What we should worry about is: Are children really capable in the future, and are there many choices to choose from?
In fact, our generation and our parents have no choice. Because we are trapped by the social environment and the public's cognition, it has become our only choice to "get ahead in school to gain secular recognition" since childhood. Therefore, everyone envies Gao, because his mother told him that "there are poems and distant places besides now", so his life is arbitrary and colorful.
If parents have limited knowledge and still explain life, success and happiness to their children in the same way, then the children they may raise will not have the right to choose freely in the future. They seem to be free to choose, but because their personal thinking, ability and vision are already there, these things accumulated and shaped in the process of growing up restrict him. They seem to have a choice, but they actually have no choice. Just like most of us (parents of children), we get good grades, go to a good school and finally find a "good job". But where are the so-called good jobs in various occupations? If you are all looking for jobs to make a living, then all the jobs will lead to the same goal.
What do parents need to do to give their children "real" freedom of choice in the future?
1. Parents should enhance their understanding of the relationship between life, career and happiness. ? The choice of parents or children is nothing more than expecting their children to be happy in the future. As parents, we should first make clear our understanding of the relationship between life, career and happiness. What kind of career is successful? What kind of life is happiness? The way and angle parents interpret these problems will have a far-reaching impact on their children. For example, if parents have a high-level and low-level career in mind, children will not be so free to choose in the future. 2. Cultivate children's ability to read and think independently. I have always thought that a child who loves reading and thinking should not have a bad life. Even if he leads an ordinary life, his heart will be rich.
Reading can promote independent thinking. Children with independent thinking ability generally know what kind of person they want to be and what kind of life they want to live in the future. Parents of such children basically do not have to worry too much.
3. Pay attention to enthusiasm and help children explore and cultivate enthusiasm. Look around you and ask how many people like their jobs. How many students have chosen their own careers after leaving universities, whether it is a first-class college or an ordinary college?
Whether children can live happily in the future has nothing to do with whether parents choose a career or not, and whether children choose a career or not is only related to whether this career is their passion.
Enthusiasm is a dynamic "internal drive" and an inexhaustible source of energy. With it, your life can begin, just like Jobs, Bill Gates, Bill Joy and others. Enthusiasm can make people spontaneously challenge difficulties, make people devote themselves to 10000 hours without being tired, and make people feel satisfied and happy.
It can be said that if you have no enthusiasm for your career, you are doomed to be as sad as living in hell.