Here are some suggestions for parents to take their children to the sunny side of life.
1. Give him some time to stare blankly and wander around.
Successful children are usually happy. However, while helping children prepare for future challenges, you must restrain yourself and don't fill their time with various activities. In an era when adults are shouting for decompression, children also need the same stress-free space to breathe between various training courses and courses.
Give them some time to gawk at the clouds in the sky. This kind of activity that seems boring to you is actually the time when children's imagination is fully active. Let them catch small insects, make a strange snowman, or watch spiders weave webs freely. These activities will give your children a chance to explore the world and pursue happiness by themselves.
What about you? Why not try to take some time out of your busy schedule and join the children's happy team? From helping my son bathe to counting stars in the yard, happiness is everywhere.
2. Teach him to help people around him
An important principle of happiness is to make children feel that they are a valuable member of the family and the surrounding environment. Their behavior is very meaningful and can affect the lives of others. To make your child feel this way, you need to create more opportunities for him to help others. For example, sort out toys that he no longer needs with his children and donate them to welfare homes or other children in need.
Even very young children can feel the joy of helping others. There are many welfare institutions specially set up for children abroad, and the most popular activity of these institutions is to teach children to fill teddy bears with discarded cloth strips at home. Even children who are only 2 or 3 years old will be happy to help glue the bear's eyes and mouth and give them to children in welfare homes.
3. More sports activities
Did you have a snowball fight or go skiing with your children last winter? In addition, chasing with children in the park and taking them hiking in the suburbs ... These activities are not only to increase children's physical strength and strength, but also to give him a chance to laugh happily. These activities to keep children active help to reduce stress and let children breathe in a healthier way.
Children who are physically and mentally healthy will have a more positive understanding of their own image: they are proud of what they can accomplish, rather than anxious about their looks. If you can encourage your child to take part in an activity he loves, it will actually give him more ways to keep looking for happiness.
laugh out loud (LOL)
When the family is together, tell more jokes, sing those ridiculous songs, or make a self-deprecating joke. Laughter is good for you and your children. One of the benefits is purely physical: when you laugh loudly, you release tension and inhale more oxygen, which will make you energetic and in high spirits in a short time.
5. Create more ways to praise.
When your child has made progress, mastered a new skill, or completed a certain task, don't simply say "good boy" or "well done".
Praise is sometimes a skill. You should be specific and point out the specific details that you think the child has done well, such as: "I like the hero in your story, he is really great!" " "You painted this tree really well!" This is much better than just patting the child on the shoulder.
At the same time, don't overdo it when praising and rewarding. The mother of a 6-year-old child said, "In the past, I gave my child a small prize every week because he did a good deed. Later, I found out that he was most concerned about the award itself, not doing things well. " Actually, the reward is not important. It is important to teach children the sense of satisfaction brought by a sense of accomplishment.
6. Ensure that children eat the "right" delicious food.
If your child shows a grumpy, uneasy or willful mood, then he may be hungry. If it's not time for dinner, you can give him some snacks, but remember to be nutritious.
A correct diet can relieve mood swings and is beneficial to physical and mental health. For children, the most suitable snacks and snacks should be: low-fat yogurt, fresh fruit or preserved fruit, and of course whole wheat bread with a little peanut butter or fruit on it, which children will definitely like.
7. Explore his inner artistic world
You must have heard a lot about the benefits of music, for example, classical music helps children's brain development and so on. In fact, it is beneficial to expose children to any art form, including music and dance, which can enrich their inner world and help them find their own value.
In addition, art can also bring children a sense of accomplishment. When they finish a painting or learn to play a piece of music, they will feel happy and more confident.
8. Don't be stingy with your smile to the children.
Give your child a relaxed and knowing smile, and the comfort your child feels may be beyond your imagination. Shy oriental parents may not always say "I love you" to their children, so smile instead. Your baby will definitely get a message of love from the middle. (Of course, with hugs, the effect will be better. A psychologist once had an interesting saying that a person needs at least four hugs every day to survive, eight hugs can make his life better, and 16 hugs can keep his life developing. Actually, all these smiles and hugs are not only for children, but also for parents.
9. Did you listen to the children carefully?
The most effective way to make children feel their importance is to pay full attention to his performance, because this will make him feel that you attach importance to him. Want to be a good listener? Remember to give the child ears. If you are busy with other things while the child is talking to you, you must stop and turn your attention to the child. Don't interrupt him, don't interrupt him, and don't rush him-even if you have heard him say it once.
Also, learn to seize the golden opportunities to communicate with your child, such as riding a bike with your child or sitting beside his bed before he goes to bed.
10. Give up all perfect ideas.
We all want our children to do their best, but if parents try to help them correct or "clean up" their own imperfect results, it will actually damage their self-confidence.
You ask your child to clean the table, and then you clean it again. This is actually telling the child that you are not doing well. More unfortunately, children will gradually believe that I am really not doing well.
The next time you try to help your child correct what he has done, remember to ask yourself: * If you don't do this, will it affect your child's health or safety? * If you don't do this, what will happen one year later? If the answer is "no", then you'd better give up. You may think it is the responsibility of parents to help their children master more skills, but remember, this is only part of being parents. The emotional connection between you and your child is far more important than whether he cleans the table or not.