptu performance. As Spinoza said, you never know what your body can do until you try.
3. Think clearly that you like your figure and appearance. Even people with incomplete bodies can find their favorite body parts. It is important that you learn to love and appreciate all your advantages, including your physical advantages. Don't let yourself worry about the physical defects that have been bothering you, but focus on the positive aspects. For example, recently, you may not be satisfied with your thigh-maybe you think it is too thick or too thin-but you can try to treat it in a positive way. You may wish to have thinner thighs, but thighs can now make you climb mountains better. Or you may think your legs are too thin, but you are one of the few people who can really wear tight jeans.
4. Accept your body. This means not trying to change yourself or obsessing about features you don't like. Instead, learn to enjoy your body and enjoy your own sports, feelings and experiences. You shouldn't cling to your past appearance, especially if your body has undergone great changes due to pregnancy, childbirth, injury or drugs. Be kind to your present health. Don't let yourself go on a diet unless your doctor advises you. Learn to listen to your body voice and choose a comfortable amount of food. Don't skip meals or push yourself step by step because of how much you have eaten.
Part II: Learn to avoid negative thoughts about your body.
1, think about how much time you spend on negative thoughts. Negative thoughts will not improve your self-image. Take a day or two to reflect positively and see how often you think about your body: how often do you think or say some negative thoughts about your body? How long will it take to generate some positive thoughts? You are probably more critical than positive. You can record this test in your diary, or in your notebook or mobile phone. You should take a notebook with you. Once negative thoughts appear, write them down as soon as possible, including whether these negative thoughts are related to your image. At the end of the day, you may be surprised to find that you are more negative than you thought.
2. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Although this job will be difficult at first, it is an important part of accepting your body. Once you notice that you are starting to have negative thoughts, replace them with some positive thoughts about yourself. Give yourself some time to develop such a habit of positive thinking. Try to start each day with some positive thoughts. When you start to evaluate yourself, remind yourself that these thoughts will run through the whole day. For example, you can say, "I really like the feeling of this new hairstyle."
3. Limit your exposure to negative media pictures. Try to reduce or stop contact with certain TV programs, movies, magazines or blogs, because those media show untrue or negative descriptions of the body. Remind yourself that most of the photos appearing on the Internet and magazines are retouched, so that the models in the photos can meet the standards of beauty and sexiness. Psychologists worry that the trend guided by these photos, after 20 years of development, is forming an unrealistic ideal body model. Don't let yourself fall into this empty cartoon without any practical reference.
4. Find a therapist who uses cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Many psychologists use CBT technology to pay attention to the current or short-term use of target therapy. Although it is best for CBT to find a therapist, it can also be practiced by itself. When you find yourself having negative thoughts about yourself, stop thinking, take a deep breath and try to find evidence for your beliefs. Has anyone ever told you exactly that this aspect of your body is defective? If so, is this person trying to hurt you? Or are you kidding? Psychologists believe that in most cases, if you have unrealistic expectations about what your body should look like, then you will have a distorted body image. When these unrealistic expectations appear in your mind, it is important to pay attention to them, so that you can hope to challenge these idealized ideas with the right information.
5. Deal with negative people in life. You are ready to be better to yourself and pay attention to your positive aspects, but you also need to lend a helping hand to others in your life. Will you be criticized by friends and family? Will they tell you that you need to lose weight, change clothes or change your hair style? If they say so, it is very important for you to find ways to deal with these negative effects. Remember, you may not be able to cut off contact with your good friends or family. It's not as simple as not buying Vogue magazine or watching America's next top model contest. Nevertheless, if they insult you physically or criticize you too severely, then you need to have a respectful and firm discussion with them, showing that their words or actions hurt you.
6. Join different social groups. When you try a new activity, you can talk to people you usually ignore or who are embarrassed to talk. You may feel uncomfortable talking to strangers at first, but the more you communicate, the easier it will be and the better your progress will be. No matter how hard you feel at first, you should remember that isolating yourself will only make things worse. Some studies show that in the long run, isolation may be as deadly as obesity. It is important to be more comfortable with strangers, especially those around you who don't agree with your appearance or have a positive influence on you. Brain research shows that the people people love are greatly influenced by their brain chemicals, which means that you won't always fall in love with the people you want. The same is true of establishing close friendship. It is important to have people around you to support and encourage you to find yourself. In short, if people around you accept you and your self-discovery, it will be easier for you to accept your body and challenge any unrealistic idealistic ideas you may have.
Part III: Learn to pay attention to the positive side.
1. Pay attention to the compliment you receive. Ignore criticism, but enjoy praise. Pay attention to the compliments others give you and remember them. Write these down so that you can remind yourself of these compliments later, especially when you are experiencing a low tide. You should believe what they say, and believe that they are not accommodating you, instead of ignoring their praise or convincing yourself. They just say it out of courtesy. You can think that they are giving you the most sincere evaluation and accepting their positive words gracefully.
2, constantly find out what you like. Whenever you find yourself thinking something negative about your body, remind yourself to think about what you like. Make a list and write down at least ten positive aspects about yourself, ignoring all aspects related to appearance. Often add content to this table. This can help you begin to understand and appreciate all the beautiful aspects of yourself. You will realize that your body is only a part of what you have.
