During the period, there was constant feedback from parents, some said that I shared well, some said that I was not anxious after listening to the class, and some parents said that they cried after listening.
A primary school student was diagnosed with ADHD by the hospital, and his parents were very upset. Through the introduction of relatives, he brought the child to me. After three consultations, the child's condition improved significantly. The child's ADHD is only the appearance, and the deep reason is that the contradiction between adults affects the child.
On Wednesday night, I received a short message from a parent in our school: "Hello, Teacher Qian! Sorry to bother you! " I replied to her: "Nothing, please leave a message, and I'll get back to you when I have time." She said, "I want to ask you a question: My daughter has just turned thirteen and is in the seventh grade. Now she doesn't want to go to school. She hasn't been there for two days. What should I do? " I asked the reason roughly, and she said that the child said that he didn't get good grades in math and didn't want to go to school. I asked about the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she said it was all right. I made an appointment with her to go to her house on Friday afternoon 1 o'clock to learn more.
The next day, I found the child's class teacher to understand the situation. The class teacher said that the child's grades were average and he usually performed well. I don't know why she didn't come suddenly. She also called her parents and hoped that the children would return to school as soon as possible.
After lunch on Friday, I went to her house to find out the situation. My grandmother said that her granddaughter's behavior made people angry. My mother said that the child had the idea of suicide and running away from home, which frightened her. After listening to my class, I immediately stopped comparing with other children. After reading the article I shared on the official WeChat account, I realized my mistake, which is usually too strict. I was angry with my child playing with the computer and smashed the mouse. The child asked for repair, but she refused. That kid. After she called the child out, she took her grandmother shopping.
The child is of medium height, slightly dark and generous, and smiles at everyone. I asked the children why they didn't want to go to school. She said she couldn't learn math well. I said, this shows that I am self-motivated, and I still want to learn math well. I asked her what her score was, and she said 60 to 70. I said yes, which means I can master the basic knowledge. I asked her how many students were in her class, and she said so-so. I said, you are not an ordinary student. What about the students behind you? She smiled.
I said, what will happen if you don't do well in the math exam? She said that teachers and parents would criticize you. I asked her who was most afraid of criticism, and she said teacher. I said that in the face of the teacher's criticism, as long as you try your best, you can choose to go in one ear and go out the other. There are so many subjects except math, so learn what you can learn well first.
And I said, I'm not good at math, and I usually seem to understand it. I understood it at once when I resumed reading in the third grade. I checked for leaks and made up for vacancies, and finally got full marks in the senior high school entrance examination. As long as you want to learn math well, it is never too late to work hard. If you can't learn now, it doesn't mean you will never learn. You will learn it one day.
I also told her that the society is developing rapidly now, and the knowledge of graduating from junior high school is still very shallow, not to mention that you are only in the seventh grade. Some deputies suggested that junior high school graduation can't keep up with the needs of the times, and senior high school education should be popularized to improve the level of national education. Parents can't support you forever. One day, you have to rely on yourself. What can I do without studying? In the future, you will go out to work and watch others earn 20 thousand a month. You only get 2000 yuan, and it will be too late to regret it. I have relatives in middle age. After going out to work, I found that I had no qualification certificate and could only survive in the cracks. They came back to study hard, forgot to eat and sleep, and finally passed the exam. If they go out again, their salary will be multiplied many times.
I saw a passage in a circle of friends that there are three solutions to many things in society, power, money and knowledge, while in rural areas, we can only change our destiny by knowledge.
I asked her what her dream was and she said she wanted to be a doctor. I said, good. During the epidemic, Zhong Nanshan and other medical workers saved China. This is the power of knowledge. Now more and more students want to be doctors. Your personality is so good, your popularity must be good, and you will become a very good doctor in the future. You can write down your dreams, post them in the most conspicuous place, imagine yourself as a doctor every day, and let your goals enter your subconscious mind, which will mobilize all resources to help you achieve your goals step by step.
I asked her how she was and what her decision was at the moment. She said, I still have to study hard. I said, that's right, so when do we go back to school? She said she was afraid of teachers' criticism and classmates' inquiries. I said, if you want to go back to school, I'll be a teacher. When students ask, they say they have something to ask for leave at home. She said that she would go to school again and again next week. I said, no. We must face it squarely and take immediate action. The goal is clear. This weekend is just a weekend off, and each class has new tasks. The students are studying hard. If you drag on, you will get farther and farther away from everyone and your goal.
Just then, her mother and grandmother came back and the child went upstairs. After I briefed her mother on the situation, I asked her mother to go upstairs and call her, saying that I was waiting for her to go back to school together, and asked her to leave a message for me when she came back to school. After a while, she went downstairs with her mother and said that she was not ready. Let's go back to school on Saturday morning. I agreed and didn't insist.
Just then, a colleague called me and said that she was at a student's house to persuade her to go back, but the student locked the door and couldn't see her, asking me what to do. I spoke to the child's mother on the phone and got the basic information. My child gets good grades and has a bad relationship with his mother. Parents wouldn't let his children play with their mobile phones and smashed them. The child is very resistant to his mother. The child has a good relationship with his aunt. He told her that he still wanted to go to school, but he didn't go to school for two or three weeks for fear that the teacher wouldn't accept it.
I asked the teacher to knock on the door directly and said to the children outside, "? The door of the school is always open for you, the door of the class is always open for you, teachers and classmates are waiting for you to come back, and today the teacher will pick you up! " Then, I told my mother that Rome was not built in a day. We should accept children unconditionally, understand them, apologize to them, warm them with loving actions, influence them, and invite parents to join the group to study family education.
In the end, the first child returned to school smoothly, and the second child did not return to school, which needs to be followed up.
I am happy to help parents and children with what I have learned.