The famous German writer John Paul once said, "The real greatness of a man lies in his ability to know himself." If a person can have a comprehensive and correct understanding and evaluation of himself, he can foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, learn from each other's strengths, control himself, change himself, improve himself, choose corresponding goals according to his actual situation, and work hard for it. If you can't evaluate yourself correctly, or overestimate yourself (conceit), or underestimate yourself (inferiority), it is very dangerous. Therefore, a correct understanding of yourself is the basis for establishing a good self-awareness. After a period of study and life, the vast majority of college students have gradually matured their understanding and evaluation of themselves, and have not regarded their shortcomings and weaknesses as the mainstream. For example, a recent college graduate wrote in the "recommendation letter" for job hunting: "I have been strict with myself for four years of college life, studying hard for professional knowledge, learning applied skills and related economic and business knowledge, conducting systematic computer training, having strong writing skills in Chinese and English, and winning scholarships for three consecutive years. In addition, during the university, he served as the chairman of the college student union, and worked part-time as a business manager in a company in Shenzhen after school, with a driver's license. " It can be seen that this classmate's self-evaluation is not only positive, but also his consciousness of self-social responsibility and obligation is mature.
(2) Positive self-acceptance
Accepting oneself is the key and core of developing healthy self-experience. Specifically, the positive acceptance of self is for: 1. Accept yourself, like yourself, feel that you are unique, and have a sense of value, pride, happiness and satisfaction; Second, cheerful personality, optimistic about life, full of longing for the future; Third, treat your own advantages and disadvantages calmly and rationally, and treat your own gains and losses frankly; Fourth, set up lofty ideals to motivate yourself and constantly overcome negative emotions; Fifth, don't use illusory ego to compensate inner emptiness, and don't use negative avoidance to ignore your reality, and don't deny yourself with resentment and disgust.
(3) Control yourself effectively
Self-control is a psychological process in which people actively and directionally change their psychological qualities, characteristics and behaviors, and it is the fundamental way for college students to have a good self-awareness and improve themselves. Many college students have high expectations of themselves, but because they don't have enough self-control ability and will, they can't stand setbacks and blows and can't realize their self-ideals. Those college students who feel inferior, blame themselves and give up on themselves have deviated from the track of good self-awareness because they can't control their bad emotions. Therefore, we should establish an appropriate level of ambition according to our actual situation and social needs, and realize self-realization and self-success through self-struggle.
(4) Constantly surpass yourself.
The process of being yourself is a process of shaping and surpassing yourself. Shaping, becoming, developing and realizing oneself according to social needs and personal characteristics is one of the hot spots of contemporary college students' thoughts and behaviors.
To be myself is to be a "free me, unique me, the best me". The so-called "being a free me" means not asking too much of yourself to be divorced from reality, so that you always fall into a situation of self-blame, self-blame and self-blame, but facing your objective existence calmly and living happily and freely; The so-called "being a unique me" means not blindly pursuing fashion and losing yourself in deliberate imitation, but accepting yourself, paying attention to yourself and living actively; The so-called "doing my best" means being based on reality, unwilling to lag behind, being able to make full use of the talents endowed by nature, giving play to one's own specialties and planning one's life according to one's own conditions.
Being yourself is just a cross section of a person, and surpassing yourself is the whole process of life. A person with a good self pays attention to himself, does not stick to himself, but constantly shapes himself, surpasses himself and makes himself richer, stronger and more perfect, which is also the only way for our college students to become a fully developed person.