3. completely change your relationship with the mirror. If you spend too much time looking in the mirror, make it a rule that you can't say or think negative things about yourself in front of the mirror. Instead, you should use a mirror to affirm your positive side. If you still can't get rid of the shadow of the mirror, move the mirror for a while. Studies have found that you are more likely to pay attention to your career or interpersonal relationship than your appearance. Express your positive affirmation in front of the mirror: when you stand in front of the mirror, you can say to yourself, "You look great!" " ""You are the best! "Wait. This may make you feel a little stressed. At first, you won't believe what you say to yourself, but experts tell us that this process-which they call cognitive behavioral therapy-will really work after a period of development.
Part IV: Set goals and make changes.
1, enhance physical fitness. Learn to fully accept and enjoy your body, some of which also means that you will eventually make changes in some aspects of your body. In other words, if you are overweight, you want to lose weight. But you should remember that the numbers on the dial are only one aspect, which is an indicator of your overall health. You should make sure that you make a plan and stick to regular physical exercise in a place where all physical indicators (weight, blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc.) are normal. ) is measurable. This will help you fully understand your health status and discuss your health goals with your doctor. In order to be healthy, you may need to gain weight or lose weight, but you should also try to become stronger, more flexible and more endurance.
2. Set positive goals. You should emphasize the positive side of the goal instead of focusing on the negative side of the goal. For example, if you decide to become a fitness expert, don't limit your goal to how many pounds you want to lose. Instead, you can set a more positive goal, such as "I'm going to exercise so that I can run two miles at a stretch" or "I'm going to try to finish a walking plan so that I can go hiking with my father on the Cheshire Trail in Apara". If you figure out what you want to accomplish or you can do it better, then you are more likely to achieve it (you can achieve your goal and feel better about yourself).
3. Do your favorite sports. You should choose sports that you can find fun and enjoy, not just because some sports can help you shape your body. On the contrary, you should take time to try some new activities and participate in what you really like and enjoy. For example, if you love yoga, then practice it. Even if you feel a little overweight at present, it doesn't matter if you don't do it gracefully. Almost all fitness programs can meet the needs of people of different sizes and constitutions. If you are embarrassed to exercise in front of others, then you can consider taking private classes, or exercising with close friends, or exercising at home. Be careful not to let yourself be afraid of being judged by others. Fear determines how you will spend your life.
4. Accept your own style. When choosing clothes, makeup or hairstyle, don't make a choice just because you think it suits your figure, and don't choose a certain type just because fashion magazines say it suits you best. You only need to wear what you want to wear, what you like and what you feel comfortable with. Choose clothes that reflect your personality, comfort and suit your lifestyle and exercise. Try all kinds of clothing styles and styles. If you try a style that is considered "suitable for a certain body shape" and you feel beautiful and confident after wearing it, you can wear this style of clothes anyway, but you must wear it because you like it, not because you think you should wear it.
Part V: Look at things correctly.
1, only compare with yourself. If we are all the same, the world will become very boring. There is no need to compare yourself with others, whether that person is a celebrity or a classmate sitting next to you. On the contrary, since we have set realistic goals, we should compare ourselves and see what progress we have made during this period. For example, you may feel that your appearance has become better than it was a few years ago. Don't forget to be patient and friendly to yourself. Don't be harder on yourself than on your friends or others.
Remember, body shape is only part of a healthy self-image. It is important that you learn to accept and love your body with hope, but it is also important to realize that your self-worth is not determined by your appearance. When you think of the person you admire, love or respect the most, what qualities will come to your mind? Do you judge others or yourself only by some physical qualities? Or by personal character and personal quality?
3. Know when to ask for help. You know, almost everyone has been trying to maintain a positive body image, and it is normal to have ups and downs in this process. However, you should also seriously consider whether you need to talk to a counselor, doctor or mental health expert. There are many signs that your physical problems are serious and you need to seek professional help. You can ask yourself the following questions: Are you unable to control negative thoughts about yourself? Do you take the time to think about your shortcomings?
Does your dissatisfaction with your appearance affect your life? For example, do you avoid going out or talking in public? Are you afraid of work because you are afraid of being seen or judged?
Do you spend too much time looking in the mirror or dress yourself up too much every day?
Can't you stop comparing yourself with others? Do you avoid taking pictures? You know, if you are troubled by anything, you may need to ask for help to accept your body. You may have a disease called Body Metamorphosis (BDD) and need professional help. If this point is ignored, body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) may lead to suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Even if you are diagnosed with this disease, you should know that it is not shameful to ask for help and advice. Don't dwell on this problem alone.
4. Find effective professional help. When seeking professional help, you have several options. You can find a mental health therapist or psychological counselor for one-on-one treatment. Or, you can find a local support group and learn some informal structured experience. There are also some online support groups, where you can connect and communicate with other people who have such general negative thoughts about your body. Here, it is important to seek support from those who can't evaluate your opinion of yourself. Even, they may give you some useful hints.
Tip Post a post-it note with your own advantages on the mirror, or write down some advantages of your favorite body (such as "you have beautiful cheekbones"), but make sure that it is not only relevant.
It is important to have a solid support system, because it can help you get some advice about your body image from people you trust. When negative thoughts appear, you can go to the support system for help.
Before deciding to implement any new diet plan or exercise plan, you must communicate with your doctor and pay attention to extreme or sudden changes in your body.
Everyone is unique, no matter how old you are. Some people find that there are differences between different body types. Some people will be ashamed of having pubic hair, but don't worry, because almost everyone has had pubic hair, and some people think pubic hair is beautiful.