From my own point of view, I think most of the reasons for mental problems are:
First, compared with others, income, feelings and family are not as good as others. PS: No contrast, no harm.
The second is the feeling of being tired of the unchanging work life.
I think most adults, especially those after work, have these troubles.
In the first case, there is no other way to recognize the reality as soon as possible. If you don't compare with others, your troubles will be reduced by two-thirds.
If you are still unconsciously contrasting, then I suggest you do more things to increase your sense of accomplishment. Like volunteering. There are many volunteers in Shenzhen, such as reading clubs, non-profit organizations, subway stations, welfare homes, temples and so on. When you play your own value, spiritual wealth will make up for part of the vacancy in your heart. Besides volunteering, you can also try to go out and do some sharing by yourself. In the same way, if you give, you will always feel your own value.
But if you do more free things, you will be unhappy. Therefore, I suggest to improve my working ability and skills (English, music, painting, etc. ) Until one day you have an opportunity, you will generally pay more, and the people you meet will introduce you to the opportunity to pay.
For the second case: I have been reading some books recently, so maybe I can give some comments.
There is a chapter in the first volume of On War that when you retreat after defeat, it is impossible to reverse the war without the support of external forces.
As far as our own growth is concerned, when a person's growth encounters a bottleneck, it is useless to drink chicken soup and beat chicken blood and set goals for ourselves. In this case, we should go out and seek strength and support from the crowd, community and collective.
With the help of the community atmosphere (positive) enterprising friends, let yourself fall into the sea and do more things. For example, get up early together, practice language, calligraphy and other hobbies together.
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