I am a 9 1 year-old baby mother, and I am 30 years old today. My husband and I are free to fall in love. I got pregnant soon after I got married and lived a good life. But it didn't last long. During pregnancy, my father-in-law got uremia and went to the hospital for dialysis three times a week. This disease is quite serious, and it also increases the economic burden for our small family.
After having a daughter, I made an appointment with Bao Dad and never gave birth to a second child. First, the economy doesn't allow it. Second, it feels good to have a child, and our daughter is also our pride.
However, as the boss grows up, people around him are persuading a child. What a heavy burden to grow up. Now that the society itself is under great pressure, I wavered and decided to have a second child.
Last year, my eldest daughter was seven years old and I was pregnant. Just one month pregnant, my father-in-law died of serious illness and owed about 20 thousand foreign debts. I want to check men and women when I am pregnant, but my husband won't let me. Both boys and girls will do. In April this year, Bauer came, still a daughter. The cause of the epidemic, the boss didn't go to school in the first half of the year, and my mother-in-law and I took two children. Every day, the boss hugs Bauer. Go shopping, too Mom, hurry up. My sister must be in a hurry with grandma. I just sleep at night. I take them with me. The two children also looked at each other and fell asleep. As long as the second child is sleeping, even if he shouts at the boss, he will turn on the mute and cry. I said why he didn't make any noise, and the boss said he was afraid to disturb his sister. If you have food, you must ask, can my sister eat it?
I quite agree to have a second child. Every child is a gift from his parents. It is very easy for children to receive love, but it is very difficult to share love. We can't be with children all our lives. It is good to have multiple brothers and sisters. I have never regretted having a second child, at least not now.
Each has its own. All right.
With children, parents will pour all their love into a child, and the living conditions of the child will be better. After all, when two adults earn money and send flowers to a child, many wishes of the child will be satisfied by their parents.
However, parents should also be careful not to indulge their children just because there is only one child at home, and spoil them like killing them. At this time, parents should set up a good three views for their children and let them face life positively and optimistically.
The only child is relatively self-centered, and parents are used to it at home. When they leave the society, no one will spoil you like their family, so parents should also teach their children to share and bear.
Parents will never accompany their children forever, and one day they will grow old and die. If there is only one child, they will be lonely when their parents are away. Although they will get married and have children when they grow up, no one can give friendship between mother and fetus.
If you have two children, there will be some pressure, and the living conditions of the two children will probably not be better than when you were a child. Although parents love each child the same, when a bowl of water is flat, it will definitely be slightly biased to which side. Parents are unfair to it, will it be jealous?
When we are young, it is inevitable that we will be jealous. When we were young, we earned money with our brothers and sisters.
But when we grow up, we will understand the friendship between brothers and sisters. That's the feeling that I will stand with you no matter what. Brothers and sisters are gifts from parents. When your parents are not around, you will feel that your loved ones are still around.
It is better to have two children.
Although the burden on the family is greater when the child is young, it will be much better when the child grows up, and the burden will be smaller when he is old. If a child's parents are old, the pressure of support is very great.
A few years ago, the family planning policy was relatively tight, and many families responded to the party's call and only wanted one child. Now that the birth policy has been relaxed, many families have added many second children.
Judging from the current family situation, for the average family, the pressure of having a second child is not great. In our countryside, most young people have a second child. Young people living in cities may face greater pressure. The cost of raising a child and the future education cost of the child are very high. But the difficulty is only in the past few years, and it will be much better when the children are older.
A family with two children is always much more lively than a family with only one child. When you are old and your grandchildren are around, you won't feel lonely. Especially in the matter of providing for the aged, it is much better for two children to take turns to take care of their parents than for one child.
For the sake of their own and children's future, it is better to have more children.
Adults with children have a light burden. In the future, the burden of children supporting the elderly is very heavy, and the children will bear it alone.
Adults with two or more children have a heavy burden. In the future, the burden of children supporting the elderly will be light. Having brothers and sisters to share is the advantage of having two children.
I am now transitioning from the hardship of having two children to the comfort of having two children.
However, it is different from my time now. At that time, it cost less to bring up children to adulthood. Now, the burden is heavier
If you have a second child, you really have to consider your own economic strength and whether it is allowed.
If you don't let the baby be born, you will accompany us to live a hard life.
Have more children and do what you can.
This is my personal idea, I hope I can help you!
It is better to have one or two children, which has to be discussed with my wife. After all, she is the one who gave birth to the child, and she is also the one who takes care of the child most of the time.
Therefore, no matter how many children are born, it is the mother who pays the most!
If there are two children at home, they can grow up, study and play together, and they can have a companion, which makes the family more lively. In today's society, although there is great pressure in all aspects, it is better to have two children.
Previous families were all families with many children, and the neighbors were sons. Usually, his son is obviously superior in food, clothes and use.
And when their husband and wife are old, this sense of superiority gradually disappears.
His mother was paralyzed in bed because of illness. First, his father takes care of his mother and his son can go to work.
Not long after, my father was poisoned by gas, and both old people needed someone to take care of them, which made my son very tired and in a hurry.
My son said that I have accumulated mental fatigue in recent years, and I am alone, without brothers and sisters, or even with anyone to discuss. Don't just have one!
In the past, it was advocated to have only one good child. After so many years, the society is aging seriously, and everyone is encouraged to have more children. Now, three children have been opened.
The two children in our family, you can't live without her, and he can't live without you. Every Sunday, you look forward to his return, and he keeps delicious food for you. These two children are best friends.
However, another family has a child. When adults are busy, children are lonely and no one plays, so they often come to our house to play. If they have two children, they won't run out often.
Let's just say that if you only have one child because of the pressure, of course, the child will be fully raised.
Some parents have little pressure to educate and buy a house, but they are likely to regret having only one child when they are old, and they are in good health. If you are sick or something, the child may be on a business trip or can't get away from work at all. At this time, the patient can only sigh, but it will be different if two or three children are born. Then there is the child, who can easily form a self-centered psychology.
If you want a child, you must be strong enough to give him a complete home, a happy childhood and a perfect educational experience. If you can't guarantee it, it is not recommended to have children. Otherwise, if you are tired, the child will be more tired.
Yesterday afternoon, I stood in line at the bank to deposit money. There are many people. In front of me, there is a 60-year-old grandfather. After waiting for about half an hour, it was finally his turn. Uncle took the passbook to withdraw money, and the bank staff asked him to enter the password. He said he didn't know the password. Later he called her daughter and asked for the password. But Cary only has 900 yuan. He said to get 2000 for him to sign. He said no, the bank staff said impatiently. At your age, you should let your children help you with these businesses. Look at the line in the back. The people in the queue at the back also joined in talking about him.
The old man suddenly choked up and said, "Do you think I don't want my children to come? But my two sons, one died in a car accident, one died of illness, and a daughter-in-law had a granddaughter. After the son died, the daughter-in-law took the child away. He also has a daughter who is not in the same city as her. Although her daughter is very filial, she has her own children and a life. Besides, he can't call his daughter for everything. My wife has long since left, which is why the society is good and there is a minimum living allowance, so I can't afford to eat or drink. " The tearful look of the old man is really distressing, and everyone is talking about coming forward to help.
I think each has its advantages and disadvantages.
With children, the pressure on the average family will be less, and then parents will pour all their love into one child, and many wishes of the child will be satisfied.
But the disadvantage of the only child is that he is too lonely, so he can only play with his parents at home, and then play with toys or watch cartoons by himself. It will be lonely.
Only children are relatively easy to be self-centered. At home, he is spoiled by his parents, grandparents and grandparents, so he can't stand on his own feet correctly. Therefore, parents should establish a correct outlook on life from childhood, and don't spoil him blindly.
Also, parents can't stay with their children forever, and one day they will leave before their children. Children are lonely. Moreover, parents are old, and some things can't be discussed with brothers and sisters, so they can only face them alone.
If you have two children, the pressure on parents will be relatively greater when you are young, but having two children at home will be more lively, and parents will treat them equally and will not be partial.
I remember quarreling and fighting with my brother when I was a child. But no matter how loud the noise is, it does not affect our previous feelings at all.